The first case of love education
Without love, there is no education.
I. Cases
10 September, I was teaching in Class 7 (1), and the boy's name was Lu Mou. I found that although this student is a boy, he is shy and withdrawn. He seldom talks and associates with others, and he doesn't like answering questions in class. He always seems nervous about the teacher's active approach. To this end, I took the time to make a home visit. After understanding with his parents, his father reflected three main points: 1, and Lu was weak and sick since childhood, and he was the only child in the family. The whole family dotes on him and follows him with everything. As a result, he gradually formed a self-centered, autistic and unwilling to communicate with the outside world; 2. Lu's grades are good, but after entering junior high school, he went to Internet cafes every day, and the quality of his homework dropped sharply, and his grades gradually declined. When parents realize that children need immediate guidance, it's too late, saying that children can't live without games. Coupled with the doting of his elderly grandmother, he never lets his children take care of him, so his life is all online games, and his parents have given up, which makes him seldom communicate with his classmates outside.
Second, analysis
In view of Lu's various performances, I had many in-depth conversations with him and analyzed them with other teachers. Initially, the reasons for Lu's loneliness and solitude should be as follows:
1, family environment
Lu has a good family. His father rented a house outside for a long time and seldom went home. Even when I go home, I don't conflict with Lu, and my father and children rarely communicate with him. My mother works in a small township enterprise and often works overtime. Even when she saw the children playing games, she would casually ask if she had finished her homework, and then continue to do her housework. Grandmothers have no idea how to educate their children. As long as children are healthy, they need not worry about anything. Due to the long-term lack of communication and guidance between parents and children, I have been immersed in the home computer for a long time and are unwilling to associate with my classmates, so I chose the way of escape and my personality has become more and more withdrawn.
2, the surrounding environment of the home
Lu, who was originally in elementary school, did well in school, but after entering junior high school, he opened an Internet cafe not far from home. Hearing that students are always talking about the game content with great interest, Lu's psychology itches, and then there are the first and second times? Parents warned their children until they lost control, but because they were in charge of the children themselves and grandma was involved, family relations were very tense and parents had to give up. Even under the repeated entreaties of Lu, the family bought a computer for the children and connected the network cable. It is because of grandma's participation again and again that the children have their own? The backbone? More and more indulgent children. It is not a mistake to go home and take it for granted to play games.
Third, the solution
1, the family started from a family in Lu, and I mainly used three means.
(a) Maintain regular contact with his mother; Because Lu lacks communication and communication with his parents, he doesn't feel at home and his mental state is not easy to grasp. In order to better understand Lu's psychological trend, I communicate with his mother at least once every other week to get the latest information about him and use these information as the basis for planning facts. such as
101October 18, I learned in the communication that Lu was very excited about what I praised him in public two days ago, so I consciously gave him a chance to perform in my daily study and praised him in time. I also learned a little about his change from his mother's mouth.
(2) Educate their mothers; Because their parents didn't have a good understanding of educating their children and didn't realize the seriousness of the situation, I specially educated their mothers, pointing out that in the process of educating their children, we should establish a correct outlook on life and values, help them establish self-confidence in learning and life, and actively guide them out of the misunderstanding of education. Consciously talk and communicate with him in education, create a more relaxed family atmosphere, and often go out to play and relax with Lu on weekends, which greatly changes Lu's attitude towards life, and he is no longer always immersed in the illusory world, and his communication with his mother is gradually increasing.
2. Classmates
Some students in our class are very enthusiastic, and extracurricular activities and class team activities are very rich. To this end, I specially found three enthusiastic students, explained Lu's situation to them in a subtle way, and got their consent, asking them to give Lu more opportunities to participate in ordinary activities and make him feel a sense of belonging in Class 3 (1). Although I didn't specify how to act, the three students were very enthusiastic. They really helped Lu through their own actions.
3. Teachers
When asking the teacher for help, I made three suggestions: ask Lu more questions appropriately; Praise him as much as possible; Criticize his homework in person and so on. In that year's senior high school entrance examination, he got a high score of 498 with his own ability and successfully entered a high school, which also made his parents very happy.
