To cultivate children's normal mind, the most important thing is to teach children how to face it calmly when they fail. Many times, because of strong vanity and competitiveness, children tend to become depressed or irritable when they encounter failure. At this time, parents should guide him in time and let him know that temporary failure is nothing. As long as they learn from it this time and see their own shortcomings, they will succeed next time. For example, if a child fails to do something, say to him, "It doesn't matter, son. If you fail, you can start all over again. Failure is the mother of success, and you will succeed next time! "
Teach children to treat others' criticism rationally.
Some children don't like being criticized by others. If others put forward some negative views on him or his actions, the child will be furious and think that others are deliberately targeting him, and even have an argument with others. Parents should teach their children to treat others' criticism correctly, and let them learn to find the positive side from others' criticism, such as seeing their own shortcomings, then making up for them and improving themselves.
For example, if the child is criticized by the teacher for doing something wrong, the mother can say to him, "it doesn't matter, son." Starting over is a big deal. The teacher criticized you for your own good. I hope you can treat the teacher's criticism rationally, find your own shortcomings, and behave well in the future. "
Let children correctly treat gain, loss, honor and disgrace
When the child loses something and feels depressed, the mother can tell the child like this: "Son, don't care too much, look down on the gains and losses, and don't keep everything in mind." Many times, children will pay more attention to what they like. If something is accidentally thrown away, the child will be very depressed and uncomfortable. At this time, parents should be more tolerant of their children, let him know the universality of gains and losses, and teach him to look at gains and losses with an indifferent attitude, so as to have a normal heart when facing gains and losses.
Of course, when children succeed, parents should also warn them not to be too proud in time, and take this as a starting point to go up a storey still higher. Parents need to instill in their children a spirit of winning without arrogance and losing with grace in their daily life and study, and guide their children to look at the gains and losses in life with a normal heart.
Everyone can't "get everything right" or "get everything right" in his life experience. On the contrary, it often backfires. Therefore, parents should instill the importance of normality in their children when they are young, and cultivate them to always maintain a normality in life and study. Based on this, they will experience the baptism and tempering of success, failure, humiliation, bitterness and joy, and experience the ups and downs that are indispensable in these lives. Maintaining a normal mind is an attitude towards life, a quality of taking things in stride, and a confidence and maturity. It is precisely because of the importance of normal mind that it needs to be cultivated slowly in life.
That's all, hope to adopt, thank you!