In the implementation of family education, parents blindly treat their children, spoil them, or criticize them all the time, which will lead to prejudice. Yan Zhitui advocated the combination of strictness and kindness in Yan Family Instructions. He said: "If parents are dignified and kind, their children will be afraid and filial." That is, as long as parents have dignity and love, children will naturally feel awe and filial piety.
Brief introduction of Yan jiaxun.
Yan's Family Instructions, based on the textual research of famous things, discusses the exegesis of words and discriminates the temperament. It is quite meaningful to "understand the past and the present, and be serious about illness", which embodies Yan's extensive knowledge and profound attainments. Family Instructions of Yanshi was written after Emperor Wen of Sui Dynasty destroyed the State of Chen and before Yang Di ascended the throne (about the end of 6th century AD).
Since its publication, this book has been a model of family education in China's long feudal society, which has been widely circulated and enduring. The main reason is that the contents of the book basically meet the needs of Confucian scholars in feudal society to educate their children and grandchildren, and put forward some practical educational methods and ideas, as well as a practical new concept of talent training that advocates "governing the country and managing the family well", inheriting and developing the traditional educational thought of "sincerity, sincerity, self-cultivation, keeping the family in order, managing the country and leveling the world" with the purpose of "understanding human relations"
Refer to the above? Baidu Encyclopedia-Yan Jiaxun