Sometimes, because we pay too much attention to superficial safety and ignore intangible psychological needs, even if the child's innate conditions are excellent, it can't get the development it deserves. When children want to run and play, adults will forbid it for fear of injury. In this case, children will develop the habit of inactivity, become physically late, weak and sick, and their intellectual development will inevitably be hindered, and their personality will become timid, lack of self-confidence and unable to face difficulties. We should understand that caring is spiritual communication, not behavioral intervention. Excessive intervention will not only disgust the child, but also hinder his development potential.

2. Don't spoil too much

Obey the child's request and do everything for him. Children don't have to do anything, so it is easy to become self-centered, willful, dependent, late-maturing, intolerant and unable to take care of themselves. Even if it seems gentle on the surface, when children grow up and need to face difficulties, personality mutations may occur.

Parents' arranged substitution is one of the important reasons for children's weak personality. Some parents are obedient to their children and don't let them do anything. This is tantamount to depriving children of the opportunity for self-expression, leading to the atrophy of their independent living ability. ...

3. Quit "seedling encouragement"

The younger the child is, the less the basic movements are affected by study or training. Regardless of the child's development, forcing him to learn to stand early, learn to walk, and learn to write ... causes a serious imbalance between the child's body and mind, leading to problems such as bad temper, anxiety, indifference, and retreat. At the same time, he refused to study and didn't know how to live in harmony with others.

4. Avoid excessive autocracy

Regularly regulating children's actions in an authoritative tone, restricting his freedom and denying his ideas will make children in a state of panic for a long time, unable to express themselves, and only know that they are passive and unhappy in Nuo Nuo; And make him lose self-confidence, become nervous and insecure, face things at a loss, lose the courage to try new things, etc. In addition, children will bully younger children in order to vent their dissatisfaction. When children grow up, they are more likely to bear a grudge against us and vent their accumulated dissatisfaction back to us.

Parents often have two psychological States when disciplining their children: one is to regard their children as private property and have absolute authority over them; Second, parents regard their children as the reappearance of their own ideals, hoping that their children can realize their own ideals, but they don't. Therefore, parents' ideal is to instill their own life experience into their children in an attempt to make them obey their father's instructions. Rude press nbsp

5. Don't be hard on your face.

Children can't feel our serious love, and putting on a stern face will only make him flinch from you. We should avoid blaming him in harsh language. Even if he doesn't do well enough, we should give him gentle advice to make him easy to accept.

Many parents have high expectations for their children, but they are stingy in praising them. They often put on an elder face and blame their children, thinking that this is education, but in fact they ignore the wonderful educational effect brought by praise. Proper praise can produce many educational effects. ...

6. Don't neglect the advantages of children.

I feel that children have no strengths, and even if they do, they take it for granted, so that they can't play out.

China people are modest, don't praise their children in front of others, and sometimes criticize them casually. In fact, our evaluation of children is the basis for him to establish his self-image. If you often mention your own shortcomings, children will doubt their abilities, which will not only affect their self-confidence, but even determine that they are useless and less enterprising.

Praise should be timely, and parents should praise the behavior of praise in time. Otherwise, children won't know why they are praised, so they won't have any impression on this kind of praise, and they won't strengthen good behavior. Compliments should be specific. The more specific the praise, the easier it is for children to understand what good behavior is, and the easier it is to find the direction of their efforts. ...

7. Don't ignore the child's speech.

Children like to ask questions, and we will feel annoyed and interrupt the child or shut him up; Children will be asked questions, but we often speak for them. This will deprive children of the opportunity to practice speaking, leading to poor self-expression ability, and children will gradually stop talking to us, which will seriously affect parent-child communication.

When talking to children, it will be much better to create a harmonious atmosphere, tell jokes and happy things, and close the emotional distance. ...

8. Don't nag your children often.

I mistakenly thought that if I told my child a few more times, he would know what to do. Even when comforting a child, he will endlessly point out his shortcomings and remind him what to do, while ignoring the child's difficulties. Children will inevitably feel numb and become lifeless and have no self-confidence. Besides, nagging will make you grumpy and out of control.

Learn to use artistic language. If you must say it repeatedly, then remind me in a nagging tone. Nagging is boring and easy to get angry, but the tone of the reminder sounds very helpful, indicating that you are on the side of the child. Effectively provide children with freedom of choice. ...

9. Don't laugh, don't be picky.

Picking on a child, often saying his shortcomings and being mean, laughing at him for being "clumsy" and "useless" with swearing words, or even scolding the child in front of others will make him feel humiliated, seriously damage his self-esteem, become inferior and cowardly, think that he really has no ability to do things well and dare not develop his own potential, thus his memory and creativity will be greatly reduced, and he will become withdrawn, timid and lack of self-confidence. You know, once a child's self-esteem is hurt, it will take a long time, or even it will never be rebuilt. Another possibility is that children will resent us, not only disrespect you, but also find opportunities for revenge when they grow up.

10, don't lose your temper with the children.

Parents' emotional instability and tantrums will make their children's personality distorted and their behavior extreme: First, they will become rebellious, indifferent to right and wrong, and lack a sense of responsibility; Or become autistic and insecure; May also like to lose his temper.