While parents are busy making a living, they must take time to learn more about their children, communicate with children, nannies and teachers, and try to fully grasp their children's performance in kindergartens and families. The more you know, the less you misunderstand. In this way, once the child is really disobedient, he will know more about how to guide the child.

2. Absorb educational knowledge

The society is changing, the environment for children to grow up is also changing, and the way of education will naturally continue to improve. As parents, we should be duty-bound to actively absorb new educational knowledge. In the traditional way of parenting education, most parents use authority to educate their children, and beating and scolding punishment is an important method of authoritative education. Absorbing new knowledge can help parents jump out of their own growth experience and adjust their educational concepts in time.

3. Listen to your children patiently

If parents are impatient and aggressive, the most direct response to disobedient children is usually swearing. At this point, Mr. Cheng suggested that parents calm down first, try to be patient and ask the children what the reason is. When parents' minds have been focused on understanding their children's thoughts and trying to help them solve problems, they may find that their children's behaviors are actually excusable and release a lot of negative emotions.

4. Really put down your body

Some parents always like to be dignified in front of their children and are used to treating their children with the above attitude. Therefore, whenever a child makes a mistake, the first thing that comes to mind is to punish the child. Teacher Cheng especially suggested that parents should really put down their bodies, respect their children from the heart, stop talking to their children in a condescending tone and treat them as adults. Don't always say "no" to children, but give them multiple-choice questions and let them make their own decisions. If the child is old enough and there is no problem with his expression ability, he can also let the child come up with a solution or alternative.

Step 5 reason with your child

In addition to the usual warnings, parents should also teach their children some truth in actual situations. Let the child have empathy, let him stand in the perspective of others and truly understand how his actions will affect others. As for the way of reasoning, the depth of explanation can be chosen according to the age of children, especially children can tell stories.

Step 6 let the children experience it

If children always don't listen to adults, parents can also let their children "eat their own fruit" on the premise of ensuring safety and not having adverse consequences. Through their own practical experience, children will be able to deeply understand how correct and important their parents' teaching is.

7. negotiate with your children

Don't always ask children to live according to the wishes of adults, so not only children suffer, but even adults suffer. Children are human beings, and of course they have their own things to do. Therefore, it may be a good idea to negotiate with your child and take a step back. For example, if the child wants to jump on the sofa, but the parents have something to consider, they can let the child jump on the bed in the bedroom, or let him jump later, or try to take the child to the park to jump after the parents have handled the matter.

8. Don't teach children when you are angry.

In a state of extreme anger, parents certainly can't discipline their children in a rational way. Therefore, when parents can't calm down anyway, Mr. Cheng suggested that parents leave the scene temporarily, or divert their attention to other things, such as calling friends to chat and listening to music. When you calm down, talk to your children.

9. Revise expectations for children.

Sometimes parents are really too eager for success and often set standards for their children that they can't do. Maybe parents think they can do it, but in fact they have never done it! You know, it is normal for children to be young, active, stubborn and forgetful. If parents really want to make demands on their children, they should also consider their growth. Don't always look at their performance with a magnifying glass.

10, treat children sincerely.

Some parents always like to use a tone of accusation or command when communicating with their children, which often makes it difficult for children to accept. Expert Cheng believes that the communication between parents and children should be sincere and there is no distance. Parents can honestly explain their worries or emotions to their children and let them know that his behavior will make you sad, or make you worry and fear. As long as the tone is calm and sincere, you will find that children are actually willing to understand their parents!