However, parents' psychology and behavior of expecting their children to succeed have never changed.

Parents begin to design their children's future according to their own wishes before they enter school.

Children have a heavy burden since childhood, rushing between various training classes and super-long classes. Parents do not hesitate to buy various musical instruments, painting tools, books and materials, school supplies, etc. For their children.

Many families keep in touch with each other. Parents feel it is an honor to watch other people's children attend a training class. Their own children will go anyway, but they never consider and take care of their actual abilities and hobbies.

Forcing children to participate in various trainings and studies deprives them of almost all sundays and holidays.

Some parents are always dissatisfied with their children's grades, and always want their children's grades to be in the forefront of their classes and grades, so they use weekends and holidays to make up for it, invite tutors and buy materials. Under the strict discipline of parents, children can only bear hardships and study hard according to their own wishes.

This practice of parents will undoubtedly form an invisible high-voltage net in children's hearts. In the long run, it will dry up this clear spring of the soul.

Every parent wants his child to be a dragon. In order to let their children go to famous schools and stand out from other children, parents really tried their best to take their children everywhere to study and coach, making them miserable and at a loss.

Some parents control their children's play and limit their space in order to let them have more time and energy to devote to their studies, so that they can face the walls and books all day. This will only make their children lonely, closed and afraid of interacting with others.

Faced with such a distorted education phenomenon that violates the law of children's growth, we have to calmly think about its internal reasons: the reason for this situation is not only that parents lack a scientific concept of parenting, but also the idea of quick success and instant benefit, and sometimes it is a helpless choice.

First, children's education is a real top priority for parents, but now choosing a school has become the first high wall in front of parents. Starting from kindergarten, the school is divided into three levels. Who wants to send their children to the worst school? In order to make children have a relatively fair and good learning environment, parents need to make every effort. On the one hand, they should actively strive for relations in all aspects; On the other hand, in order to achieve the "merit-based admission" conditions of prestigious schools, children are forced to study hard and study hard.

Second, children are the hope and sustenance of parents. Many parents pin their unrealized dreams on their children, so they try their best to design their children's study and life. At present, there is such a description of children's education in society: "Kindergarten is a primary school, primary school is a junior high school, junior high school is a high school, and high school is a hot spot." This description vividly reflects the tragic phenomenon of quick success and instant benefit in education. This phenomenon is not only bad for children's growth, but also makes many children become nerds with high scores and low abilities.

Many children are withdrawn, rebellious, inferior, selfish, violent, eccentric and closed, which are actually directly related to improper family and school education.

Many children run away from home under the oppression and coercion of their parents, confront their parents, and even kill their mothers and commit suicide. These bloody facts are accusing the educational tragedy of quick success and instant benefit.

It is normal for parents to expect their children to succeed. However, in actual education, parents often demand more from their children than "normal". Overloaded stress can lead to mental decadence or even collapse of children. Long-term imprisonment and high pressure will gradually turn children into people with rigid thinking, loss of will and loss of self. This kind of education not only sacrifices parents' time, energy and money, but also deprives children of happiness and happiness, and the result will only outweigh the benefits.

As parents, they should fully understand their children's hobbies, learning conditions and psychological needs in their daily lives, so as to make the best use of the situation and let their children become talents. In education, parents need to keep a normal mind and not compare with others. Dont Ask For Help, children should not be judged by their achievements. Correctly guide children to do what they want to do most, what they like to do most, and what they can do best. As long as they have the ability to stand on their own feet, they will live a healthy and happy life in the future. Don't expect too much from many children. You know, the higher the expectation, the greater the disappointment. The lower the expectation, the more surprises. Maybe you will find that your children are really excellent.

The Excellence of children is cultivated little by little, and the ability of children is accumulated little by little.

Only when parents establish a correct concept of parenting and have a normal mind can children's potential and characteristics be truly stimulated and tapped. Don't follow the laws of education and children's growth, and don't let children lose at the starting line. In fact, the child has long lost at the starting line.