With the victory of the 17th National Congress, vocational education has been put on the agenda of reform and development again, and the development prospect of vocational education has become unprecedented. Despite the strong support and promotion of the state, it has not changed the inherent adverse effects of vocational schools in the eyes of society and the masses. Vocational education started late, the social foundation is not very good, and the social evaluation of vocational education is generally low, which is not only related to the low level of skills and knowledge of vocational high school students, but also largely depends on their ideological and moral quality. I have been in contact with the education and teaching work of vocational college students for several years, and found that many vocational college students' moral quality, behavior habits, learning attitude and life attitude have a great relationship with family education. "Family is the natural grass-roots cell of society, where the beautiful life of human beings is realized, where the power of human victory grows, and where children live and grow ..." makarenko brilliantly reveals the relationship among society, family and children, indicating that moral education for vocational high school students is often not simply aimed at individuals, but needs to cooperate and cooperate with family education to a great extent. However, it is often difficult for many class teachers to contact and cooperate with their families and schools. Many parents are impatient with the communication with teachers, thinking that if they pay the money, their children will have to be managed by the school, and it is the teacher's responsibility to manage it badly. This is closely related to parents' educational concept, education level and social background. If schools and parents can't get good communication, students' ideological problems can't be completely solved. Therefore, the moral education of vocational high school students is facing greater challenges in this respect. At present, it has become a common phenomenon that vocational high school students have poor learning foundation and poor ideological quality. "Poor academic performance is inferiority, poor health is a waste, and bad moral character is a danger" is a philosophical saying that has a deeper understanding in the moral education work in our vocational high schools. At present, there is a shortage of social students, and the enrollment of vocational high schools has reached the point of "hungry and full", so it is impossible to choose the basic quality of students. As school educators, we should not treat these students as inferior products, but should pay more attention to their healthy growth. It is far from enough for their healthy growth to rely solely on the unilateral efforts of schools, but also the cooperation of parents. Family education plays a fundamental and key role in cultivating students' basic quality. At present, many parents of vocational school students have no intention to participate in the education of their children or adopt unscientific methods for their own reasons. I want to talk about how to educate students and whether to educate children at home. First, we should face up to the great development of today's children's world. Under the erosion of western socio-economic supremacy and utilitarian supremacy, the family's educational concept is constantly changing, becoming more and more efficient and excellent. Many parents often only pay attention to learning when evaluating their children. Ignoring the education of children's behavior and many traditional virtues, some students become victims of the pursuit of enrollment rate in primary and junior high schools, and are ruthlessly eliminated and become "poor students". They have no choice but to choose vocational high schools and become "vocational high school students". However, in recent years, vocational education has not got rid of the predicament and its "social status" has not been improved. Therefore, under the public opinion of the society, parents also lost confidence and patience in their children, and began to let themselves go, even unintentionally educating their children. Parents should see the strong support of the state for vocational education in recent years, and the prospect of vocational education should be bright. With China's entry into WTO, it provides a broad market demand and a good market environment for vocational education to reach a new level. Mastering an excellent skill, speaking fluent Mandarin and speaking the most basic spoken English should be the correct understanding of vocational school students. With a correct understanding, you will feel that your children are not so bad. Learning to discover the advantages of children instead of always complaining about how smart other children are will greatly promote their development. There is an excellent technology, in fact, the future is limitless, and university is not the only way out for everyone. The facts are already in front of us. You should complain less, see more advantages and plasticity, and don't deny your child's personality. Maybe this is the difference between them. As long as we can face children squarely, I think the concept of family education will change. Second, help children build confidence. Vocational high school students have been in the lower middle class for a long time and are already "poor students" They have been criticized and accused by teachers and parents, and formed special characters such as timidity, inferiority, loneliness, opposition and irritability. Their various ideological conditions are closely related to their family and education. Children are hurt by constant criticism and accusations. In this case, if parents only complain about their children and don't care about helping them build self-confidence, they will lose their direction and have a bad personality. Parents should be good at discovering their children's strengths and developing their strengths, instead of always comparing their children's shortcomings with others' strengths. This will make children feel bored, let them gradually lose communication with their parents and become more withdrawn and unconfident. I know very well that praise can build children's self-confidence. My child is two years old this year. She can recite many poems and sing some children's songs. She is also unwilling and unhappy in the process of learning. At this time, I encouraged her to praise. When she said a word, I clapped my hands, making all the members of the family clap their hands. At this time, she will be very happy and willing to tell you. Such a young child knows that others' praise is an affirmation of him, let alone an older child. Please don't be stingy with your praise, because praise is affirmation. Parents should always say to their children, "My child is the best in my mind. Everyone's path is different from copying. University is not the only way out. As long as you work harder than others, success will be shared with you without hesitation. " No matter who you are, no matter which way you take, all roads lead to Rome as long as you are willing to work hard. "Look at the original scold children also want to prepare lessons. Communicate with children more, let them talk more and know more about their wishes. I should first get rid of my shortcomings and set an example for my children. " If children want to make progress, they must first improve themselves, so as to educate the next generation. You can learn some unexpected educational methods by studying more and listening to more lectures. These are the feelings of parents themselves. They all realize that they must constantly improve themselves in the process of educating their children and set a good example for them. Most of the parents of vocational school students have low educational level, or they don't have good teaching methods, or they simply let themselves go and don't educate. The baby is our own. Since we have brought them into this world, we have an obligation to make them good people and live happily. Don't say that my children are born like this, and don't make excuses for your laziness. We can't educate ourselves that we really exist objectively, but as long as we study more, read more books and listen to how others successfully educate us, our children will gain something and grow up. Some parents never care about their children. Once their children have an accident, they will automatically scold or severely beat them, saying that other people's children are so good. How could you do that? Didn't you find your own reason? How much energy and time do you spend on children? This string of question marks is enough for you to reflect. Teachers should have prestige in front of students, and the most important thing is to infect students with rich knowledge. If the students think that the teacher has no goods in his stomach, he won't listen to you. So are parents. I think what you said is quite reasonable. You can solve the problem from the child's point of view and leave a deep impression on the child. Your children will listen to you and be proud to have such parents. Therefore, parents should stop being lazy for the healthy growth of their children. In addition to improving their own quality, parents should set an example in front of their children. Usually, children are always taught who to learn from. In fact, you are the closest and most vivid example for children. Ask children to do what parents should do first. Your words and deeds are always infecting your children. Children are the first to imitate their parents. If you don't do well, ask them, and they will say that you have done differently. You really have nothing to say, so you should start from yourself in educating your children, always remind yourself to be a good person, do everything well and set a correct example for your children. Let's join hands and work together for the future of our children. 4. Conclusion The process of education should be happy and positive. With the joint efforts of school teachers and parents, I believe that our vocational education will gradually move towards a more harmonious realm. Win the heart with the heart, and shape the personality with the personality. Education should be full of emotion. Without love, one's personality and wisdom can't be fully and freely developed. Many junior high school students have been hit by the failure of the senior high school entrance examination and stepped into the door of their careers with heavy steps. On the one hand, compared with key senior high school students in the same period, they have a serious sense of inferiority. On the other hand, being scolded by parents, complained by teachers and treated coldly in society leads to retrogression in behavior, which is manifested in lack of honor and self-esteem, lack of learning ability, self-abandonment, laziness, fear of learning, weariness of learning, and even truancy. But deep down, they are eager to be cared for and moved. Therefore, I think vocational education should first educate people, improve the quality and education level of parents, realize better communication and cooperation between home and school, and truly care for the healthy growth of vocational high school students. References:

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