First, children lack setbacks.
Some people think that children need frustration education urgently because their living conditions are too superior, they lack frustration training, and their psychological quality is too poor to bear setbacks. In fact, with the rapid development of modern society, all kinds of problems have appeared. Students who live in it are not short of setbacks. On the contrary, they are the real understanding, support, guidance and help of parents and teachers when facing setbacks and failures in life.
On the one hand, children themselves can't cope with setbacks well. On the one hand, parents are too fond of their children's affairs and take care of everything in their lives, which makes children encounter more difficulties in the face of the complex external world. On the other hand, the current exam-oriented education overemphasizes academic performance and knowledge education, and the fierce competition for further studies makes students face the threat of failure and frustration.
Second, frustration education is corporal punishment.
Some parents and teachers ignore children's physical and mental health, deliberately set up some absurd obstacles on their growth path, hurt their psychology, and even agree with frustration education.
There are many parents who beat their children, and often beating their children will cause two results. One is to beat him. When he is angry at home, he will hit others, and eventually he will hit a mess. The second is to beat a coward and give the child a punch and a foot. The biggest harm to children is not the pain of flesh and blood, but the insult of personality and mental injury.
Thirdly, frustration education is suffering education.
Because contemporary children are overindulged, many people think that frustration education is suffering education, which is to consciously create some difficulties, teach children to handle them independently, overcome them, let them be tempered in difficulties, get rid of them, and cultivate a strong will to face difficulties and a spirit of hard work.
Under this concept, many people ignore the psychological characteristics, physiological characteristics and physical limitations of teenagers in frustration education, which makes them suffer unnecessary harm in frustration education. In life, people don't need to deliberately experience loneliness, loneliness and failure. What people need is to feel love and see the hope of life when they feel lonely, lonely and frustrated, so as to enhance their determination to overcome difficulties.
Fourthly, frustration education has nothing to do with appreciation education.
Some people say: "Education should be eighteen martial arts, which should be used together with appreciation, encouragement, criticism and punishment." This is really insightful.
At present, it is generally reflected that students' psychological endurance is not strong, which has a lot to do with the failure to organically combine appreciation education with frustration education. If you don't appreciate it when you should appreciate it, or if you don't appreciate it properly, don't criticize it when you criticize it, or beat and scold your children, of course, you won't get a good educational effect.
The object of education is people, and people's thoughts and emotions are very complicated, which requires strong flexibility and mobility in the education of children. In this case, parents should be more wise and rational when educating their children.