The second child era has arrived, and the young aunt family model will become more and more common. Out of love for their young children, many parents will get used to letting their elder sister give way to their younger brother, because parents are more inclined to love and take care of their young children. Moreover, when my sister grows up, parents will ask her to take care of her younger brother to varying degrees.
Although this educational model has cultivated the elder sister's independent ability, it is very likely to bring unpredictable consequences to the younger brother: boys may become immature and unable to solve problems independently. It may also cause the boss to bully the second child. Because of her reluctance, her sister was asked to take on the role of protector. This kind of consciousness made her regard her younger brother as a competitor, and even gained inner balance by bullying her younger brother. It will also make my sister weak and will not take the initiative to make progress after entering the society.
Either way, it is definitely not good for a family's future.
In a second-child family, it is often such a growth model: parents tend to love and take care of their younger brother. In their education, the idea that the elder sister should help the younger brother is subtly implemented, which leads to the lack of independence and responsibility of boys from an early age.
Parents tend to favor younger children. If two children have an argument, parents often blame the older child. They may think that the elder sister should grow up and make way for the younger brother. As my sister grows up, parents will ask her to take care of her brother to varying degrees.
For example, playing with my younger brother, looking after my younger brother when my parents are away and helping my younger brother with his homework may accelerate my sister's growth.
Other negative factors can't be ruled out to interfere with education. For example, someone in the neighborhood will say to her sister, "Your parents don't love you if they have a younger brother." For example, some TV dramas describe the patriarchal plot that reminds my sister. Many external factors make my sister more sensitive and independent. Let's look back. Parents of one-child families spare no effort to educate their children. So what's the difference between boys and girls' education methods?
For girls, parents tend to be fond of and tolerant, adhere to the traditional view that "girls should be well-fed and well-fed", and think that girls should find a quiet and comfortable life in the future, play the role of wife, mother and other supporters at home, and parents should give more princess-like education.
For boys, parents are more inclined to cultivate their sense of responsibility and independence. They believe that "a boy should grow up in poverty" and should be given more training to make him persistent and responsible.
At the same time, parents will think that boys are more playful than girls, and the family is stricter in disciplining boys than girls.
However, in the second-child family of my sister and brother, this educational model has been completely subverted. My sister became a protector, and my brother became a weak person protected by the family. Many girls' princess dreams begin with having a younger brother.
They always feel that they are not good enough and constantly try to maintain their relationship with others by pleasing and compromising. In interpersonal relationships, they often play the role of victims, expecting to be seen and paid attention to in this way. They are full of envy and hatred for those who dare to say and do, but it is their turn to do nothing.
Therefore, as parents, the most important thing to do is to study hard, grow up well, and try to accompany their children's healthy growth with rational and intelligent love.