1. The relationship between teachers and students is alienated. In the impression of many college students, university teachers are far less intimate with them than primary and secondary school teachers. Objectively speaking, university teachers are really busy. In addition to teaching tasks, they also undertake tasks such as scientific research, social service and policy consultation. Subjectively, some people think that only primary and secondary school teachers are around students all day, and universities are places to study, so teachers can pursue profound knowledge. As a result, the relationship between teachers and students in universities is simplified to the relationship between teaching and learning in class, and the teacher leaves in a hurry after class and disappears. There is no communication between teachers and students, and there is no emotional communication, let alone understanding. Some students even call the teacher "the most familiar stranger".
2. The teacher-student relationship is vulgarized. We are all very familiar with the profound meaning of the sentence "Teachers are the most glorious profession under the sun", and we also deeply understand that although the connotations of words like silkworms, candles, gardeners and ladders have changed with the development of the times, the lofty profession of teachers and the sacred relationship between teachers and students are still the core and purpose of this great profession. But the relationship between teachers and students will also become vulgar because of the secular brand. "Students usually look at the teacher's face in their grades, and teachers look at the students' faces in their teaching evaluation" has become such a vulgar and vivid portrait.
For a long time in the past, university education advocated teachers' dignity, with teachers above them and students all ears. The spring breeze of educational reform has injected new vitality into universities. Students are endowed with due rights through course selection and teaching evaluation, and their dominant position in learning is confirmed. This is an initiative to make education full of vitality, but it has been misinterpreted and abused by some teachers and students, so there have been various situations in which some teachers invite students to dinner and reduce the necessary requirements for students in order to get high marks. Some students will also get high marks (some pass), some honors and other benefits through material exchange with a utilitarian mentality.
3. The teacher-student relationship is rigid. The relationship between teachers and students should be vivid and spiritual, especially the profound knowledge, wise thinking, youthful vitality and creativity of college students, which have injected vitality into the relationship between teachers and students. However, once the teacher-student relationship is influenced by some factors, it will lose its vitality and become rigid. This situation is more common in two types of teachers: the first type is teachers with certain experience and believe in the dignity of teachers. They still insist that the teacher-student relationship is an old-fashioned relationship in which I speak and you listen and I take care of you. Even if they are affectionate and righteous to students, they are strict, unable to fully take into account their psychological characteristics and personality characteristics, and have a blunt attitude, so students tend to stay away from them. The second category is young teachers who lack knowledge and experience in interpersonal communication. Some young teachers have realized the transformation from students to teachers after having certain academic qualifications and knowledge, but there are obvious defects in interpersonal communication and classroom teaching art. Although they are not much different from the students in age, there is an obvious "generation gap" in communication. Faced with all kinds of communication relationships, they are at a loss and students are indifferent. Students' low evaluation of these two types of teachers aggravated the embarrassment of teacher-student relationship.
The rigidity of the teacher-student relationship is also generally manifested in the following aspects: first, the rigidity of the content, some teachers stress learning, lack of comprehensive attention to students' growth, and lack of life guidance for students; Second, the form is rigid. Some teachers simplify the relationship between teachers and students into preaching, which is basically that teachers talk and students listen and talk about things, lacking emotional communication and interaction; Third, the place is rigid, the communication between teachers and students is basically in the classroom, and there is a lack of in-class and out-of-class communication, especially not good at finding and creating a relaxed and natural communication environment.