Today, he is no longer isolated from the world, but as confident and cheerful as other students. Although I have paid a lot, I am proud to see an introverted little boy grow up healthily with your help.
Fourth, reflection.
At present, all the students in this class have basically entered high school, but when I look back and think about it carefully, I still have some reflections.
Psychological education of junior middle school students should pay attention to the following aspects.
First, respect the personality of students. Minors need to be respected just like adults. Therefore, when we are conducting psychological counseling, we must always prevent situations that hurt their self-esteem. Only by fully respecting their personality can we gradually cultivate students' self-esteem and self-confidence, overcome their psychological obstacles and make them develop healthily.
Second, psychological counseling should be patient. Students should be allowed to have psychological deviations, and at the same time, they should be given time to correct them and wait patiently. During this period, it is also allowed to repeat once, twice or even many times, so as a class teacher, you must have a high quality.
Finally, a sentence by Huo Maozheng, a famous educator in China, is the conclusion of this article. Without love, there is no education. ? When we study, educate and care for students with love, our education and management will become a rooted tree.
The second case of love education
Sincere love
Case background
? Big school? Integrating educational resources is a trend in today's times, which integrates and optimizes educational resources and is beneficial to collective teaching. Of course, everything has two sides, which not only improves the conditions for running a school, but also has a great influence on the students who were at school when they first entered school. From 20 10 to 12, due to various reasons, we also experienced a major career change and joined the central middle school. Our integration this time is in the middle of the semester, which undoubtedly has a great impact on students, teachers and daily teaching. Students, in particular, suddenly have to face a new environment and a new teacher. It is difficult for them to get out of the original environment, teaching methods and teaching models at once, integrate into new groups and accept new teachers. I encountered such a problem at the beginning of running a joint school.
Case theme
A letter has narrowed the distance between teachers and students, communicated with students in an appropriate way, and entered the hearts of students with sincere hearts.
Case content
There are several students with special personalities in the class I teach. Before they entered the school, they were naughty, and these children had great resistance to entering the school. I didn't pay special attention to it at first, because children will get used to it after a long time. But in the first class, these children gave me a fright. In class, they talked loudly at will and told me what the original teacher was like and didn't want to change teachers. I had to stop my normal teaching task and explain to them the advantages of co-education and how to face the future life. Such a lesson was delivered in my sermon. I think the next class will be fine, but next class, instead of getting better, several students interrupted my lecture in class and made a scene backstage. They didn't seem to listen to a word I said yesterday. what can I do? I thought at that time, if I was too soft on these children, I would play hardball. Don't you talk? I told you enough. Next, I didn't say another word.
Words, but watching the students say there. At this time, the classroom is much quieter, and this method is OK. In this way, I spent the next half hour in silence. When the bell rang and I walked out of the classroom, something happened that made me feel particularly sad and humiliated. As soon as I walked out of the classroom, the students? Bang? The children in the classroom slammed the door. Are they declaring war on me? At the same time, I also thought that I might be an unwelcome teacher in their hearts. Back in the office, I couldn't hold back my tears any longer. I have been teaching for so many years and have always been liked and loved by students. Being the object that students don't like for the first time is particularly touched by failure. I don't want to care about them anymore.
I'm still in a bad mood when I get home at night, and I can't complain to my family without a joint school. My family enlightened me and said? If you join a school, you will become like this, and that student can't stand it? . It was this sentence that calmed me down. Yes, I can't adapt to it as an adult, not to mention these rebellious young children. How can I argue with them? My main task now is how to deal with them and enter normal teaching as soon as possible, otherwise these children will be delayed.
I analyzed these children carefully. Although naughty, but naive, innocent and kind. I used to make my former teacher very angry, but now I still miss my former teacher very much. Their nature and character are not bad. It's just hard to accept me quickly. I think as long as I can treat them sincerely, I can impress them and walk into their hearts. Now the students are hostile to me, and I don't think they will listen to anything I tell him in class. If they want to calm down and communicate with me, they should think of a way they can't think of. So I thought of writing letters. With the prevalence of the information age, letters have been forgotten by people, but letters can make people calm down, listen and feel the contents of letters. Do it. I wrote this letter to the students with my true feelings.
