Chen Meiling, the author of this book, was born in Hongkong and now lives in Japan. She is a Japanese singer, essayist and novelist. Her three sons were admitted to Stanford University, which ranked third in the world. She and her husband have their own perfect training system in raising children, which is worth learning.
This book starts with the eight consciousnesses of parents, and then talks about 1 1 the goal of education and the power of 15 kinds of children who want to be rich. Finally, nine ways to cultivate children and six tips to deal with adolescent children are discussed.
1. Eight consciousnesses about parenthood: The section that impressed me most in this chapter is about "absolute prohibition of corporal punishment". No matter what happens, corporal punishment must not be carried out, because it is the worst way of education. Children who are often subjected to corporal punishment will produce powerful people's wrong views on greatness. Then, if you can't get what you want, you will force it. The method of corporal punishment may be effective when parents are stronger than children, but when children are stronger than you, their status will be reversed instantly. Therefore, it is absolutely impossible to instill in children the misconception that "the strong control the weak". The author talks about his own handling methods. When her children do something they shouldn't do, she always tells them until they accept and recognize it. This is also called "preaching".
Two. 1 1 educational goals
1, dream. Children's work is dreaming, and education is the process of teaching children how to dream. Tell your child that there are many possibilities in the world, give him the tools and knowledge he needs to realize his dreams, and let him have the courage to make great strides towards his dreams. The key to education is to let children have dreams and urge them to work hard to approach this dream.
2. Inner peace. Self-esteem education is absolutely indispensable for cultivating children who will think of others, care about others and have rich and calm hearts.
3. Have a grateful heart. If you forget gratitude and gratitude, no matter how rich you are, you are a poor man, and no matter how many people are around you, you are a lonely person.
4. Not controlled by money. Love, friendship, warmth and memories that money can't buy can enrich your life.
5. Choose the most difficult road. Always keep an upward attitude and challenge yourself, which is an important driving force to become a universal talent in the world. When making important choices, always choose the most difficult path.
6, know how to repay. Everyone takes care of each other in life and helps each other, so we must express our gratitude and gratitude to the people around us. Help others while you still have spare capacity, but don't be ashamed to ask for help when you are in trouble, and don't think it will cause trouble to others.
Iii. About the 15 power you want to give your child: This 15 power includes: brain power, reading comprehension, concentration, imagination, cross-border understanding, learning ability, strong adaptability, judgment, questioning ability, listening to statements, awareness, laughter, self-control, improvisation and questioning ability. Let's focus on sharing three of them:
1, concentration. No matter what you do, you can't finish it efficiently if you don't concentrate. The author's eldest son is interested in cooking, so when she was about three years old, she asked her eldest son to help cut vegetables, weigh or stir ingredients, so that he insisted on doing fine work. In fact, cooking is a very effective activity to improve concentration. Besides cooking and music, puzzles, Legos, building blocks and other games can also improve concentration. The most important thing is to "participate with your parents". In order to let children concentrate on their studies completely, it is necessary for parents to work hard on weekdays.
2. Strong fitness. In order to prevent high sugar reaction, the author has never given children a sweet drink. Drinks with high sugar content will cause children's "high sugar" reaction. In a short time, the blood sugar level will rise and insulin will be secreted in large quantities. The decomposed sugar will make children feel happy and energetic, but the sugar will disappear in an instant, and the body will want more sugar in order to seek the next high-pitched state. After the "high sugar" recedes, it is a "low" state. Once the sugar is too high, the child will be extremely active, unable to concentrate, and it is difficult to calm down.
3. The ability to improvise. To activate children's minds, it is more effective to give them a different relaxed life every day than to let them live a rigid life every day. The author will expand children's thinking in the way of association. For example, when it rains outside, she will discuss with her children why it rains and learn the principle of rain, then take them to put down their homework, put on raincoats and boots outside, then listen to the sound of rain hitting the ground, clean up the fallen leaves in the drainage ditch and look for snails in the park. Such a series of seemingly simple things can make children have a strong interest.
Four or nine ways to cultivate studious children
1, explain the reasons for going to school to children. Go to school for your future. Learning is very important if you want to live a comfortable and happy life and realize your dreams freely. Learning is a very positive thing. I have to do this for my future. I am lucky to go to school, which is a reward for my life.
2. Accompany children to do homework to junior high school. Instead of checking academic performance, it is better to enjoy learning with children. However, after children become junior high school students, they must learn to manage themselves. As parents, it is best to take a step back and give support to children.
Five or six skills to deal with adolescent children
1. After quarreling, always communicate face to face. If the parent-child relationship encounters a stumbling block, even if it smells the slightest signal, it is necessary to take concrete actions immediately and try to solve the problem. Show your love with actions, communicate with your children face to face and sincerely, and your parent-child relationship will certainly develop in a good direction.
Recorded on June 65438+1October 3, 20221/Ms. Lai.