When educating their children, many parents will find that their children don't listen to their parents, and even always ask their parents for the opposite direction. If parents don't agree, children will be disobedient, and finally parents will have to compromise, but this kind of education has long lost its essence. Although parents and children should respect each other in getting along, parents should actually take the lead. When parents agree to their children's conditions, they are led by their children, so in this case, we must learn to refuse.

First, refuse to talk about conditions with children If children usually love to talk about conditions and even always bargain with their parents on some things, then parents must learn to refuse to talk about conditions with their children. If there are conditions for the first time, then if parents have any requirements in the future, children are likely to bargain with their parents. Therefore, in order to avoid future educational troubles, parents should refuse to negotiate with their children from the beginning. Many parents may worry that if they don't agree to their children's requirements and don't talk about conditions, their children will not meet their own requirements, but in fact, refusing to talk about conditions with their children can establish the image of parents in their children's hearts. If parents easily agree to their children's conditions, then in the eyes of children, parents are easy to talk, so many things will refute their parents in the future.

Second, avoid saying "no" When refusing children, parents must pay attention to the problem of speaking, especially young children, and avoid saying "no" when refusing. No, no, these refusal words are the most effective, but they are likely to hurt children's young hearts, because these words have a very tough attitude, but in fact parents just want to refuse their children's unreasonable demands. So parents can use other conditions instead of refusing.

For example, if a child wants to play games, ordinary parents may say no, you haven't finished your homework, and you still want to play games? But in fact, parents can use other conditions instead of refusing, such as letting him finish his homework first and then let him play games. It seems that two different words are actually rejecting the child's request to play games, but they can protect the child's emotions.

Third, when educating children, we must set the bottom line. Children like to talk about terms and bargain. In the final analysis, it is because parents have not set their own bottom line for their children's early education, and they always give in to their children's requirements. Over time, children are used to using conditions to refute their parents' education, so when parents educate their children for the first time, they must set their own education bottom line in their hearts and don't give in blindly. Once you start to make concessions, it will be endless, and in the process of education, children are likely to disobey their parents and even put aside their parents' demands.

If parents can set a bottom line, they will no longer give in easily in education. Whether parents meet or reject their children's demands, they can use their own standards to measure their children's education. Most children will make unreasonable demands when talking about conditions, so parents must think twice about whether they should agree.