What we don't like is not the education of our elders, but the feeling of being denied. The elders summed up a set of their own life experiences with their own life experiences. Except for the extreme parts, most of the contents are the mainstream thoughts of an era. Every era will see different scenery, but the elders just see more than us. Just like when we were in our twenties, we couldn't understand the idea of being 42. Elders are not philosophers, they can tell the conclusions brought by experience, but it is difficult to explain. Or the answer given is too far-fetched for you to accept and be satisfied.
The elder said to put career first, but didn't tell us why. Obviously, love is also rare. The elder said he would get married and have children, but he didn't tell us why. It's good to be single. There is no answer, just like Pandora's box, which tempts our rebellion and always feels that our elders are making things difficult for themselves. Life is a gobbledygook without words, and you can understand it without words. Elders especially like to say this sentence: You will understand when you are my age. In our view, this is a demonstration of age experience, but it is a helpless move for the elders.
Elders like to teach others lessons because they think everything others say is right. An elder can preach and criticize others at will according to his age and seniority, because even if he says something, others dare not refute it, because he is an elder and he is old. So, he gradually developed such a bad habit. He feels quite good himself, but in the eyes of others, he can only endure it and respect his elders. He just listens to himself and won't take it seriously.
That's right. Older people think they have been through a lot,
So what I said about some things is also correct. Young people are forced to do things according to their own views. But young people have their own methods and plans, so conflicts often arise because of disagreement. Finally, young people often contradict experienced elders and often complain that young people are disobedient, so young people are rare.
Some experiences given by elders are not so useful now.
Many elders just like to give young people all kinds of advice, saying that they should get married at the age of 20. If they don't get married, nobody will want them. The sooner they get married, the better. People will get angry and lose their temper if they don't listen to themselves. Finally, they will quarrel. Many of their experiences are out of date and simply not suitable for today's society. We should listen to their opinions properly.
The elders like to preach to others for the good of these young people, but many experiences are no longer applicable to this society, and they will still tell them. As the younger generation, they only need to listen, and there is no need to be serious.
It is good for the older generation to remind young people with their long-term accumulated experience and let them dispel their doubts through this word, but the problem is that educators who always "lean on the old and sell the old" always show their elders' identity, which is not easy to accept. Looking at the older generation, if they really "learn", "make a difference in society" or have a certain social status, they don't love "educating" people so much. Most of them like to discuss things with young people. If the discussion is really intense and in-depth, they will feel that they have learned something from young people, but they will lament that they are not as fast as young people in accepting new things. On the other hand, some "mediocre" and "empty for a long time" elders, the more they go to some family gatherings, the more they like to highlight their "family status", and they will always come up with some so-called truths, no matter what they are familiar with or unfamiliar with, or even what they have never been exposed to, they can always talk to Kan Kan with their mouths open.