Parents should be reminded that children are by no means parents' personal accessories. They have independent personalities and ideas. Parents should communicate with their children more and listen to what they say, instead of forcing them to do what their parents ask.

When a child does something wrong, it is best for parents not to take a abusive and laissez-faire attitude, and not to reprimand and abuse the child in front of outsiders. These two wrong parenting styles do great harm to children's self-esteem and will affect their mental health development.

2. Proper letting go is love.

1 ~ 2 years old is the best time to cultivate children's practical ability. Children can try to do their own things independently in the following periods: 12~ 15 months, learning to eat with tableware; 15 ~ 18 months, the baby began to have the ability to coordinate all parts of the body with simple bathing actions, such as drawing bath bubbles on the body; From 15 to 18 months, the baby can organize the toys by himself. At this time, he can walk by himself and complete some simple instructions, such as imitating his mother to do housework and tidy up toys. 18~24 months, eating by oneself, washing hands, taking off clothes, etc.

3 When teaching children to count, teach them from 10 to 0. It is very important to tell children that 0 exists.

4. Be sure to abide by the agreement with your child.

Lying to children, or talking empty words to children, will have a very bad influence on children. I hate my parents, I don't want to listen to them, I often lie, and so on. What is promised to children must be fulfilled, and children pay more attention to the fulfillment of the agreement than adults. Otherwise, it is difficult for adult children to be people who can fulfill the agreement, so they are not recognized.

5. Rockefeller's letter to his son

Child: The world is like a mountain. Your parents are at the top, so you are not destined to live at the foot of the mountain. The position of parents determines the starting point of children. But rich and poor, success or failure is not hereditary, I struggle and I succeed is the truth. The starting point affects the result, but it does not determine the result. Ability, attitude, personality, ambition, experience and luck are the important driving forces of life. In the battle of life, everyone has the will to win, and only those who are fully prepared will win!

6. You know what, Dad?

American psychologists have found that 20% of a person's success depends on his acquired efforts and 80% depends on his father. As an "important person" in a child's life, the same affirmative statement will have 50 times more influence on the child than the mother. Mother's influence on children is whether you can become an independent person, while father's shaping of children's outlook on life is related to the formation of character.

Negotiate with children

Don't always ask children to live according to the wishes of adults, so not only children are suffering, but even adults are suffering.

Children are human beings, and of course they have their own things to do. Therefore, it may be a good idea to negotiate with your child and take a step back.

For example, if the child wants to jump on the sofa, but the parents have something to consider, they can let the child jump on the bed in the bedroom, or let him jump later, or try to take the child to the park to jump after the parents have handled the matter.

8. Don't lecture your child when you are angry.

In a state of extreme anger, parents certainly can't discipline their children in a rational way.

Therefore, when parents can't calm down anyway, Mr. Cheng suggested that parents leave the scene temporarily, or divert their attention to other things, such as calling friends to chat and listening to music. When you calm down, talk to your children.

9. Educate the correct view of money.

In addition to controlling desires, it is also important to teach children a correct view of money. Li taught her children from an early age that her mother must give her what she "needs" and ask for what she "wants".

Parents lead by example.

Parents who value enjoyment cannot raise hard-working children. Parents must set an example and work hard with their children. Children are parents' mirrors, and children are observing and imitating. If parents are always critical and complaining, children will certainly appreciate it.