How to educate parents and children well
First, praise children as much as possible. Children will be willing to learn only when they have a certain degree of self-confidence. Let children feel that they have made progress in their studies every day, even if they have corrected a shortcoming.
Second, pay more attention to children's learning content and actual progress. Parents should ask their children more about what they have learned recently and how they have mastered it.
Third, often set a few small goals for children that are easy to achieve. This can make the child feel that he can do it, and the child is confident, which is conducive to the child's potential.
Fourth, stimulate children's desire to learn. We should seize every opportunity in life to let children practice.
Fifth, help children build a sense of responsibility. Let children learn to wash dishes, wipe handkerchiefs, make beds and tableware, and do their duty well.
Sixth, set an example in front of children.
7. Try not to talk about teachers in front of children, especially not to belittle teachers in front of children.
Eight, formulate family study rules and implement them from beginning to end, thus forming good study habits and work and rest habits.
Nine, guide children to be good at asking questions. Cultivate children and ask why.
Ten, let children pay attention to school, try to avoid the absence of children.
"How to cultivate a spiritual child:"
Relax the environment and give full play to children's personality advantages.
Children's homework should aim at mastering knowledge and review appropriately to deepen their impressions. Doing fewer questions can make children focus on developing their learning ability, and their stamina will be great.
Expectations are too high, making children miserable.
Some parents expect their children and their daughters to succeed. They are unwilling to face up to the gap between children and expect too much from them, which can only make them exhausted. It is necessary to set learning goals according to the actual situation of children and let them jump up and pick peaches. Only in this way can children move forward step by step.
Make the best use of the situation and let children enjoy learning
Every child is an independent individual. Because of their growing environment and their own reasons, they not only have different levels, but also have different learning styles, which requires us to have flexible educational wit and guide them according to the situation. In this way, children will be in a happy state of mind and regard learning as a kind of enjoyment, thus improving learning efficiency.
Allow children to choose the learning style that suits them. For example, some students like to strengthen their knowledge through discussion, while others like to think quietly and alone. For the former, we should try our best to create an atmosphere of discussion, while for the latter, we should provide them with a quiet learning environment. Other children like to help them remember English words by word formation, while some students are good at increasing their vocabulary by reading. For the former, we can provide children with books about word formation, while for the latter, we must provide some interesting English reading materials at the same level. Some children like to extract, and some children are used to reading their favorite articles repeatedly, which can improve their writing level. Therefore, there is no need to ask children to extract the latter, and providing some corresponding extracurricular books for children to read can also achieve the purpose of learning.
It is necessary to master the psychological characteristics of children, find the right starting point, and guide them according to their hobbies. If some people like idolization, you can explain to them how stars are successful, thus stimulating children's positive and enterprising heart; For children with strong personality and self-control, they can make their own relevant regulations, so that children can feel respected and consciously abide by them; For children who are relatively weak in self-control, but like to "wear a top hat" and are more obedient, they can be properly supervised by combining praise and punishment, so that children can develop good habits.
Every child can become a useful person by teaching students in accordance with their aptitude.
Robin, a successful expert, once said, "Everyone has a special talent. That talent is like a sleeping giant, waiting for us to wake him up. " Every child has his own bright spot. As parents, we should have a clear understanding of children, understand their advantages and disadvantages, tap their potential, teach students in accordance with their aptitude, foster strengths and avoid weaknesses, and each child can become a useful person.
A good parent who wants to create a good future for his children should pay attention to the following points.
One: treat children as equal members of the family, respect their personality and dignity, and let them think independently and choose freely. Letting children choose freely does not mean that parents do nothing. Parents can guide and help with analysis, and the final choice is in the hands of children. If the child makes a mistake, she will take responsibility for it herself. Once she realizes that she is wrong, she can correct it quickly. If you help her make a choice, even if she is right, she may not do well; If she is wrong, she will resent you, because the responsibility lies with you.
