Middle school students' emotions and feelings are not stable enough and are in a transitional period. Some students are not good at controlling and regulating their emotions. For example, sometimes I feel sad or lose my temper because of a little thing, and sometimes I feel depressed because of an unsatisfactory exam. Some students are often troubled by negative emotions such as pessimism, melancholy, loneliness and nervousness, resulting in low interest in learning, inattention and lack of initiative and consciousness; Even some students have the idea of killing themselves because of the unsuccessful exams or the great pressure of study. Thus, self-emotional control is particularly important. So how can we effectively control our emotions?

Controlling emotions is not a simple suppression, but focuses on self-education, self-guidance, self-evaluation and self-adjustment. Whenever students have bad emotions, I focus on guiding students to carry out self-education and improve their self-awareness level. It is divided into three steps. The first step is to face the reality. Ask students to accept and face up to their own bad emotions, because everyone is not always positive and optimistic, and it is normal to have some bad emotions occasionally. Know what your mood is, that is, what mood or mentality, and let students know some physical manifestations (posture, speech, facial expression, posture, etc.). When they are in a bad mood. Such as crying when you are sad, gnashing your teeth when you hate, and being at a loss when you are afraid. Train students to calm down by taking deep breaths and diverting attention. The second step is to find the reason and the root cause. Find out when, for whom and why you had bad emotions, focus on analyzing your subjective reasons, and recall what similar bad emotions you had, as well as the experience and harmfulness of being entangled in these emotions. The third step is the solution. Guide students to understand that any bad emotions can be controlled and transformed, such as "turning grief into strength" and "transcending inferiority". Guide students to actively seek effective ways to control their emotions, such as communicating with others through language to gain their understanding or divert their energy (listening to music, walking, etc.). ) to ease your emotions. Practice shows that guiding students to carry out self-education and self-criticism and improve their self-awareness ability have achieved good results in controlling bad emotions.

Second, pay attention to frustration education; Enhance psychological endurance

The road of life is not always smooth, and setbacks are inevitable for everyone. However, some students have weak psychological endurance, can't stand the test of setbacks, and are negative and pessimistic in the face of setbacks, which affects their normal study and life, and even leads to psychological obstacles and affects their physical and mental health. Especially in today's high-tech era, fierce competition, fast pace and many kinds have brought people a stronger emotional impact, making contradictions and conflicts more common and sharp. Therefore, the class teacher should seriously make up the lesson of frustration education for students.

Psychological research shows that the ability to bear setbacks, like other psychological qualities, can be improved through study and exercise. In daily education, students are often educated to consciously tolerate and accept setbacks in daily life and study, understand that "failure is the mother of success", and understand that many weather-beaten people who have experienced ups and downs in life can endure setbacks and do more than those who are smooth sailing. I often organize a series of "frustration education" activities according to students' ideological reality, such as "Sixteen-year-old Flower Season", "Great Man in Youth", "I in 2 1 century" class meeting, "Love my China, love my class" speech contest, debate contest and so on. At the same time, we should consciously set up certain frustration education scenarios, integrate frustration education into daily education work, and organize some difficult activities (mountain climbing and voluntary labor) regularly to temper students' will and cultivate their ability to overcome difficulties. For students with learning difficulties, it is important to help them build up confidence and understand the truth that "diligence can make up for mistakes" and "stupid birds fly first"; Help them make a study plan, cultivate their interest in learning and enhance their initiative and consciousness in learning; For students from poor families, pay attention to guiding them to be self-reliant; For girls, pay attention to guide them to be confident, self-reliant, self-respecting and self-loving. All these have effectively improved students' ability to bear setbacks.

Third, pay attention to optimistic education and create good mood.

Optimism is to look at the real world around us with a tolerant, accepting, cheerful and positive attitude, which can promote people's physical and mental health well. Therefore, teachers should pay attention to optimistic education and create a good mood.

How to make yourself optimistic? Miller and Dana, two American psychologists, believe that most optimistic people are self-loving, confident, self-controlled, extroverted and easy to associate with others through careful investigation and research. In view of this, I enhance students' self-confidence through goal motivation; Cultivate students' social skills through cooperative learning; Guide students to think in many directions and cultivate dialectical thinking ability; Efforts should be made to cultivate students' sense of humor, treat environmental pressure with a relaxed mood, treat life with a smile and other effective measures to cultivate students' optimism, so that they can correctly understand the meaning of life, love society, love life, love learning, love nature, be confident, positive and optimistic.

In short, for the healthy growth of students, the improvement of teaching quality and the full implementation of quality education, we must attach importance to the cultivation of students' psychological quality.