One morning, American mother Jodie was supposed to send her four children to school, but suddenly she had unbearable abdominal pain and had to take her children to the hospital.
When I arrived at the hospital, my mother had to do all kinds of tests, so she had to take the third and fourth children into the clinic together, leaving the eldest and second children (8 years old and 10 years old respectively) outside the clinic and waiting for the neighbors to pick them up for school.
Because it takes neighbors 40 minutes to get to the hospital, while waiting here, something happened that scared everyone-two children were almost kidnapped.
The neighbors came late when three strange adults (a woman and two men) approached them. An adult woman told her child that her boyfriend was ill, but he hid in the toilet and refused to see a doctor. He asked the boy to help him go to the toilet and asked him to come out to see a doctor.
Jody's eldest son CJ, 10 years old, immediately refused: "Sorry, we won't go."
The other two men turned to 8-year-old T-Dawg and pleaded, "If you are willing to go to the bathroom with us to persuade him to come out, you can save his life. You are so kind, you will definitely help us. "
But T-Dawg refused without hesitation: "No."
Forty minutes later, the neighbor came to the hospital to pick up two children. Another man came out of the bathroom, got on a car with three strangers and left the hospital.
Jodie, the mother, came home sick and was scared into a cold sweat after hearing the child's description, so she immediately called the police. The police found through surveillance video that those people were the suspects in a previous child kidnapping case.
The two boys resolutely refused, which enabled them to successfully avoid a possible kidnapping.
Mom Jodie said that the boss CJ still remembers the family safety rules I told them before. Obviously, they are not good adults.
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I know they are cunning adults because they want our help, and adults don't ask children for help.
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Jody explained that she also learned the concept of "cunning man" from Patty Fitzgerald's "Nothing Happened Ever After".
This concept encourages adults to stop associating the word "stranger" with danger.
On the contrary, it advises adults to tell their children that those who ask their children for help when they can ask other adults for help are likely to be cunning people.
Tracing back to the source, I found Pattie Fitzgerald's website /tenrules.html, and found that Safely Ever After is effective for foreign children and also useful for domestic families!
Let's learn the ten safety rules she put forward.
1, I am the boss of my body!
I am the master of my own body.
When we hugged the child, he struggled to get rid of it. Please stop at once and tell him, "If you don't like me touching you, fine, I won't touch you! If you don't like being hugged, kissed or touched by others and feel uncomfortable, you must speak out and refuse others.
Let children respect their bodies, be masters of their bodies from childhood, and learn to refuse and resist, so that danger and injury can stay away from them.
I know my name, address and name. Phone number and my parents' names. Don't forget: children need to know their parents' mobile phone numbers! )
Know your name, home address, parents' phone numbers and names.
Attention! It is necessary for children to know their parents' mobile phone numbers, so that they can contact you when they are in danger or need help.
This point has been mentioned countless times in the Anti-lost and Anti-abduction Law. Let the children remember the phone number firmly, and educate the baby to find the uniformed staff and tell them the phone number once he is lost with his parents in public places.
3. Safe adults will not ask their children for help! ! If they need help, they will go to other adults.
Safe adults will not ask their children for help (if they really need help, they will ask other adults for help). )
This is why Jody's two children were kidnapped.
In daily life, children will meet many strangers. If you just tell him "don't talk to strangers", "don't trust strangers casually", "don't eat strangers" and "strangers are bad people", it will make the child lose his judgment and make him more afraid to play or communicate with others.
Let children learn to judge cunning adults, so that he can protect himself correctly. For example, in these cases, children should learn to refuse:
Adults tell children that my dog is missing. Can you help me find it?
A pregnant aunt said that I have a stomachache. Can you take me to the hospital?
An uncle said, I am lost. Can you take me to xxx? ......
I never go anywhere or take anything from people I don't know.
I'm not going anywhere and I don't take things from strangers.
This coincides with what we have been teaching: "Don't walk with strangers casually" and "Don't eat strangers casually".
Malicious people will always lure children to a certain place for various reasons, or give them dangerous food, so that children can remember not to go with strangers and not to eat strangers' things, so as to avoid some dangerous things.
5. I must "get" the consent of smart adults: before I go anywhere, change my plans or get on the bus, even with people I know. If I can't check first, then the answer is no!
Before I go with others or get on the bus, I must first confirm with adults (teachers, parents) who I think are safe and get permission before I go. If you can't confirm, the answer is no.
This is very important. If children can't judge whether this person is a good person or not, they can ask their familiar teachers and parents for help, which can help avoid dangerous things.
6. Everyone's swimsuit area is private.
The body parts covered by swimsuits are private, so you can't let others touch them casually.
These private body parts are accessible only to parents and doctors. Parents can only watch it when they help their children bathe, wipe their bottoms and change diapers, and doctors can only touch it when they examine their children. At other times, children have to refuse.
7. If someone makes me feel scared or uncomfortable, I don't have to be polite. If necessary, it doesn't matter if you say no to an adult.
I don't have to be so polite all the time. When others make me feel scared and uncomfortable, please refuse loudly and say "no"
Learning to refuse is the first step for children to stay away from danger and injury.
8. I don't keep secrets ... especially when secrets make me feel scared or uneasy. No adult should tell children to keep secrets.
I don't keep secrets, especially when it makes me feel scared or uneasy. No adult will let children keep a secret.
If I get lost in a public place, I will be scared & shouting or going to ask my mother with children for help.
If I get lost in public, I will calm down and shout, or ask my mother with children for help.
First of all, parents should also ensure that when taking their children out, they should hold their children's hands, let them put on anti-lost shoes or wear children's smart watches, and ensure that their children are always in their sight. If separated from the child, the child can also seek help to contact his parents through the above methods.
10, I will always pay attention to my special inner voice, especially when I feel "uh-oh".
I will listen to my inner voice, especially when I have dangerous intuition.
Teaching children how to protect themselves is more important than anything else! This 10 safety rule is recommended for your children to remember.
Author: mother rabbit head. Authorized reprint from micro-signal bald mother said parenting
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