Hello, class.
Although I meet my classmates every day, I still choose this special way to communicate with my classmates with complicated feelings.
? Bang? A loud noise behind me deeply hurt my heart. Back in the office, I couldn't hold back my inner grievances any longer, and I was in tears. After working for ten years, I have also been loved by many classmates, and now I am an unwelcome person. I was out of my mind before I had in-depth communication with my classmates. At this time, my heart is very sad. First, it is difficult to achieve good teaching results without the recognition of classmates. The most important thing is that it will harm my classmates, and the powerful teachers have already talked about it in class.
Students, in fact, our situation is the same this time. You left the excellent teacher who taught you, and there are many houses. I also left my old school and students, so it's hard to say goodbye. But this is a reality, not a reality that you and I can change and control. This is a test for us, and we must face it bravely. The road of life is long and bumpy, just a small depression on this road. If we can't even cross it, how can we meet greater challenges and continue our long road of life? The environment in which we live is constantly changing. We can't change the environment. We can only change ourselves and adapt to the environment.
In fact, in the first class, I felt the energy and vigor of my classmates. Some of you are beautiful, some are natural and unrestrained, some are positive, and some are bold and unrestrained, which I appreciate and like. I thought at that time that we would definitely do a good job in Chinese class. The second class, although not very pleasant, I saw pure truth and kindness from my classmates, which also gave me great confidence in getting along with my classmates. Students, in fact, your persistence and love for former teachers touched me. I think if I give my greatest love to my classmates, I will get your true feelings, don't you think? I really hope to walk into the hearts of my classmates and become your best friends.
I have regarded you as a friend, and I will tell you my confidence. First of all, I want to thank you, because I have a lot of discomfort after the joint school. Although I come to work every day, I force myself to get up and go to work every morning, without my original expectations and enthusiasm for work and teaching. Even for this kind of environment.
Full of disgust. But what happened today made me think a lot, and at the same time, my thoughts have changed a lot. I must cheer up, I should be strong, because I have you and you need me. At this moment, I have expectations for going to work. You have revived my enthusiasm.
As the saying goes? No fighting, no strangers? Of course, this metaphor is not appropriate, but I feel that through this episode, our feelings will get deeper and deeper.
These are my heartfelt words. Why should I communicate with you in this way? Mainly because I am a temperamental person, I'm afraid I can't control my feelings. I hope the students can write to the teacher without your true feelings. As long as we put our heart into it, we will certainly collide with beautiful sparks.
At this time, the bell of 12 has already rung. You may have fallen asleep, but I can't sleep, thinking that I am looking forward to the sunrise tomorrow and I can go to our class soon.
Your Chinese teacher is 20 10. 12.438+05.
The next day in class, I didn't give a lecture at first, but gave this letter to the monitor and asked her to read it to the students. The students were curious and listened carefully. By the time I finished reading, the monitor was already sobbing, and all the students below were sobbing on the table. At this moment, I only said one sentence to the students:? Students, this is my whole truth? , and then start class. The classroom effect of this class is very good, and the students study hard. In the following life, my relationship with students is getting better and better.
Case reflection
1. Communication is an art. As a teacher, we should constantly explore communication methods that make students more acceptable and understandable according to specific situations and different communication objects. When there is a contradiction between the teacher and the students, the students refuse the teacher's preaching. No matter what the teacher says in class, students can always find reasons to refuse. At the same time, students also have a kind of presupposition to the teacher's practice, and there is also a targeted hostile consciousness in the subconscious. At this time, as a teacher, you should break this mindset and make a difference.
Not surprising. Students will definitely think that the teacher will criticize them because of anger in the next class, and they will have strategies to deal with the teacher in their hearts. At that time, I didn't criticize and educate them directly in class, but gave the monitor a letter, which the students didn't expect. The students never thought that the teacher would write to them every day when they met. At the same time, letters are a new way of communication for them, and they are full of curiosity about the contents of teachers' letters. Therefore, when the monitor is reading the letter, the students give up their inner resistance and can listen to the content calmly and seriously. It has a good educational effect on pedagogy students. There are various ways to communicate with students, which are characterized by diversity, practicality, flexibility, variability and universality. Different ways will produce different effects. It is necessary to seek truth from facts, analyze the specific situation and learn more about the individual and group situation of students. Different people, targeted, just like doctors prescribe the right medicine for patients.
