How to make children happier, I think this is a compulsory course for all parents and their greatest wish in life!

In fact, I think children's happiness is very strong, especially when they are young, which is easier to satisfy. A toy, a good meal and a good play can make him very happy! But this happiness is often short-lived, not long-lasting!

So I think the real thing is to make children have the ability to be happy!

The cultivation of this kind of happiness ability generally has several aspects.

1, only when you are happy can you pass happiness on to others, so parents should be happy first, adjust their mentality, respect and care for each other. Happiness is not getting more, but caring less! As long as this family is warm and loving, children will feel happy!

2, the child's inner voice, on the surface, the current child is very happy, most of the conditions are excellent, do not worry about eating or drinking, but is the heart really happy? I don't think so. Many children are mechanically dragged here to attend classes and there to study, and they have no time of their own. You can imagine how depressed the child is. At this point, I think we were happier when we were young and could have all kinds of carefree fields! Today's children have a happy material life, but their spiritual life is actually more miserable!

3. Make yourself strong and excellent through your own efforts. As long as you are excellent, you can be confident and have a sense of accomplishment. This kind of success through your own efforts will definitely bring happiness to yourself!

4, no one is perfect, learn to accept some imperfections calmly, so that you will not feel very painful, gradually become calm, and your happiness will be strong!

5, learn to help others, learn to be grateful, these pure feelings from the heart can make you feel happy and happy!

Let children have the ability of self-happiness, that is, let their hearts shine forever, live a full and peaceful life, and do what they like and have value.

I hope each of us can be happy! Remember to smile more

Answer with an article written not long ago, "Being able to feel the same way is the greatest blessing for each other".

When I woke up in the morning, I was screened by the news discussion of "Shanghai 17-year-old boy jumped off the viaduct and died".

Although we always don't know much about our study. However, we are bitches and gossip loves to ask questions. After watching Tik Tok's video in the group, I went to Weibo, smoothed the timeline, and looked for clues I missed after sleeping last night.

So I saw the official micro-report of @ Sina Video "17 At about 6: 438+00 pm on April 6, a bridge jump accident occurred at Lupu Bridge in Shanghai. After investigation, the jumper was a 17-year-old sophomore boy who died on the spot after being confirmed by 120. Her mother said that when she drove to Lupu Bridge, she had an argument with her son because of the contradiction between her classmates at school. Her son suddenly ran out of the car door and jumped off the bridge. Women can't catch up, and tragedy has happened. "

Seeing Dr. Hao from @ Anding Hospital said: "The video of suicide is really heartbreaking. Many people accuse children of poor psychological endurance. I think this is one of the reasons, but it is not the main reason. In the complete video, there is a picture in which the mother parked her car in the middle of the road regardless of safety and talked to the children standing outside and in the back row. The children rushed out after closing the door. The content of the conversation between them should not be difficult to guess. This shows that the child must have accumulated emotions for a period of time or even a long time. "

Related videos in Weibo have been deleted, leaving only nearly 60,000 comments.

@ Wang wrote a passage about this, which should be the daily life of him and his youngest son. I quite agree.

"Don't quarrel with teenagers, especially boys. You must continue.

How boring! I really want to blow up the school! '

A: Wow, it's finally the same as when I was a child! (Take out your mobile phone and open the map) Study the blasting scheme. Look at the office building inside the fence. Outside the fence is 7- 1 1. That's the ramen, especially the waitress in the ramen. Every time you come in, you call your brother. You can't blow them up ... hey, don't go. Why are you in such a hurry to do your homework?

If you had stayed in Hong Kong, I would have been a gangster. '

A: It's true. I can also be the father of young people and dangerous people once. This should fill the gap in Hong Kong movies. They didn't film the fathers of young people and dangerous people much … why did you go back to your room? Don't go, let's discuss what the young man's father should do.

It's strange to argue. "

Because this is my favorite attitude towards my baby as a parent, and it has always been carried out by myself.

When my daughter was in high school, she was tired of studying or was "beaten" in class and always went home. When she says "I don't want to go to college", I always say "Well, let's go to a vocational and technical college. The pressure is not as great as it is now, and the blue-collar workers are still quite nervous. Earning a good job is not low. You can take your salary to lighten the burden on your family when others graduate from high school! "

If children have negative emotions or are wronged outside, they don't need their parents to teach again. Is there a reason why they don't understand? They just want to vent and find an outlet for bad emotions. Just calm him down more or help him solve it skillfully. After that, the child will do whatever he has to do.

Therefore, @ 中中中 said, "You have been wronged outside, thinking that you can get comfort from your family. But he tells you rationally and objectively: find your own reasons. The moment of death is mostly at this moment. " "Just when parents, why so arrogant. If you have children, please remember: trust him, listen to him, communicate with him, care about what he cares about, avoid his painful things, do more things that make him happy, and solve what he wants to solve together. This is not doting, but the background color of his life: love and trust. ? "

Parents who are willing to empathize with their children, and children who are willing to empathize with their parents are willing to empathize, which is the greatest blessing to each other.

