Hello!

First of all, thank you for your understanding and support of experimental school education and teaching! In order to better form the joint efforts of home-school education, let your children develop good study habits and behavior habits, and grow up healthily and happily, our primary school organized this parent-teacher meeting.

As we all know, parents are children's first and lifelong teachers, and families are children's first and lifelong schools. Therefore, the role of family education is very important. You can attend the parent-teacher conference at school on time, which shows that you attach great importance to children's education. As the saying goes, "if you don't farm for a year, your child will be taught all his life." The quality of family education affects the quality of a child's growth. Therefore, as parents, we should adopt correct educational methods, make concerted efforts with schools, and create a good environment for children's growth. Gu Xiaoming, a family education expert, said this:

Family education is professional and can improve the quality of our education;

Family education is simple and can serve every student's parents;

Family education is practical and can solve specific problems around us;

Family education is scientific and can change our living conditions.

Many parents have had such helplessness: children nowadays are too difficult to educate! Severe criticism, reasonable preaching, great appreciation, and ruthless punishment have been tried countless times, but many times they have little effect, or the child is just "three minutes of blood." Children's education is really a headache for many people. In fact, if we think differently, our education may be a different scene. We are facing people, people's hearts and people's desire for goodness and beauty. For schools, "what kind of people to cultivate" is very important. Because the primary school stage is a critical period for children's healthy psychology and personality formation. As a school, "teaching students to be human" is the primary task. Because school education is a group-oriented education, it is not only to cultivate high-tech experts at the top of the pyramid, but to cultivate high-quality social citizens and enhance national literacy. Therefore, school education should be based on morality. The ultimate goal of education is not the level of grades, but educating people, which is to help students discover their own hearts and then cultivate a real person. Therefore, moral education should be an extension of heartfelt love, which needs to renew ideas, emphasize art, innovate methods and find another way. This requires the educational wisdom and art of our parents.

Nowadays, children have strong dependence, poor self-care ability, insufficient courage to challenge difficulties and weak will quality. As schools and families, we should work together to cultivate children's awareness of rules and responsibilities, strengthen love education and labor education, and rationally use appreciation education. Today, the school wants to talk about some suggestions about the influence of parents on their children.

First, the awareness of rules

"If you don't follow the rules, you can't be Fiona Fang." Everyone knows this, and the reason is self-evident. Rules are curves and moments are straight lines. "Gauge" is a circle and "moment" is a square. We should understand and learn from honest and frank. The smoothness of curves and the sense of inclusive rules of "circle" are cultivated from childhood and will be used for life. To use a fashionable word now, we must always abide by the "rules of the game", otherwise, we are out. Then the school also has school rules. As a parent, do you intend to cultivate children's awareness of rules? This requires us as parents to seriously reflect on some of our own practices.

For example, the school requires not to buy snacks at the school gate after school. The purpose is to let children develop good behavior habits and hygiene habits and be educated people. Some parents held Sugar-Coated Berry high, crossed their feet and stood in line to pick up their children, and then handed the schoolbag to Sugar-Coated Berry like a hero in triumph.

For another example, we educate students to develop good hygiene habits and not litter. However, some of our parents seem to take it for granted when they see their children throwing paper, and even throw some publicity materials received at the school gate on the ground.

For another example, the school requires parents to pick up their children at designated places and park their cars across the road, with the aim of standardizing the order after school, ensuring the safety of students and minimizing the impact on road traffic. Some parents push their cars or simply park their cars at the door. As soon as their children walk to the school gate, they rush to shout out, just for their own convenience. What's more, children don't go out in advance when they listen to the teacher's words, and when they follow the team, some of our parents cross the protective line and drag their children out and take them away like robbing people, which makes them reluctant. To tell the truth, when we see this phenomenon, we really have nothing to say but smile helplessly. There are many students in our school. Thank you very much for your trust in the school. We all hope that the experimental school will be better and better, and the quality of students and parents will be higher and higher. After school, if you can walk a few more steps and park your car across the street, you can make more space and provide convenience for other parents who pick up their children. If you can wait for the child at the designated place, you can let the parents behind you see the child and let the child walk more spacious without going up the steps and squeezing the protective rope. If you can believe that the school will take the most appropriate measures in case of special weather, you will not forcibly enter the campus and rush into the teaching building without listening to the security guards, resulting in disorder after school. Experimental schools are the best, and the quality of parents of students in experimental schools should also be the highest. We hope that parents of experimental schools can start from themselves and set an example for their children. If the vast majority of people can consciously abide by the rules, then a few people who don't follow the rules will become the target of public criticism; If everyone can have more sense of justice and responsibility, those small and medium-sized vendors who are mixed with their parents will have no market and will naturally stop making trouble.