Second, treat students sincerely. Sincerity is the bridge of spiritual communication. Only by controlling sincerity can we generate a spark of trust. For teenage middle school students, although rebellious, immature. However, they have a pure and kind heart. If teachers treat each other with sincerity and sincerity, they can feel the teacher's concern and respect, and also show sincerity to the teacher. It took me two hours to write this letter in the evening, which was also written when I was emotional. The content is from the heart. Only in this way can students feel that sincerity and have good results. Education is the process of spiritual contact between teachers and students, and the sincere feelings between teachers and students are cultivated in love and sincerity, which is the philosophy of teaching and educating people.
The third case of love education
In the name of love, irrigate with love
Background analysis
William? James has a famous saying: the deepest principle of human nature is to hope others appreciate you. ? Appreciation education refers to the educational behavior in which teachers tap students' advantages and highlights in the process of education and teaching, and give them encouragement and praise in time, so as to stimulate students' initiative and subjectivity, make students internalize educational requirements into conscious behaviors, and promote students' healthy and positive development. Appreciation education for students is the best way to urge them to exert their abilities to the limit, and it is also an effective way to encourage them to establish self-confidence and succeed. A growing child's body changes all the time, and sometimes, this change is the opposite. Children are changing and developing, and teachers' ideas should also keep up with the changes and development of children. Only by treating every child with a sincere heart can we guide students to acquire knowledge, and at the same time, we are duty-bound to act as children's mental health doctors, safeguard their mental health and make their personality develop soundly. We are like a quiet spring rain, guiding their growth. Love is a beautiful and eternal theme of human beings. Human beings need love, society needs love, education needs love and children need love. Don't give up the cultivation and transformation of students because of some shortcomings.
Case description
In the middle of the succession, student Jin was completely uninterested in learning, did not do his homework, was playful in class, and his test scores were often single digits. The teacher has a headache and the classmates are annoyed. The teacher's painstaking education has little effect. I didn't give up on him. I approached him and helped him. I lowered my requirements for him in my study and adopted it? Small steps and hard work? Way, patient consultation. I made the following agreement with him: Answer a simple question correctly and you will be rewarded with 2 points. In order to get reward points, he began to write carefully in class. Although he often can't control himself, he has changed. Dictation can't meet the requirements, but it has made progress. Every time I win the prize, he throws envious eyes at his classmates and sighs gently. I found his advantages of pursuing progress and eager to be recognized, and communicated with him in time. There is progress! How about the teacher check your spelling twice? If you are right, you will be rewarded with 5 points? He nodded in reply to me. Every time he goes to the classroom, he always takes the initiative to bring me the book: teacher, I rewrote it! When will you check? Since then, he has won many awards and his heart is full of joy. He finished all his homework at once. I gave him double bonus and exemption from handing in homework. There was thunderous applause in the classroom, and the students cheered spontaneously! It was the first time that Kim was right, and he shed tears of excitement. I deeply realize that appreciation education for children is an effective way to promote children's self-confidence and success, and also a good way to cultivate students' creative thinking. I think Xiaoming has completely changed for the better. The good times didn't last long. Just after the Chinese class, a girl tearfully reported: Teacher, I left my pen on the table after class, and I can't find it when I come back. It was only on Sunday that my father spent more than 30 yuan on it! ? I immediately realized that there was something in the class? Thief? How to solve the problem without hurting students! I made an investigation immediately. Class is over, only Xiaoming didn't go out to play. Many students asked to check Kim's schoolbag. I said carefully: maybe a classmate took it and didn't have time to say it. It will be sent back after class. ? Kim hung his head. After class, I took the whole class to the health area to clean up and put him in charge of cleaning the blackboard. After school in the morning, the girl found me: Teacher, I found my pen. ? I had a long talk with him: Kim, you can't just take other people's things. Tell the teacher if you have any difficulties and the teacher will help you solve them. ? He admitted his mistake with tears and promised not to repeat it.
cause analysis
Kim, who has a bad code of conduct, lacked maternal love since childhood because of his parents' divorce. Does his father believe it? Bonzi education? Pay less attention to him, communicate less emotionally, and find bad habits without beating or scolding, so that children can grow up.
