A grumpy mother who yells at her children for a long time can only get her children alienated.
Ms. Jin is a working mother. Her child is 4 years old this year. Because of work, Ms. Jin is very busy every day. In addition to going to work every day, she has to pick up and drop off the children in the morning and evening, and even the housework can't be left behind.
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Heavy work, endless housework, and children's lives are all on Ms. Jin, which makes Ms. Jin, who was originally good-tempered, more and more irritable. As long as the child does something wrong, Ms. Jin can't control her temper and yell at the child.
At first, Ms. Jin felt that her behavior was inappropriate, worried that her behavior would hurt her feelings with her children and would take the initiative to apologize to her children.
But after a long time, Ms. Jin found that she had just finished yelling at the child. As soon as the child turns around, he will stick to himself and keep calling his mother, which makes Ms. Jin feel that the child has no grudge and usually doesn't care.
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But slowly, Ms. Jin found that the children were less and less concerned about her roar and less and less attached to themselves. At this time, Ms. Jin realized that she had really done something wrong.
Many treasure moms always think that after we yell at our children, they will stick to us as soon as they turn around. This is because children don't hold grudges, but do you know children? No resentment? What is the reason for the performance?
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Psychological reasons why children don't hold grudges.
1. Strong dependence on mother
There is such a news that a boy was abused by his mother and interviewed by reporters in the hospital, and his whole body was injured. When the reporter asked him? Do you hate your mother? ? The boy said:? I don't hate it, just call her, or I won't even have a mother? .
It turns out that the boy's parents divorced and his father didn't want him. He has been living with his mother. Faced with all kinds of pressures in work and life, the boy's mother always vented her temper on him, and even hit him with a hanger, but the boy really didn't want to leave her, so she would rather be beaten by her mother than leave.
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In fact, we can only say that children's dependence on their parents is really much stronger than we thought. When we yell at our children, they are willing to stay with their mothers even if they are in pain and angry. They think that mother is the closest person in the world and the warmest harbor.
2. Love your mother and forgive her.
After we yell at the child, will there be such psychological activities inside the child? Mom shouldn't do this on purpose. I love my mother. Should I forgive her? .
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When children have begun to understand, they will still turn around and stick to their mothers, often because of their love for their mothers. Because of love, they are willing to forgive their mother, so they will choose to forget their mother's roar.
They are numb to Ma Bao's roar.
When we face an irresistible grumpy person for a long time, we may choose to ignore them, which may be one of the reasons why children don't hold grudges.
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Because mom and dad have been yelling for a long time, the children are becoming more and more numb and disapproving. what do you think? No resentment? It is slowly formed. But when the child is really numb, it also shows that as parents, you really failed!
Bean sprouts have something to say.
Seeing this, Ma Bao should re-examine her attitude towards children. Whether you are really good for your children or take the opportunity to vent your pressure on yourself, this is no reason for us to lose our temper with our children.
A good boy is educated, not angry. Every time we yell at our children, they will stay away from us.
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When the child's heart is really far away from us, any dependence and love will disappear, leaving only the child's numbness and indifference. When you want to establish feelings with your children again, it will be really late.
Here, I want to advise parents who are always yelling at their children not to do things that really hurt them under the banner of thinking about their children! As adults, we should vent our emotions correctly, and don't let bad emotions affect children's growth.