Lead: Everyone needs spiritual sustenance, emotional dependence and, more importantly, someone to talk to. In the face of children, as parents, we must assume this role, and don't treat children as pets, ignoring the inner communication. The role of parents in children's minds determines whether communication is smooth or not. As parents, we must remember that children are also independent people. They need to talk, rely on and accompany. As long as our parents assume these roles, the risk of puppy love will be minimized.

How to educate puppy love children? First, face up to puppy love and treat it calmly and rationally.

Puppy love is difficult to solve. Adolescent children have serious rebellious psychology. Schools don't like puppy love, so it is difficult to talk about puppy love, so it is easy to cover it up, cover it up, and even let it go, which will eventually lead to bad consequences. If the child is really puppy love, then parents must be cautious, calm and rational, and must not take it lightly. The following points are very important:

1, strive to build the family into a warm and harmonious paradise and make children feel safe. If you find your child puppy love, you should analyze the reasons and solve the problem. Is it caused by the heckling of school classmates? Fact or emotion? Is it the confusion of adolescence or the pressure of study? In short, careful investigation and patient ideological reform are needed.

2. Actively communicate with children. Don't start by asking about your academic performance. You can start with other aspects of life and topics that children are interested in. Communication should pay attention to art, calm down and think hard, in order to find a solution and obtain the ideal educational effect.

3. Keep close contact with the school. Parents should not make a fuss, relax and be embarrassed when they find their children in puppy love. Keep in touch with the school in time, cooperate closely, put down face, communicate actively and cooperate with teachers, and the problem will be solved.

Second, be a good teacher and friend of children, and don't intensify contradictions.

When children are found to be in puppy love, we should look at the problem from a different angle and realize that boys and girls who are psychologically closed can expose their privacy, which just provides parents with educational opportunities. Parents should be their children's mentors and friends, and often talk with their children to win their trust. Puppy love must not be regarded as a scourge, but should be believed to be a natural expression of human emotions. Parents communicate with their children, talk about life, build ideals, talk about morality, guide their children well and answer questions for them.

How to educate puppy love children to communicate with them deeply?

Don't talk about puppy love with your child, and don't? Beat to death with a stick Puppy love, not to mention scolding or humiliating children, will only cause strong resistance and rebellion of children. When talking to children, pretend to be unintentional, and slowly guide them to say some feelings in their hearts. Even if their views are wrong, don't rush to refute them. First, express understanding (but not approval), so that children can slowly put down their guard against you, trust you, and really walk into their hearts.

Tell children what love is.

Tell your children your own story when you were their age? Puppy love? Of course, the ending of the story must be told, okay? Disappointed? Just be good (don't exaggerate), and then take the opportunity to tell your child that love is not just like it. Love is a kind of responsibility, and you must shoulder the burden of yourself, your partner and even several families.

Teach children to be responsible people.

Both boys and girls, parents should educate their children to be responsible people. You tell your child that since you like him (her), you have to bear everything for her (him) for a lifetime. Try to let children know the hardships of life, because at this time, children's sense of responsibility is almost not perfect, and they will shrink back.

Divert the child's attention.

Conditional families can take their children out once after enlightening them, regardless of the distance and the length of time, giving them a time to think for themselves, exposing them to some new things and diverting their attention. During this period, children's psychology changes rapidly, so they generally don't appear? Infatuation? Situation.

Give children some freedom.

Children appear? Puppy love? Phenomenon, as a parent can't help it? Monitoring? Children's behavior will only increase their disgust, is it immature? Puppy love? What will the phenomenon be? Push? . At this time, you should pretend that you don't care about the children. As long as you tell your child that the child can understand you, you can let go and give yourself the freedom to decide for yourself.

How to educate parents who love their children early to know adolescence?

Our parents came from adolescence and have their own feelings about adolescence. However, the keywords of the post-90 s and post-00 s youth are completely different from those of the post-50 s, post-60 s, post-70 s and even post-80 s. They have their own language.

There is a process of human growth and development. According to the different characteristics of different stages of human growth and development, some experts divide a person's life into six stages according to age, namely, the infancy of 0- 1, the childhood of 112, and the childhood of 10- 12. 65438+ Adult age is from 08 to 45 years old (sexual maturity), menopause is from 45 to 48 years old to 50 to 55 years old (sexual degeneration, men will be later than women 10 years), and the old age is after 55-60 years old.

Adolescence is the key period of life growth, and it is the most special and precious period among these six stages. It is the dawn scenery of human beings, and it is also the bimodal period of physical and mental changes. The inner agitation of adolescent children may exceed menopause, and many times we adults don't understand the agitation of adolescent children.

For example, when there is a conflict between parents and children, and the children slam the door and leave, many parents may be very angry about it and even argue with their children impulsively, so parents may have no way out.

At this time, adolescent children will also break out. At this time, parents should not expect their children to apologize to you. Even if they have remorse and guilt, they will not take the initiative to seek peace at this time. Parents should never compete with adolescent children at this time.

A good parent should keep calm if a child's temper breaks out. Many things can be handled coldly, and then find a chance to talk with the children calmly afterwards. Adolescent children also need the understanding and tolerance of their parents.

Adolescent children have a series of changes.

Adolescence has its unique age and symbol. Puberty usually comes around 10- 13 years old, but some children develop earlier, some girls start at 8-9 years old, and some develop later, but generally they will not exceed 18 at the latest.

Adolescence is a special stage of life that everyone must go through, an important process of human transition from childhood to adulthood, and a critical period of personality development. Sexual development is the only physiological sign of this period.

With sexual development, secondary sexual characteristics begin to appear in adolescence.

The second sexual characteristic refers to the sexual characteristics of teenagers' body shape. The boy's changes are mainly reflected in his strong muscles, rapid increase in height, thick beard, prominent Adam's apple and thick voice. The main changes of girls are increased subcutaneous fat, plump figure, widened pelvis and enlarged buttocks.

The above are the physiological characteristics of adolescence, mainly focusing on the maturity of sexual organs, the emergence of secondary sexual characteristics, and the possession of reproductive ability. It is worth noting that adolescent children also have their own unique psychological changes. The most important change is the awakening of their sexual consciousness. Adolescent children, while facing various physiological changes in the process of sexual development, are also experiencing problems caused by inadequate psychological preparation. Their sexual awareness has awakened, they are eager to know about sexual knowledge and are interested in heterosexual sex.

Therefore, children at this stage may be troubled by body image, psychological lock-up, contradiction, sensitivity, impulsiveness, emotional instability, idol worship, youthful mood, youthful depression and so on. Adolescent children are sometimes emotionally unstable, and parents often can't fathom their mood. Children at this stage should not only be independent, but also depend on their parents in many aspects such as economy and life.

For example, my own child, when I ask him what he doesn't want to tell me, he often has only three sentences: I don't know, I forgot, I won't tell you. But all of the above are the unique manifestations of normal adolescent children.