Develop a withdrawn and playful introverted personality and rarely make friends. But I am eager to get the recognition of teachers and classmates, but? Bad habits? It's hard to change Dad sometimes doesn't care enough about him. He has something he likes and has no money to buy, which leads to stealing and even doing things he shouldn't do.
Measures and methods
In this case, I will start with cognition, emotion, will and behavior, and start with details. From easy to difficult, I used the method of rewarding points to stimulate his nature of pursuing progress and longing for recognition in his studies, and gradually changed his bad habits. Especially in collective education, he was praised by teachers and classmates for his hard work and felt the warmth of the group, which made him establish prestige and self-confidence in learning in the class. Secondly, theft is often related to poor family education and personal lack of self-control. After finding out the motivation of students' stealing behavior, I give priority to positive education, and pay attention to protecting children's self-esteem while maintaining children's self-esteem. Teachers should respect children's personality and protect children's self-esteem. At all times, they should adhere to positive education and tap children's positive factors. They should not make psychological blows, corporal punishment in disguised form, say things they shouldn't say, be sarcastic and reprimand. It is not appropriate to adopt the principle of keeping secrets for students, and guide their emotions and behaviors to develop in a good direction on the premise of protecting their self-esteem. As Suhomlinski said:? Exposing a student's shortcomings and faults to the collective is a very meticulous matter, which requires great discretion, attention to methods and high skills. The influence exerted by the collective on the individual should be to let students know themselves and be responsible for themselves. ? I just simplified and humanized the incident and played the role of borrowing stones from other mountains.
effect analysis
Due to family and other reasons, Kim is willful, lonely, selfish, lying and emotionally unstable. If teachers let themselves go, it is easy to cause various problems. ? Children's growth needs appreciation. Without appreciation, there is no education. ? Finding students' bright spots is the key to appreciation education. Teachers should have a pair? Eye of fire? He is good at capturing the bright spots on students and refining them into glittering gold. He appreciated, accepted and loved every student around him with a positive attitude, and lost no time in cheering for their little progress. Did Kim adopt it in the study? Small steps and diligence? Incentive measures are better than criticism and education. After all, children are still children. No one is perfect. What's the matter? After the theft, when I found the wrong person, I was glad that I didn't teach him a lesson and didn't handle it with colored glasses. However, under the premise of protecting students' self-esteem, students should truly realize their mistakes, keep them in mind and play their due educational role. I handled this matter calmly and skillfully, which allowed Xiaoming to correct his mistakes in time with a normal attitude and laid the foundation for his healthy growth in the future.
Theoretical exposition
Appreciation is a kind of understanding, but also an incentive. Appreciation education is a good educational method based on recognizing and respecting differences. As long as we can truly understand them, respect them and appreciate them, students will grow up happily in the process of being appreciated. Xiao Ming, who is introverted, withdrawn and self-abased, is eager to be appreciated. He was neglected and didn't get the care and appreciation he deserved. Facing these students, relying on teachers? Alone? , the effect is not ideal. Only by taking teachers as the leading factor can we create an atmosphere, create a group appreciation scene and give full play to the role of students? Working together? Role, can get twice the result with half the effort. ? A tree, if the flowers are not bright, may have green leaves; If the flowers and leaves are not beautiful, maybe the branches will grow out of order; If the flowers, leaves and branches are not beautiful, maybe he is in a good position. Against the blue sky, he looks graceful and beautiful from a distance. ?
Practice tells us that sunshine belongs to every child. Appreciation education is of great significance to cultivate students' sound personality and develop their potential. ? When the rain falls on thousands of hearts, the wind dyes the green plum branches? Students who often appreciate you will surely welcome the fragrant spring of peaches and plums for you to taste? Flowers are blooming? The beauty of education.
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