There is a child in our class who is very resistant to music class. When other children sing, he always doesn't say a word. When the music teacher tutors alone, he refuses to speak. The music teacher was almost depressed and thought there was something wrong with his class.

Later, after a long period of communication, the child finally told the reason.

It turned out that when he was in the first grade, the school had to take an examination of singing. When the child was practicing at home, his mother said to him, "You are out of tune! Too ugly! " No one can imagine that such a sentence made him lose confidence in singing. The child also said that at the thought of performing and singing for everyone in class every day, even the school did not want to go.

Therefore, parents must pay special attention when using language. Such as "Why can't you do anything?" "You are so useless!" "You are so stupid!" ..... these are all "killer languages".

Especially if such language is spoken by parents, the blow to children will be doubled.

Moreover, "killer language" is not only the language of criticism.

Children's imagination is always rich when they are young, but the more they grow up, the more similar they become. This is also because parents always use "killer language" to interfere with their children's personalized development.

For example, when a child paints, parents will interfere with the shape and color of the child's painting. In fact, there is nothing wrong with giving purple leaves to children.

So as parents, we should make good use of language in family education and family communication.

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