In many people's subconscious, children are still very young and don't understand anything, so don't care too much, and even people who feel inappropriate are dirty.
For one or two-year-old children, this may be right, but with the growth of age, they have a preliminary understanding of privacy and the difference between men and women, so they should consider their cognitive development and personality formation.
If parents still change clothes in front of them, children may get used to it after a long time, and their ideas will slowly go astray.
According to my hometown, the fifth-grade son of a family not far from home was expelled from school for harassing female classmates.
I think, how serious is it for a child who is only in the fifth grade to be expelled?
The explanation given by the school is that this boy of 1 1 is tall and burly. Since the third grade, he has a criminal record of molesting female classmates, either touching his ass or attacking his chest. Therefore, many parents complain to the school.
The school had to ask the boy's parents to take him back. After the parents learned, they also apologized and promised to go back and educate their children.
After that, the boy did well in school for a while, but later he even bet with his classmates that the underwear worn by the female classmates was pink.
In order to prove that he was right, he tore the clothes of his female classmates in front of the whole class. When parents heard that their daughter was insulted, they directly appealed to the Education Bureau and demanded that the little boy be dealt with seriously.
The school also felt that the problem was more serious. Considering his criminal record, he was finally dismissed after discussion.
"If I wasn't a minor, I would have to go to a juvenile detention center for a while and learn to correct it," relatives said.
Later, when the psychologist treated the boy, he found that the root cause of his personality was his mother. It turned out that his mother was never ashamed to change clothes and often took a bath together, which led to her child's weak gender awareness.
Subconsciously, he thought I could look at my mother's body. What happened to a female classmate?
Obviously, this is the influence of bad habits in parents' life, which is subtle and accumulates over time, eventually leading to psychological distortion and doing wrong things.
Parents should never underestimate the influence of habits on children's growth and character formation. Children who have been accustomed to their parents changing clothes since childhood do not understand the normal boundaries of the opposite sex. When they grow up, both ends are inevitable.
The first type: physiological precocity.
After the child is 3 years old, he has realized the gender difference and knows how to distinguish between men and women.
At this time, the child is full of curiosity. If parents change clothes unscrupulously in front of him, it is likely to stimulate physiology and lead to premature germination of children's sexual consciousness.
Taking a bath together often can also make children get in touch with both sexes prematurely. In adolescence, children will be curious about the opposite sex, from puppy love to sexual harassment, just like the boys in the case.
If parents can't guide them correctly, it will not only be detrimental to the healthy growth of children, but may even lead them to commit crimes.
The second type: psychological malformation.
It is natural for boys and mothers to be closer, but we should also pay attention to the sense of boundaries.
If the mother does not pay attention to the gender distinction, changing clothes and taking a bath together in front of the children will lead to the vague gender consciousness and personality of the children.
In addition, if the mother has a strong desire for control and constantly participates in the child's life, she will have an extreme maternal love and raise a "mother baby boy".
Boys with this personality will keep their distance from all girls, and it will be more difficult to get married in the future.
In our traditional culture, sex education for children has always been avoided, and parents may find it difficult to talk about it.
However, if we don't form a healthy consciousness for our children as soon as possible, we may be used by all kinds of bad information in the future. For the future development of our children, it is very necessary to cultivate privacy awareness.
Mainly do the following:
Don't change clothes in front of children, tell children not to change clothes in front of others.
Same-sex parents help their children bathe and let them bathe themselves after independence.
Tell your child which places are private parts, and don't let others touch them. If anyone touches them, you must tell your parents.
4 let children know that there are differences between men and women. Parents should be calm when explaining, and don't hide it, otherwise it will cause more trouble to their children.
It is very important for parents to avoid suspicion in front of their children. In addition, they should explain the basic sexual knowledge to help children treat it correctly.