1. Respect for others begins with talking. Although children often stay at school after school and spend less time with their parents, in their hearts, parents are always their most important teachers. Although children don't explicitly say that they want to learn from their parents, parents' ways of speaking and attitudes towards people around them will exert a subtle influence on children, and even lead to a crisis of trust in their parents. As parents, we should first pay attention to the way we speak to our spouses. If we often complain, criticize and even insult each other, it will have a negative impact on our children: so our parents are such people! On the other hand, if you can always see each other's good points and praise each other, your child will also become a loving person.
2. Clear division of labor to cultivate children's team consciousness. The traditional marriage in China is that the woman is in charge of the household and the man is in charge of the household. But in the eyes of children, this division of labor is a bit too authoritarian. They will wonder: Why does Dad never do housework? Why does mother do all the housework alone? This will make children feel that this family is a mother who has been fighting alone. Every family member should take care of the family. If the mother washes the dishes, the father should take out the garbage or help the children with their homework. Everyone's participation can give children a sense of self-worth and teamwork.
3. How to quarrel and apologize It is normal to quarrel in marriage and family. You must first learn to control your emotions in front of children. Even if you quarrel, you should pay attention to art, especially the way you speak. For example, when one party disagrees with the other, you can say, "I know you may feel good about it, and I am trying my best to understand you, but I must also have the opportunity to express my different opinions." ? Commitment plays an important role in marriage and family relations. If you fail to do or forget what you promised your partner to do, you must sincerely apologize. Apologizing can make up for the wound, and the process of repairing feelings can also give children a vivid lesson and let them know how to deal with contradictions and frictions between people.
4. Intimacy of parents helps to cultivate children's independence. Many parents believe that if they have children, they should not be too close to them for fear that they will "learn badly". Intimate hugs and kisses between lovers can let children know that their parents are not their own at an early age, which can effectively avoid children's bad habits of blindness, strength and bullying, and also improve their ability to live independently.