1. I didn't raise my children according to my original intention and set a clear development direction for my children, but the necessary care and education were not omitted. We first learn to communicate with each other, learn how to cultivate the feelings between mother and daughter, and learn how to talk to her. Children are born naive and like to listen to happy things, and unhappy things will cause disgust. It is important not to preach to children. Just telling children big ideas may not have a good effect, and even talking too much will alienate you and make you unable to communicate. As a parent, I think I can make my children like you and get close to you, which is the first step to success. Next, list the gains and losses in practical examples to the children, put yourself in her shoes, talk on an equal footing, and occasionally tell some truth, and the children will accept it. The reason should be easy to understand, as long as she understands, she will stop immediately. If she talks endlessly, no matter how important it is, she will ignore it. In addition, after the children have a harmonious relationship with their parents, they will naturally ask many questions for their parents to answer. Parents must seriously answer questions within their power; If you can't answer, you should also give a full reply and discuss it with your child. If the child is disappointed, she will stop asking questions and obstacles will begin to appear.
No matter what the child is interested in, even if it doesn't help her obviously, you must never object easily. Parents must learn how to "fly with the wind". Of course, people will say that it is not that easy to do, especially when I am busy, I only care about the majesty of adults. I often make such mistakes when I am upset. Education and training are two inseparable parts. Children's thinking is born out of curiosity and interest, and parents should never erase the traces of their children's flashes. In response to children's curiosity or all kinds of strange questions, we always patiently answer them and observe them with them, so that they can enlighten their wisdom and use their brains in the process of experiencing feelings. We let her try and exercise all her interests, such as calligraphy, cycling and playing ball games. Every child has his strengths, so parents should develop their strengths and avoid weaknesses, be good at tapping their children's strengths and consciously cultivate them. I think parents should be familiar with or good at the relevant content of children's specialties, and lead and encourage their children to keep learning together. I believe that the income will be high.
3. Paying attention to children's ideological and moral education is the first factor and key to determine their future life path. In the process of growing up, children will inevitably be affected by some negative or negative influences from the surrounding environment. Therefore, we can educate children from the front, help them distinguish right from wrong, and cultivate their kindness, tolerance, positive optimism and compassion. Good qualities such as objectivity and justice, as well as codes of conduct such as loving the collective, respecting teachers and abiding by all rules and regulations. Cultivating children's good behavior habits is an important part of character formation. Once good behavior habits are developed, children will benefit for life. Let children do what they can, and let children develop the habit of independent learning and thinking. We should consciously guide children to make their own study plans, correct their own problems and strive for progress. To educate children, we must start with small things, find bad clues, correct them in time, nip in the bud and avoid connivance. It is very wrong and dangerous to think that children will naturally understand when they grow up and get used to it. Just like farmers grow cowpeas. He wants to erect a pole for it at a very young age and guide it to grow along the pole. Only in this way can he absorb enough sunlight and air to produce rich and beautiful cowpeas. If the bean sprouts grow up, they can't blossom and bear fruit, or they can only bear skinny cowpeas, then they will be guided uprightly. I'm afraid it's not easy to produce good beans even if some branches are broken. Isn't that what educating children is all about?
4. To be a guide for children, parents should start from themselves. Parents are imitators of their children, and their words and deeds are influencing their children. Parents should start from themselves, and words and deeds that are not conducive to children must never be revealed in front of children; When criticizing children in education, parents' opinions should be unified, and there should be no objection or disagreement. They spend more than 1 hour every day to get along with their children and get to know their study and school situation. Ask her happy and unhappy things at school every day, so that the children's emotions can be vented, so as to grasp the signs of unexpected development in time; In learning, parents should learn synchronously with their children, pay attention to the key points and difficulties of their children's learning, consult relevant information and materials, and grow up with their children. Give more spiritual encouragement to children and keep cheering for them on the road of their lives. On the long and uneven road of children's growth, parents should give them extra warmth and care, so that they have the confidence and courage to overcome failure.
5. Not only children communicate. The child is now in adolescence, and physical factors may lead to mental health. As parents, they should be children's mentors and friends. They should spend as much time with their children, chat with them and play with them as possible. In the process of playing, they will communicate with you and tell you many ideas, ideas and even little secrets. At the same time of rest, we can also guide them to read some useful extracurricular books, expand their knowledge and cultivate their reading ability.
6. Communicate with the class teacher and teacher. Children spend most of their time in school, and their performance in school is what teachers in all subjects know best. We can usually call directly or come to school to find out their performance in school, praise their achievements in time, and point out and guide their shortcomings in time.
7. Children need love. Love here is not doting, not doting, but true love. People often say that love should also pay attention to methods. Only with scientific love can children grow up healthily. Children see and remember the little things that adults do in their daily lives. The love between parents and children is equal, but parents often ignore this and turn a blind eye to the love given by their children. In my family life, I attach great importance to this training. Once I was sick, and everyone didn't call me at dinner. My daughter noticed. She quietly put the rice and vegetables in front of my bed and told me to eat quickly. Food doesn't taste good when it is cold. I was particularly moved at that time. This is my daughter's love for her mother. Children's love is often manifested in nuances. She is not as specific as the love of adults, but the love of children is real.
Next, I will share with you 10 "Love Method".
First, look at children with loving eyes.
Second, face the child with a loving smile.
Third, listen to children with love.
Fourth, look for children with loving eyes.
Fifth, mobilize children with the desire for love.
Sixth, infect children with the details of love.
Seven, encourage children with the language of love.
Eight, discipline children with love.
Nine, tolerate children with a loving attitude.
Ten, return the opportunity of love to the child.
These are my own experiences in the process of educating children. Of course, this is not comprehensive. In the future education process, I will try to find more ways and summarize more, and strive to do better and more comprehensively. In fact, parents should not only sum up their own experience, but also communicate with other parents, so that they can learn from others' lessons and learn from others' experiences. This is also a kind of learning, so why not?
No pains, no gains, and so is the education of children. The child's mind is a proud land. Sow the seeds of thought, and you will get the harvest of behavior; Sow the seeds of behavior and you will reap the habits; Sow the seeds of habit, and you will get moral harvest; Sow the seeds of morality, and you will get the harvest of fate. As parents, it is their responsibility to educate their children well, and good educational methods are constantly being explored. Let's work together!