Unfilial children not only make us old people fall into difficulties in life, but also make us suffer serious psychological harm, which is greater than the troubles in life.

Therefore, we old people need to adjust our mentality and take some measures to reduce the harm caused by unfilial children.

(1) Pay attention to the influence.

In the face of children's unfilial, we old people should be moderately tolerant, patiently educated and slowly influenced. From unfilial to filial piety, there is often a process. Failure to honor the elderly will be condemned by people; The law will punish the abuse of the elderly; Many people didn't realize the hardship of their parents to raise themselves until their children gave birth, and then they became filial and changed their attitude towards the elderly.

In the process of these incidents, the elderly should have a tolerant attitude and wait patiently while educating.

(2) Learn to adjust your mentality.

We old people should realize that it is our duty to raise children and should not expect too much in return. If the old man meets an unfilial child, he can comfort himself like this: "I raised you, I did what I should do, and I have a clear conscience." As for how you treat me, think for yourself! " With this mentality, you will not be too eager to get a return from your child and avoid inner imbalance.

(3) Look at your own problems

Sometimes it is not all children's problems that children are unfilial. The stubbornness and paranoia of some old people are also the reasons for their unfilial. As an old man, we should also reflect on ourselves, what things we have done excessively and what things have hurt our children's hearts improperly, so as to adjust ourselves to eliminate emotional obstacles and let our children be filial to themselves from the heart.

(4) Keep in touch frequently.

There is a gap between generations. If parents and children can't communicate with each other often, the gap between them will inevitably grow bigger and bigger, which will eventually lead to mutual incomprehension. If the two generations communicate smoothly and understand each other, filial piety and harmony will naturally return to their homes.

(5) Learn to empathize.

Everyone is a parent and a child. When our children's behavior doesn't conform to our old people's imagination, we might as well put ourselves in their parents' shoes.

In the long history of our country, children always owe their parents, which has been passed down from generation to generation. And this is precisely the virtue of parenting, not the regret of old age. If we can figure this out, our psychological feelings of being victimized by our children's unfilial can be alleviated.

(6) Solve problems in time

As the saying goes, "teeth will knock on the lips, and the left hand will touch the right hand." No matter how close we old people are to our children, there will inevitably be bumps in our lives. But after knocking at the door, you should communicate with your child in time. How can a family have a night feud? In the process of happy communication, they became angry, relaxed and their troubles were solved.

Think about the benefits of children. When we old people have conflicts with their children, if we just talk about their faults and think that they are unfilial, it will only lead to a deadlock in the family atmosphere.

If you think about the benefits of children after the conflict, not only can you ease the conflict and relieve the inner pressure, but your children will be closer to you with the generosity of their parents. Kill two birds with one stone, why not?

(7) Ask others for advice.

When children fail to fulfill their obligations to support our elderly, we can ask relatives and friends to persuade them together. Sometimes you can turn to someone your child trusts and have the closest contacts to persuade you, and the effect may be better.

Finally, if our children are really unfilial, go their own way and refuse to listen to persuasion, we elderly people can also turn to the law to make our children fulfill their obligation to support the elderly.