Two: Listen carefully and patiently to the children's opinions. If you want to be friends with children, you can't "talk at home". Parents are in charge. Especially when it comes to children, parents must discuss with their children and listen to their opinions. They should accept the correct opinions and explain the wrong ones. When parents decide to do something at home, they should also ask their children's opinions, which is conducive to the healthy growth of children, and children will feel that they are equal members of the family, and they will actively consider the family in the future, on the other hand, it is also conducive to the completion of things.
Try to understand children, go deep into their inner world, understand their wishes, respect their choices and support their legitimate demands. At the same time, we should also open our hearts to children, let them know their parents' thoughts, feel their parents' joys and sorrows, and strive for their trust and understanding. This can not only help parents truly become friends with their children, but also help parents better guide their children to grow up.
Fourth, in the success of children's growth, we should use practical and reasonable methods. Don't make comments and instructions on children's behavior easily, but try to guide children to think. We should pay more attention to children's thoughts and behaviors. We should communicate and understand each other through talks and consultations, and finally get a fair and reasonable answer.
Five: Being a child's friend does not mean giving up the principle and accommodating the child's mistakes. We emphasize children's freedom to develop hobbies, but we don't let them go. We should grasp certain standards and set strict requirements. If the child is really wrong, he can't make any concessions. He must point it out carefully and make corresponding explanations to avoid repeating it next time. If you are wrong, dare to admit it to your child. We should set an example for our children with our words, deeds and styles, and guide them to form a good personality.
Six: Take the initiative to communicate with children. The purpose of communicating with children is to enhance mutual understanding. Clarify your views and requirements to your children and let them understand what their parents mean. This is communication. In fact, this is not enough, because it is only one-way, and the purpose is only to let children know their parents and let them do what their parents expect. Have these parents ever thought: You ask your children to be obedient and understand what you mean, but have you ever understood their thoughts? Communication requires parents to actively express their inner world to their children, and at the same time listen to their children's voices, listen to each other and understand each other. Only in this way can we understand what the child is thinking, and then "prescribe the right medicine" and give appropriate guidance to let the child grow up healthily.
"The following ten sentences are best not to say to children:"
1. Why can't you be like-
The contrast between children is likely to increase their instinctive hostility and even disgust.
You should explain your specific requirements to your children. Focus on the bad behavior you want him to change.
Why are you so ignorant?
Children who are stabbed by words will only resist and make things worse.
Only kindness and patience can achieve the expected goal.
You are simply stupid.
This can only hurt their hearts greatly. Some people feel inferior and don't work hard to make progress.
The active encouragement and effective help of parents is the fundamental way to help children develop good habits and master life skills.
Go away, can you leave me alone for a while?
It will make them feel redundant and feel indescribable loneliness.
If you really want to be alone for a while, you can patiently explain to your child: I am very happy to be with you, but I am too busy now, please forgive me.
5. Cut the crap and shut up
Children will feel that their parents don't value my opinion at all. In this way, children will become indecisive, dependent and regard themselves as insignificant people.
6. Do it honestly, otherwise-
Empty threats will eventually damage parents' prestige. Instead, children will continue their bad behavior. See what you do.
The best way is to choose specific compensation and punishment means according to the actual situation.
7. Mom, please.
Education is most afraid that rewards will not work and punishment will not be used. Children don't eat hard or soft, but don't say mom please. This means that parents will submit, and children will look at you more from the heart.
8. I have no skills
Show your inferiority when talking to children. Most children's inferiority complex is induced by their parents.
If parents can be confident and optimistic, then children are full of confidence in the future.
9. Kill you
When you say that, you can't think of any good ideas. This is a big lie that cannot be fulfilled at all. Children will not stop their activities because of this.
10. Go away and go where you want to go.
The ultimatum overwhelmed the children. Although he doesn't want to run away from home, he doesn't want to bow his head. A wayward child may want to be a hero and really run away from home.