Cultivating strong, brave, confident and sunny children has become an important part of family education. Every parent wants to train and shape his son into a man with indomitable spirit. But in our life, many boys show introverted and timid behaviors, such as: some children cry for a little thing; Or the exam results are not ideal, criticized by parents, just want to run away from home; Or the teacher asks questions in class, even if he knows, he dare not raise his hand to answer; Or when some children come to a new environment, they show signs of being inactive, timid and unwilling to play with other children ..... These phenomena are all manifestations of self-confidence and also a psychological phenomenon. Timid, introverted boys are easily ignored or discriminated by the outside world, often feel inferior, afraid to look up and speak loudly, or even dare to express their ideas. When you get older, you may even become self-enclosed, and you may become a pessimist, which will affect your normal study and life. Then, the main reason why children are timid and introverted is improper family education, because many facts have proved that children's personality characteristics often depend on their parents. Parents adopt inappropriate educational methods in the process of forming their children's character. As soon as the child heard the thunder, he immediately put his arm around the child and kept saying, "Don't be afraid, mom is here!" " "Either parents often scare their children in order to make naughty children obedient; Some parents often take it out on their children when they come home from work. Some parents only care about their children's study and hardly let them communicate with others; Some parents live at the bottom of society, and their social status and economic income are not high. They usually speak and do things intentionally or unintentionally, showing inferiority complex ... Over time, children will become timid, timid, and follow Nuo Nuo's lead, and even lose confidence and courage! Children will face a complex competitive society in the future. If they are introverted and timid from an early age and can't do anything independently, it will directly affect their communication with others and will lose many opportunities to learn and try new things. Every child is different, only parents know children best, and only parents can open their hearts. How to get children out of "timidity" and become sunny and confident? First of all, our parents should be patient and try to find out the reason why their children are timid. It's better not to force him, but to treat him gently. First, encourage children to bravely do what they can. No matter what they do, don't stop his action. Instead, teach children some skills and methods, let them experience the fun of labor, give them proper praise and encouragement, and improve their self-confidence. Don't be afraid of children being hurt, because we can't protect children for life. Only by letting him learn to be brave can he protect his life (in real families, some parents spoil their children too much and often do everything for them. When children encounter difficulties, what they think of is not how to overcome them, but how to ask their parents for help. Parents should guide their children to overcome and overcome difficulties by themselves. )。 Secondly, in daily life, children can be presented to their families by singing, dancing, reciting ancient poems and telling stories. When children behave well, give them positive language: "You sing beautifully, like a lark"; Or "The baby draws really well! Give me a collection! "Even if the child doesn't want to perform, we must never force him. Everything has an adaptation process. At this time, give the child a step: "Are you not ready today? "Then perform another day!" At the same time, in order to alleviate the child's anxiety, you can also give him a hug or smile. Thirdly, parents should encourage their children and build their self-confidence. Talk to your child as a friend and he will open his heart to you. After school, the child can ask him, "How did you get along with your classmates at school today?" "Do you like classmates to talk like this?" Let children think about how to express themselves exactly, let others understand my emotions and thoughts, and then "simulate" with children to improve their language skills. Finally, take more children and encourage them to participate in social activities. Teach children some skills in dealing with people, and help them find some partners with similar ages, hobbies and interests to play at home and play games together; Use holidays to take children to playgrounds, parks and places with many peers, and encourage children to actively communicate and play with others. Slowly, the child will not be timid. In short, it is an important task for our parents to cultivate sunny and confident children! In the process of cultivating them, we must pay attention to being kind to their young hearts and find suitable ways to help them be a sunny boy! Self-evaluation: A child is not naturally introverted. What he needs is the guidance and encouragement of his parents. We should infect children with an optimistic attitude! Maybe children won't be as sunny as those cheerful children for a while, but don't force them and give them proper time. They won't let us down!