Experts from China Youth Research Center believe that the "boy crisis" is:

Boys' academic performance in all levels and types of education gradually lags behind that of girls.

In the high school stage where many people think that "boys have strong logical thinking ability and great learning potential", in recent years, it is just the opposite.

Presumably, many parents have noticed that girls have an advantage from primary school to junior high school and even high school.

After entering the 2 1 century, the proportion of female students who passed the college entrance examination in China has been increasing.

According to statistics, the proportion of female students in 1999 was 40%, in 2007 it was 53%, and in 20 13 it was 55%.

The list of winners of national scholarships in 2006-2007 and 2007-2008 published by the Ministry of Education shows that the ratio of male to female students in the previous year was 1: 1.86, and in the next year it was 1: 1.88.

On October 20, 200716, the male-female ratio of top candidates in China's college entrance examination was 46.59%-53.42%.

The Huffington Post reported that according to a joint survey conducted by the University of Glasgow in the United Kingdom and the University of Missouri in the United States covering 74 countries, in the past decade, women all over the world broke through gender discrimination and bondage in politics, economy and society, and got rid of men in their studies, and mankind suddenly came to the "era of female learning hegemony." (World Wide Web).

Then, under the same educational environment and system, why are girls generally better than boys in their grades and comprehensive performance?

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Physiological and psychological differences

Physiological aspect

Studies have found that the brain language area of 3.5-year-old girls is equivalent to that of 5-year-old boys, which means that girls are generally more psychologically mature than boys 1.5 years old.

Jeff Harman, a British scholar, provided a quantitative conclusion about boys' psychological backwardness:

At the age of 1 1, the development level of boys' oral ability, reading and writing ability and computing ability was 1 1 2 and 6 months later than that of girls, respectively.

Therefore, from the beginning of education, compared with girls of the same age, boys have already lost at the starting line.

In addition, Steve Biddulph, an Australian family expert, pointed out in his book Raising Boys that there are gender differences between boys and girls.

In terms of strength, boys have 30% more muscles than girls;

In the brain area responsible for language structure, girls are 20%~30% older than boys.

Girls' frontal lobes are usually more active and develop earlier than boys', so girls have stronger self-control and can sit up straight in class according to the teacher's requirements.

Boys' poor self-control is because the frontal lobe, which controls impulses, develops more slowly, so it is often difficult for them to sit and listen to the teacher's "boring" content for a long time in class.

Psychological aspects

When entering adolescence, boys are more likely to indulge in mobile games and Internet cafes. If they are not controlled, they will fall into psychological crisis. Therefore, in all kinds of growth hotlines, consulting institutions and internet addiction rehabilitation institutions, boys often need help more than girls.

According to the data released by China Youth Network Association in 2008, male teenagers are more likely to be addicted to the Internet than female teenagers.

Many psychological studies show that the incidence rate of boys is much higher than that of girls in common psychological diseases of children and adolescents, such as ADHD, learning disabilities, mental retardation and autism.

On the other hand, boys are more impulsive than girls, which will directly affect their academic performance.

Dutch scientists have studied this. Scientists selected 50 male college students and 60 female college students to talk to each other before the exam.

The results show that when men talk with the opposite sex, their rational thinking ability becomes worse, and their scores are worse than usual after the meeting, which shows that close contact with the opposite sex makes their minds more confused.

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Family, school and society

1998 William Pollack, a psychologist at Harvard University, said in the book "Real Boys" that contemporary boys are timid, lack self-confidence and have far less achievements than girls.

Nowadays, boys are less and less masculine, and more femininity blurs the courage to struggle. Learning is not an easy task. Since you can't eat the hardships of learning, you are doomed to get unsatisfactory results.

Nowadays, boys are becoming more and more "sissy" and unwilling to work hard. Family, school and society also have some influences.

Family: father's absence

In a family, the mother gives her children warmth and care, while the father gives them strength and guidance.

Ronald Rona and others who specialize in family relations in the United States have done 36 studies in 18 countries all over the world.

It turns out that the happiness of the family and the all-round growth of children need not only the participation of the mother, but also the participation of the father.

Because compared with mothers, fathers have a greater influence on children's personality, emotional stability, independence and world outlook.

However, in China's family, most fathers are busy with work and entertainment, or influenced by traditional ideas, and start as "shopkeepers". During the critical period of children's growth, mothers are always with them.

This is not good for the growth of children, especially boys. If a son is too attached to his mother, he will become a "mother treasure", and the children trained in this way are often weak and prone to problems.

School: teacher structure

The first survey on the training of normal students from June 2065438 to June 2004 shows that among the 27 normal universities in China, 65.3% are girls and only 34.7% are boys.