The awareness of rules can be formed not by the school's preaching, but by the students' growth, and the parents' subtle influence is very important. We should guide and educate our children from the front, so that they can realize from an early age that they can achieve something only if they are good enough, and they must not take shortcuts from an early age.

Second, the sense of responsibility.

Being responsible is a virtue and an excellent quality. We should educate our children from an early age to dare to take responsibility and take responsibility.

What do you do when children are afraid of being criticized and punished by teachers because they are playful and don't do their homework? Do you want to help your child tell a little lie that he left his homework at home, or do you want the child to bear it himself?

When a child accidentally does something wrong and is afraid of being dealt with by the school, do you educate the child to learn from his mistakes or help him find reasons to lighten his responsibilities?

When children damage class or school property, do you educate children to consciously compensate or strongly deny it?

When your child is in conflict with other children, do you educate your child to be tolerant and correct mistakes, or do you make sense?

When your child accidentally causes some physical harm to other children, do you educate your child to dare to take responsibility and actively treat it, or do you try to excuse and reduce responsibility?

We say this because such a thing has happened before. It seems that we take advantage of one thing at a time, but in fact, we have formed a bad cognition about children: we can lie, escape, shirk and be irresponsible. Maybe you lost some money, but what you got was an excellent quality that no amount of money can buy for a child. Although the matter is small, it has a great impact, which deserves our parents' deep thinking.

Third, the education of love.

Today's children get a steady stream of love, but rarely know how to love others. Children are spoiled and drowned by adults. The education of love is indispensable.

First of all, to educate children, only by learning to love themselves can we love parents, families, teachers and classmates; Only when we know how to love our classes and schools now can we love our society and our motherland when we grow up.

Love yourself, pay attention to your image in the eyes of classmates and teachers, always shape yourself, and don't destroy your image casually. For example, self-study classes are not disciplined, such as often playing with classmates, such as running around in the corridor without seeing Zhou Sheng, such as deliberately doing some small bad things (throwing waste paper and empty water bottles; Buckle the wastebasket in the bathroom; The toilet is in the wastebasket; Dump garbage into urinals or pools; Destroy tables and chairs, step on the lawn and step on the rest stool; Stuffing garbage into the sewers of plastic playgrounds. Perhaps the children think that these behaviors are harmless, but in fact, these behaviors have been unconsciously portrayed in the minds of classmates. The establishment of a person's image in other people's minds is not a one-off event, but the accumulation of many small things. Don't ruin yourself.

We should also learn to love our parents, teachers and classmates. Will children say goodbye to you when they leave home or walk into the campus? When you see the teacher, can you say hello to him? Parents do things for their children, will children say thank you? Can you say goodbye to the teacher after school? Will students take the initiative to help if they have difficulties?

We must learn to love classes and schools. The class cleaning tool is broken. Can you add one voluntarily? The class curtains need cleaning. Can you finish them voluntarily? The construction of class culture and campus culture needs planning. Can you volunteer? Can you take the initiative to stop things that damage classes and schools? Love the class and school as much as your home, be the master of the class and school, have a sense of responsibility and mission, which is the embodiment of great love.

Fourth, labor education.

Nowadays, children are ready-made, and their working ability is getting weaker and weaker. I can't do housework, even my own business. The place where schools can cultivate children's working ability is mainly sanitation and cleaning. As a parent, I don't want my children to delay writing morning self-study homework because of cleaning in the morning, and I also feel bad that my children come to the playground to clean up early in the cold wind in winter. So many children will be late when they are on duty. Parents may think it's okay to be a little late. In fact, not only do children have no correct understanding of labor, but it is also not conducive to cultivating their sense of responsibility. Labor is a kind of ability. I hope that parents should cultivate their children's ability, support their children in cleaning, urge their children not to be late, and educate them to finish cleaning tasks seriously. In addition, at home at ordinary times, be sure to let children do some work within their power. Don't let children become learning machines.