If my children and grandchildren are like me, then why do they keep the money?

My children and grandchildren are not as good as me. What's the use of asking for money?

-Lin Zexu

Parents can give more than money. Excellent parents should give their children five abilities, fall in love with learning and move towards Excellence!

Great ability; Great dreams;

There are two ways for children to become talents: A has a great mother and B has a great coach; If you want a child to have a great dream, you must put a person in the child's heart and let this person influence his/her progress; If children want to get good grades and achieve great things, they must let them see the world and meet big people from an early age. Set a dream goal

Two abilities: a strong self

It is about the ability to resist blows and setbacks, and self-confidence.

Experience all kinds of failures and setbacks before the child 18 years old.

Three abilities: leadership

A, mind-the mind of parents determines the mind of children (willingness, atmosphere, sharing).

B. Experience-What a child has experienced and experienced is very important for his future development. All confidence comes from experience!

C, leadership temperament

Four abilities: public speaking (eloquence)

-Children must study before entering the society.

A talking child will never feel inferior.

Children who can talk will always have a hundred times more chances than others (have the ability to appear)

Five abilities: gratitude and filial piety

Words and deeds, the prosperity of the family begins with the awakening of parents!

Happiness is a feeling, happiness can't be given, but only when you feel it with your heart can you know it is happiness.

Children are naive, and their happiness doesn't need much money from their parents, but needs:

1, always accompany your children. Even if you are busy at work, you should find time to accompany your children to eat, chat and play, or ask them for help to create a happy atmosphere and make them full of happiness.

2. Always accompany children to tell stories about their childhood. Parents are role models for children. How did children treat their parents or grandparents when they were young? Compared with what they are now, they will be more flexible in grasping their own lives, and it is easier to relieve stress when they encounter difficulties.

3. Take more children to participate in social activities. Children can get in touch with more people, learn more about all kinds of people and increase their social circle by participating in more social activities.

4. Empower, do your own thing, solve your own problems, let children keep trying, give them enough time, don't care too much about the perfection of the results, it is important to let children dare to face difficulties and challenges and improve themselves in the process of solving problems. Ability and confidence.

The standard of happiness is different, that is, giving a child a golden hill and a silver hill will not make the child happy, and sometimes eating a simple meal will make him happy and satisfied!

Children can get fatherly love and maternal love from an early age, with companionship, a happy childhood, a harmonious family, loving parents, a good family atmosphere, educated parents and a good family style. Only in this environment can we cultivate a caring, kind and positive child!

The word "happiness" is actually a bit empty. Adults often ask questions like "how to get happiness", not to mention children. One is that children don't really understand the meaning of happiness in a large population, and the other is that the happiness children want is usually different from what we adults think. Ask your child now, "When do you feel happiest?" The answer must be when playing, eating delicious food, and being with your favorite mother ... Family members always say that the happiest moment is being with your favorite mother and being with the whole family (including dad, mom, grandpa, grandma, etc. ).

At this time, the old people at home will feel that the baby is really sensible or can really talk. Eva will say more words that adults like to hear, and the whole family will be full of laughter. So for me, this is a moment when parents feel happy and children feel happy.

So I personally think that to increase children's happiness, we should start with increasing parents' perception of happiness.

Parents are the first teachers of the children. Although it is a cliche topic. But parents are always a skill they are learning and selling now, so we should always pay attention to the ways and methods of adjustment. Children are often a mirror of their parents, so sometimes we will say that this child combines the advantages of parents and will certainly succeed in the future; Or inherited the father or his father's appearance, and will not be ugly when he grows up; The temper is more like that of father or mother, not that a family does not enter a house. ......

Therefore, I personally think that to increase children's happiness, we should start from being good parents.

Parents can improve their children's perception of "happiness" from the aspects of material conditions, effective companionship, maintaining communication and increasing parent-child relationship. It is meaningless to respect but not emphasize the children's happiness ceremony. There are many similar examples. For example, my family wears skirts every day now. As long as you don't wear a skirt, there are all kinds of noises. What makes you angry is that you really want to slap her. Asked the reason, I know that the child wants to be the little princess of her parents all the time, whether her parents are around or not, so even if she is at school with her grandparents, a beautiful skirt is her recognition of herself.

So now, I always let her decide what clothes to wear every day If it doesn't fit, I would suggest adding a beautiful coat, scarf, hair accessories and so on. And now I have to listen to her how to braid her hair every day ~

Happiness has different answers for different people. Some people think that I will be happy if I have a BMW, while others think that I will be happy if I have a bicycle. So our parents want to make their children happier. First, we need to know what children want. What is the happiness of children?

On the road of children's growth, what is most needed is actually the companionship of family members and the care and love of parents, rather than meeting all the material needs of children. Now many parents think that children will be happy if they meet all their material needs. In fact, this will make children feel that it is too easy to get something, thus forming a habit of not cherishing what they have now. So I think parents should give their children more companionship and encouragement to make them happier.

