"Home" is the most important place in a person's life. Not a market, a unit, a circle. "Affection" is the coagulant and lubricant of family members, and it is a necessity and luxury in family life. The reason why it is home is because there is love and family members are willing to make it better. In order to make it better, they constantly pay everything they can, and this kind of pay does not ask for anything in return. Because there is love, because it is home, and because I love everyone in this family.

There is a saying in psychology, internal motivation and external motivation. Strengthening external motivation (such as money or gifts) will gradually weaken children's internal motivation and make them ignore the real reason for doing it, so this method is effective in the short term and harmful in the long run. But on the contrary, if children can get happiness, a sense of accomplishment and self-confidence in the labor itself, that is the ideal state. It is often heard that some parents want their children to earn pocket money by doing housework and get paid by working. This seems reasonable and seems to have played a certain role in cultivating children's view of money. But this practice will affect children's correct judgment and growth concept for a long time.

How to motivate children?

1. Money can't be a bait for children to do housework.

Of course, social work needs money as a reward (except volunteers), and a family needs cooperation, trust and commitment. Rewarding children with money is weakening their initiative, which is not internal motivation. Any work in the family needs cooperation. Living in a family is a good reward for a child, so he needs his parents' approval for what he has done, not money to perfunctory it.

Second, let children experience the joy of labor being recognized.

Parents can train their children to do housework through correct and appropriate guidance. Parents are their children's first teachers and should set an example for them. When doing housework, they can teach children that labor is a virtue. When you do housework by yourself, you can seize the opportunity to let your child do it together and make him feel happy doing housework. After children participate in housework, it is mainly verbal praise. In fact, children are very satisfied with the praise and affirmation from their parents. When a child helps an adult finish something and says "You are great, my child", maybe he will be very happy and find a sense of accomplishment.

Third, cultivate children's good habits of doing things by themselves.

Cultivate the space for children to organize daily and do their own laundry. Of course, children are children after all, but after they do some housework, give them some encouragement, such as rewarding small gifts or taking them out to play. Or by accumulating medals, you can give a medal or a small red flower after completing a day's housework, and you can exchange a certain number of medals for prizes. At the same time, playing games and telling stories are also good forms to encourage children to do housework.

Fourth, make detailed plans and implement them.

If parents want to get rid of their children's bad habits, they need to implement them in detail. To achieve the ultimate goal, what relevant information is needed, what small goals are completed first, and what specific arrangements are made every day of the week ... These are all things that need to be considered. Once formulated, they must be strictly implemented.

Verb (short for verb) tells others what you want to accomplish.

Let the children tell the right people what they want to achieve, so that the children themselves will feel invisible pressure and have to do it in order to abide by what they have said, and the people around them can also help supervise.

Listen to the experience of people who get rid of bad habits.

If someone around your child successfully gets rid of some bad habits, you can ask your child for some good experiences and suggestions. You can also learn some cases from books or online, find out the methods suitable for children, and implement methods to get rid of bad habits.