The number of students in normal universities determines the proportion of teachers in the future to a certain extent, which means that the long-standing crisis of male teachers will be further aggravated.

Besides parents, teachers have the longest contact with children, even more than parents.

However, there are few male teachers in some primary schools, and the whole campus is unmanly, which is not conducive to cultivating the spirit and sense of responsibility of primary school students, and is not conducive to their struggle and adventure when they grow up.

Society: talent shows and online celebrities.

In recent years, "Korean Wave" has come on a large scale, and various domestic talent shows that actually win votes in professional quality competitions by relying on their faces, as well as the popularity of small videos such as "Tik Tok", have seriously affected children whose minds have not yet fully developed. "Masculinity and femininity" challenge our aesthetic bottom line.

The more boys in the talent show can make up and coquetry, the more they will be loved and voted by everyone.

The screen is full of small fresh meat as white as a shell. In reality, men are constantly shrinking and avoiding when facing the crisis. People keep asking: What will the new generation of boys in China become?

It is found that China boys are always the weakest group in international summer camps, whether compared with boys in Europe, America or Japan and South Korea.

When American boys repair cars in garages and set up tents in wild fire, China boys are influenced by the popular "beauty" and are willing to become thinner and more refined, thinking that their psychological and physical fragility is a kind of "cute" performance.

We can understand boys who are physically weak, but boys who are psychologically fragile, what can he do besides studying?

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The rise of female consciousness

With the development of higher education, the decline in the number of children in families and the improvement of women's self-reliance ability, more and more parents are willing to send their children to college.

As an only child, a pair of parents have only one child, and both boys and girls are treasures, which will also create conditions for girls to go to college.

Therefore, girls also have the opportunity to receive education and know how to cherish and use educational resources.

On the other hand, in the traditional male society, women have only one way, that is, they are obedient to men, and they are used to relying on men's gifts and appreciation to show their self-worth.

However, the process of social civilization has also made more people learn to respect women. Women themselves are more keen to show their talents and are not afraid to face challenges. The younger the woman, the better.

This situation can also be reflected in the recent fire story of Yan Xi Palace. Qiong Yao's tragic heroine drama, which has been popular for more than 20 years, is no longer popular, because in today's values, it is not pleasing to have a heroine who is completely attached to men and has no self.

On the contrary, the women in "Walking on Thin Ice" and "The Empress in the Palace" are highly sought after. They work hard and realize their value by themselves.

The whole society is a kind of motivation to encourage and recognize girls, so girls will try their best to seize the opportunity to show themselves.

Generally speaking, girls are getting better and better, which is a sign of progress for them personally and for the development of society. We also appreciate and respect their efforts.

And the opposite "boy crisis" can not be ignored. No matter their academic achievements or their responsibilities, we need to attach importance to them and actively combine their growth and development to educate them.

Sixteen pieces of advice for boys' parents:

1. Boys develop later than girls, but boys are no worse than girls. Parents should discover the advantages of boys.

2. In kindergarten and primary school, boys develop later than girls, so we should wait patiently for boys who are temporarily behind.

Educating boys is not only the responsibility of schools and teachers. Good parents are more important than teachers.

4. Father is the first male role model for boys. Please spend more time with his son, but please note that quality is more important than quantity.

5. Chat with children more, listen more and reprimand less.

6. Take children to outdoor activities. Mountain climbing and fishing are all good projects that boys like.

7. Exercise is the nature of boys. Please help the boy form at least one exercise habit.

8. Motherly love is a "safe base" for boys, but remember to "release" at the right time, and boys need to "reserve".

No matter how good a mother is, she can't replace her father.

10, understand and respect boys' learning style, and create more opportunities for boys to do it. Boys prefer to learn by action.

1 1. Give the boy the freedom to choose extra-curricular books, let him start reading his favorite books and form the habit of reading.

12. Boys can't be surrounded by women at home or at school. Boys need to have enough adult men as role models.

13 With the growth of age, the opportunities for boys to take responsibility are gradually increased. You can start with self-management and gradually let him take responsibility.

14. Boys need to learn how to express their emotions. When a boy is afraid or angry, don't lecture him, but encourage and guide him to express his feelings.

15, tell boys that when there is a contradiction with others, there is a better solution besides fighting.

16, sweet, sour, bitter and spicy are all nutrients. Don't deprive children of the opportunity to taste bitter and spicy. Boys need to hone. Parents should dare to say no to their children and cultivate boys' ability to resist setbacks.

-Baidu Encyclopedia

If you happen to have a boy at home, and you are worried about your child's poor academic performance, I hope this article can help you understand your child better. After all, understanding children is the premise of educating children.

Every child is a godsend, so parents should not be impatient. They should give their children more time to grow up and give them more guidance. They will eventually shine and become strong and brave.