Verb (abbreviation of verb) appreciation education

Appreciation education has been strongly advocated by educators and parents, and has been widely recognized by students. As parents, we should believe that children have the potential for progress, communicate with them in the tone of encouragement and praise, find out the bright spots of their progress and changes in time, praise them in time, and give them more confidence, so as to encourage them to develop good study habits and autonomous learning ability. For children with poor grades, parents can't just throw cold water on them, can't always demand perfection, and should not give up. Let children feel the happiness brought by learning, encourage small progress and improve their interest in active learning. Only when a child has a sense of small success can he strive for great success.

1, from loving children to understanding children, communicate with your heart.

Love in nature is convergent, and only love for children is separated. No matter how much love we put into our children, we will never think that our children can repay us and accompany us in the future. This is a kind of selfless love. I think all the material needs given to children are for loving children, but such love is not desirable. Have you considered whether your education method can be accepted by children? Do you understand their needs? Today's children have high IQ, vulnerability and poor psychological endurance. As long as you deny them, they will think that they can't do it well. Children also hate to compare their own advantages with others, so we should know how to love them. When the child was young, we would listen to him and ask him how he was studying today, whether he was happy or not, what problems he couldn't solve, and so on. Why don't children want to tell their parents this when they grow up? This should be related to our long-term love education. When the child grows up, we parents will have no patience to listen to him, or we will get bored when he talks and feel that he can't tell meaningful content. This is because parents don't really communicate with their children, can't go deep into their hearts, and can't really understand their needs.

2. Strengthen advantages, dilute disadvantages and enhance children's self-confidence.

Appreciation education is characterized by paying attention to children's advantages and strengths, fully affirming and constantly strengthening, gradually forming the trend of starting a prairie fire, and awakening children in the mentality of "I am a good boy". As parents, we should try our best to tap the advantages of children and enhance their self-confidence. When parents often blame their children, children will feel that their self-esteem has been hurt and their emotions will be agitated. If there are too many negative things, it is difficult for children to have an optimistic attitude. They will think that they can't do anything well and deny themselves. We should pay attention to the child's subtle changes, praise his progress, let him taste the positive sweetness, and the child will continue to make progress. We should comfort, encourage and encourage children's mistakes from a caring perspective. Di Huisi, a French educator, said: The art of education lies not in imparting skills, but in promoting motivation and encouragement. This kind of emotional encouragement and encouragement is valuable to every child's personal dignity and will produce gratifying power for them.

3. Appreciate children and let them experience success.

A successful experience will make a person upward forever. The more successful a person has, the higher his expectation and the stronger his sense of accomplishment. Some parents will educate and appreciate their children according to their growth rules when they are young, but they can't do it when they grow up. The reason is mostly because as children grow up, parents are busier at work, life and work are more stressful, and there is not much time to listen to their children's voices. Children will not care too much about happy, troubled and helpless things. Over time, children don't want to tell their parents anything.

Many parents also hope to adopt the method of appreciation education, but it is awkward to use it now. Indeed, it has been useless for too long, and it is difficult for both sides to suddenly accept this way. Here, I might as well introduce you to a method, which is to create an environment for children to experience success. For example, if a child leaves something at home and his room is in a mess, we can call the child to him and say, "How do you feel at home now?" He would say, "It's a mess, like a dump." Ask him again, "Our house is like a garbage dump. What should we do? " He would say, "Pack your things." Then let him clean the room by himself. He may ask why he was asked to do it, and then we can tell him, "I'll tell you after you clean the room." When he is ready, we can ask him to talk about the difference between before and after, and he will say that it is much cleaner now. At this time, we will affirm the fruits of his labor, praise his behavior, and let him realize the value after labor, which will naturally be much better. Appreciation makes children have a sense of accomplishment, appreciation makes children happier and appreciation makes children better and better.

4. Seize the opportunity of education and improve children's right and wrong judgment.

People often say: it's now or never. On the battlefield, a good commander is always good at seizing those fleeting opportunities and winning the war. Although our education work is not a war, we also need to seize the opportunity. Give another example. After hard work, a child became the monitor of the class. When he came back, he told his parents happily. What he didn't expect was the parents' answer: "It's so happy to be the monitor, and it's still far from the monitor." Perhaps our purpose is to encourage children to work harder and not be proud, but the child's heart is fragile. When his joy is exchanged for a pot of cold water or indifference, or even a sneer, imagine the child's psychology at this time. Will children still study with confidence? In fact, what a good opportunity to educate children! If we can make good use of it, we can easily achieve good results. We should say, "You're great. This is the result of your hard work. It is also your teacher's recognition and your parents' support. If you continue to work hard, maybe we will become a member of the squadron! " In this way, the child sounds sweet, has a goal of hard work, and knows that this opportunity benefits from the efforts of teachers and parents, not just their own credit. For children, education is no big deal, as long as we always use a love to find the bright spots in children, be good at catching any fleeting educational opportunities, and lose no time to give encouragement, guide and give play to children's "goodness." Such children are kind-hearted, good at words and good at action. If they use goodness to guide themselves and judge things, their adaptability and judgment will be strong.

