According to Jia Yucun, when Jia Min died, Daiyu was only six years old, a six-year-old child. After her mother died, her father sent her to her grandmother's house for foster care and lived in her sponsor's house. Six years old should be the age to hide in her parents' arms, but Daiyu wanted to say goodbye to her father Lin Ruhai and live in a distant city.
Sometimes it is cruel for a child to think about such a sojourning life, which will at least affect the child's character growth. I don't understand the arrangement for my daughter to live in Jia's house in the original work. Later, I watched it many times before I understood it from two details.
After Jia Min's death, why did Lin Ruhai adopt Daiyu in Jiafu? These two details give the answer.
First of all, the attitude of Grandmother Jia to take Daiyu to Jiafu is tough.
As the sea said, "It happened that the lucky opportunity died. Her mother-in-law in Du Zhong remembered that my little girl had no one to rely on for education. Before that, she sent men and women boats to pick her up, but because my little daughter has not recovered, she can't leave. " Daiyu, a female student, was getting better and better, and could not bear to leave her father, but her grandmother made the obligation to go. After Jia Min's death, the Lady Dowager sent men and women boats to pick up Daiyu. After recovering from illness, Daiyu was reluctant to leave her father Lin Ruhai and went to Du Zhong's grandmother's house with the boat. However, Jia Mu's attitude of taking Daiyu to raise in Jiafu was very tough. The book specifically mentions that "Daiyu, a female student who recovered from illness, could not bear to leave her father, and her grandmother did her duty."
It can be seen that Jia's attitude of bringing Daiyu to Jia's house is very tough. Although she didn't want her daughter to leave her, she didn't dare to go against her mother-in-law's wishes, so she had to promise Daiyu to go to Jia's house for foster care with the men and women.
Second, Lin Ruhai and Jia Min have deep feelings, and they don't want to be mistresses, so that Daiyu can raise Jia Fu for a better education.
Such as the sea: "Your father will be over half a year old and has no intention of continuing his family. Besides, you are very ill and young. You have no mother's education and no brothers and sisters to support you in this world. Now you have to rely on grandma and uncle and sister, which just relieves my worries. Why not go? " Hearing this, Daiyu said goodbye with tears and got on the boat with the wet nurse and some old ladies in Fu Rong. Many people don't understand this sentence of Lin Ruhai today. His daughter, who doesn't raise herself, wants to raise her in a relative's house, which is also euphemistically called for Daiyu's education. In fact, there was such a requirement in ancient times. Daughters are usually educated and disciplined by their mothers. When they get married in the future, the other party will inquire about the girl's tutor in addition to whether she is a prostitute or a concubine. It is usually the mother who undertakes the responsibility of educating her daughter.
After Jia Min's death, if Lin Ruhai is the second wife, the responsibility of educating Daiyu will fall on the second wife. Because he loves his wife Jia Min deeply, Lin Ruhai doesn't want a second wife, which is both touching and incomprehensible. After all, that society pursues "there are three kinds of unfilial, and there is no big future." Lin Ruhai is middle-aged, and Daiyu is his only daughter. A son died at the age of three, so it can be said that the Lins have lost weight.
The reality of the Lins is that Lin Ruhai needs a second wife to have a boy. Therefore, out of affection and grief for his wife Jia Min, Lin Ruhai doesn't want to have a second wife. In order to give his daughter Daiyu a better education, and to alleviate his mother-in-law's grief at losing her daughter, she had to abandon her daughter and live in a sponsor's house. This second reason is also the main reason why Lin Ruhai let Daiyu live in Jiafu.
On the Internet, some media writers questioned the death of Lin Ruhai's three-year-old son in response to Lin Ruhai's sending Daiyu to Jia's foster home. They thought it was the abnormal death of their three-year-old son, which made Jia's mother worried about Daiyu's safety in the Lin family and had to take Daiyu away by force. But Lin Ruhai did not trust Daiyu's safety, so she agreed to go to grandma's house for foster care.
In fact, Lin Ruhai's three-year-old son's ID card didn't explain it clearly. Is it a concubine or a concubine How can there be an inference of abnormal death? Unless the child is an illegitimate child, neither Jia Min nor Rainbow Xifeng wants the child to exist, so that an abnormal death will occur. If so, Lin Ruhai hates Jia Minru Jia Lian and Wang Xifeng, and how can he allow Daiyu to go to Jia Fu? Thus, it is unreasonable for Lin Ruhai to say that Daiyu was given to Jia Fu for her safety.
To sum up, Lin Ruhai let Daiyu foster in Jiafu and live in the sponsor's home, not because of her safety, but because of her growth and education. Of course, Jia's tough attitude is also one of the reasons, but the most important is the second reason.