"Stupid method" 1: teach professional knowledge too early and set high overall goals for children. In the sense of "don't let children fall off the starting line", some parents who are eager to become talents practice reading, writing and arithmetic for their children prematurely under the guise of "developing their intelligence", regardless of their mentality and intellectual development trend, and blindly assign learning tasks. On the one hand, some professional knowledge does not conform to children's cognitive characteristics. Children can learn by rote, but they don't understand. Therefore, it can not promote the development trend of children's intelligence, but will give him greater psychological pressure and make children lose the fun of learning and the happiness of childhood. On the other hand, the overall goal set by parents for their children is too high, and there is no follow-up interpretation and specific guidance, which will cause children to be unclear about how to learn. Every attempt is unsuccessful, but it always fails to achieve the overall goal of adjustment, and rarely feels the feeling of "victory". In that case, it goes without saying that parents, children will be depressed, feel stupid, doubt their ability to work, and become unconfident.

"Stupid Method" 2: Simply stipulate rote memorization and guide children to explore by themselves. Many times, parents will simply and directly stipulate that children "write down" the main points of knowledge. If there is no reason, it will be difficult for children to recite, especially if the amount of professional knowledge is improved. There are many such cases around me. When I was in junior high school, my test scores were particularly good, but in middle school, my grades dropped rapidly. Because many professional knowledge in primary and secondary schools can be mastered by rough memory, the difficulty coefficient of junior high school courses has increased, and the amount of courses has also increased. It is necessary to draw inferences by understanding, and there is no time to cover all the knowledge points by rote memorization. Learning without knowing why, losing the fun of exploration and thinking, children certainly become more and more "stupid" in learning.

"Stupid Method" 3: Don't "lead by example", just try to "lead by example". Many parents will teach their children to have a healthy work and rest, read more books and newspapers, but they don't do this well. After work, I play mobile phones and watch TV dramas, and often stay up late for various leisure activities. It is said that parents are the best teachers for children. The behavior of parents directly determines the relative height of children. If parents don't set a good example for their children, they will lack prestige and authority. If parents don't want to go to school, they can't create a good natural environment for their children to browse and train, and children will certainly not be interested in books.

"Stupid method" 4: Talking about "stupid" gives children too many negative hints that children are "stupid to death" is the spoken language of some parents, and even talks with love. However, children receive "stupid" information content. Sometimes, parents who are eager to become talents will inadvertently compare their children with others. "Look how smart Tintin is!" "Aunt Liu's daughter can talk to foreigners in English. She is still younger than you. " Sometimes, parents are mainly humble in front of good friends and others. "My son is bad and stupid." "The child is short of ribs." If parents always say that their children are stupid, it will definitely lead to a psychological stereotype: "I am stupid." Conclusion It is harmful to the initiative of children's intellectual activities, but it limits the development trend of IQ, not to mention learning and training. Being swallowed up by so many negative hints all day, how can a child not really believe that he is really stupid? When children think that their brains are stupid and their self-learning ability is poor, they will have obvious inferiority complex and negative pessimism, and the subconscious will produce "maintaining efficiency" and refuse new news information to enter the memory bank to maintain the owner's idea is right. The conclusion has really become a silly child who can't learn anything.