Appreciating children means that children can easily receive education and correct themselves in happiness. Appreciation is indispensable sunshine, air and water in children's spiritual life. Education without appreciation is incomplete, but appreciation is not everything. Proper appreciation will make children feel like spring breeze, while improper appreciation will make children feel at a loss and feel ridiculous. Therefore, in appreciation education, we should pay attention to the following problems.

First, appreciation should have a good attitude. Appreciation of children should not be emotional, but should adhere to principles. If the child is wrong, he should point it out. If the child knows, he can't blame the child with emotion. However, if a child promised to do something but didn't do it, such as playing after finishing his homework, but finally playing without doing his homework, he should be severely criticized and even punished. This is to stick to the principle. Let the children know that their own affairs should be solved by themselves, and they should take responsibility if they don't do well.

Second, the appreciation should be sustained. No one likes fishing for three days and drying nets for two days. For children, the most elusive thing is the sudden change of parents. Children will feel at a loss in the ever-changing education of their parents, so the appreciation of children should be lasting. After a few days of appreciation, children will think that their parents are putting on a show, and it will be difficult to implement it again.

Third, appreciation should know how to cooperate. A child will come into contact with all kinds of people and environments in the process of growing up, among which parents and teachers are the most influential people, and the most important environment is family and school, so the cooperation between teachers and parents is particularly important. As a teacher, it is not easy to tell students how hard their parents are; Parents should also tell their children how difficult it is to teach, that is, praise each other. The same is true of cooperation between husband and wife. If Qi Xin makes concerted efforts to actively change the status quo, children will feel safe, warm and hopeful through the joint efforts of teachers and parents.

Simply put, appreciation education is a kind of love education without emotion, utility and return; It is a positive attitude education; It is a belief education that firmly believes in children's "behavior". In short, there is no fixed method in teaching, the key is to find the right method. Appreciation education is also a method of virtue education for children.

6. Introduce 10 the best time for parents to educate their children.

1, at the beginning of the new semester

When a new year, a new semester begins or children enter a new learning environment, they will have new consciousness and new ability. At this time, parents will take advantage of the situation and win the battle.

When children enjoy the joy of success.

If parents can put forward clear and specific requirements on the basis of congratulations and encouragement, they will receive satisfactory results.

3. When the child feels wronged.

If parents can take the initiative to help their children explain with a calm, tolerant and sympathetic attitude, children will be grateful and will easily accept their parents' warnings.

4. When parents communicate with teachers.

Parents should tell their teachers the advantages of their children and point out their shortcomings in a hopeful tone, instead of simply "complaining".

5. When children encounter difficulties or failures.

Parents should not be reprimanded, but should affirm their children's achievements, point out their shortcomings and help them out of the "predicament".

6. When the child has a big mistake,

At this time, parents' understanding, sympathy and consideration are what children need most. In many cases, good results can be achieved through persuasion.

7. When a child has a strong interest in something,

Parents should actively support and encourage their children to seek knowledge and encourage them to study in depth.

8. When there are large-scale group activities.

This is an excellent opportunity to educate children to abide by discipline, win glory for the collective and cultivate the collective concept.

9. When others get the results.

Children often secretly make up their minds that "I also want to achieve something." Parents should seize this opportunity, set appropriate goals for their children, and turn their children's temporary enthusiasm into lasting actions.

10, when going out as a guest or having visitors.

Generally speaking, children like to listen to good words and don't want to make a fool of themselves in front of others, so at this time, we should pay attention to protecting children's self-esteem, don't "expose shortcomings" in front of guests, talk more about children's advantages and strengths, and put forward hope appropriately.

Your children need our education, and our education needs your cooperation. Behind every successful child, there are successful parents. For the sake of children's future, please reflect on your own family education ideas and methods. For the growth of children, please pay more attention to them and make more preparations for their growth. I recommend several books to parents, which are well worth reading: Never lose in family education, A good mother is better than a good teacher, and Education of Love.

Let's work together for your children and our students!