Parents should create a warm and loving family for their children, don't quarrel in front of the children, try to solve the problems between husband and wife rationally and safeguard the integrity of the family. If you can't even give your child a complete home, what can you talk about happiness?

In the world of adults, there are all kinds of things to be busy every day. But we have to understand that some things can be done later, but if we miss the child's growth process, we can't go back. When he was 3 years old, we should send her to kindergarten and pick him up from school, but we were busy with work. He 10 years old before you want to send her to kindergarten. Do you think it's possible? If a child misses his childhood, he will never come back. Don't let your child's childhood be without your love and company.

As parents of children, we have shortcomings, and children will accept us. As parents, we should also accept imperfect children and look at their shortcomings or deficiencies with appreciation. Parents should patiently accompany, encourage and enlighten their children when they fail, and give corresponding encouragement and affirmation when their children succeed to help them build up strong self-confidence.

In short, on the road of children's growth, as parents, we can't live their children's lives as we please. After all, that is their life. As parents, we should guide our children correctly, not blindly command them. Yao Ming is the world champion in diving. Under our blind command, it is very likely that he will be afraid when he sees water.

As parents, we should spend more time with our children, whose greatest happiness is companionship.

Hello, everyone, I'm glad to answer this question. So what is happiness? What is the happiness of children? From a psychological point of view, happiness is a psychological experience and a new feeling. In children's eyes, happiness is the love and companionship of parents.

Both parents want their children to be happy. So what can be done to make children happier? In my opinion, parents should consider the problem from the child's point of view, think about what the child needs and wants, and satisfy the child to the greatest extent on the basis of adhering to the principle. I'm not self-righteous. I think I love my children out of my own will.

In order to make children happier, we should do the following.

1. First of all, family members should love each other and live in harmony. Harmony between parents is the greatest sense of security in children's hearts. Giving children a stable and harmonious living environment is the premise of happiness.

2. Good hygiene habits tell children that a healthy body is the capital of life.

3. Learn to be grateful. One must learn to be grateful. People who know how to be grateful know how to cherish, know how to be content, know how to repay kindness and know how to be modest.

3. Listen to the children's opinions in everything, think from the children's standpoint, be democratic, not autocratic. Children have no right to decide their own affairs. Children who grow up like this are depressed, rebellious and unhappy. The famous educator Suhomlinski said: "Parents understand each other, respect and understand their children. This democratic family has the greatest happiness in the world. "

4. Treat children's shortcomings and mistakes correctly and be patient and tolerant of children. Being a generous parent is not selfish. No one is perfect, everyone has his own shortcomings and advantages, and there is no need to demand perfection. Children should have their own lives, parents should grasp their own standards, and be tolerant and understanding.

Have equal dialogue and emotional communication with children, be equal parents, and don't put on airs. Good parents are approachable and sincere, respect their children's initiative and independence, give them the necessary education and guidance, and give them a good chance to talk. Understand the child's ideological trends, hobbies, joys and sorrows, so as to enter his inner world. At this time, children are happy.

6. Have rules and principles, be a gentle parent and don't give in. All educational methods advocate excesses. Parents who indulge their children too much will push their luck, so we should pay attention to moderation in raising children. In short, as a gentle parent, we should remember that there are no rules that can make Fiona Fang resolutely refuse unreasonable demands and make promises easily, and the promises will be fulfilled.

7. Everyone likes warm people, let alone children. Be warm parents, don't be cold. To err is human. Give a hug to a child who occasionally makes mistakes and realizes that he has misbehaved, but don't be too depressed. Children will feel very happy at this time and will thank themselves for having such parents.

Children's happiness is actually very simple. In daily life, more parents' companionship and care, more parents' understanding and support ... The type of parents determines the fate of children, so good parents will make children feel happy, be proud of having such parents, and let children grow up healthily and happily.

In children's world, parents' attitudes and feelings towards them are the most important things in their hearts.

I think "quality companionship" is the core way to affect children's "happiness".

"Happiness" can be expressed as:

No parents are born perfect parents and no children are born perfect children.

Therefore, in each child's growth stage, we should balance the direct way of getting along with children according to different characteristics.

Try to think about how to make children really feel the love and happiness of their parents from the perspective of children.

First of all, parents should understand the meaning of happiness and what happiness is for their children. The most important thing is to give children a happy family, and children will have the ability and possibility of happiness. A child who is not surrounded by happiness in his childhood will always look for happiness when he grows up, while a happy child will always have something, so there is no need to look for it.

Secondly, input the correct values for children. It is necessary to ensure the happiness of children now, and to ensure that children can still be happy when they leave their original families and grow up. This is actually a big project. Everything our parents do, including investing in education, is for the future happiness of their children. Teach children well and let them learn their skills well, and then they will have the capital to strive for happiness. This should also be combined with China's national conditions and its own family situation, and the factors that can make children happy should be infiltrated into every daily behavior.