In ancient China, rich experiences and theories have been accumulated in the long-term family education practice, and at the same time, unique educational methods have been formed:

First, highlight the education method of combining leniency with severity.

Combining leniency with severity is a pair of contradictions in family education. Because of the blood relationship between parents and children, parents are more effective and direct than school and social education. At the same time, it is this relationship that often makes parents spoil their children too much, causing doting and doting, and then hurting children. This is the contradiction between love and teaching in family education, and it is also a difficult point in family education. In dealing with the contradiction between love and teaching, China ancient family education formed an educational method of combining leniency with severity. The tradition of combining leniency with severity in China's family education mainly comes from Confucianism, and Confucius once put forward the view that "being a father should stop at perfection". There is a saying that "strict father conquers heaven", which shows that Confucianism stresses both temper justice with mercy and "temper justice with mercy". Yan Zhitui clearly combined "kindness" with "strictness" and proposed that "if parents are dignified and kind, their children will be timid and filial". He also said that "the strictness of father and son should not be neglected, and the love of flesh and blood should not be simplified." If you don't accept filial piety, you will be ignored. " Sima Guang further developed this thought. In the contradiction between love and teaching, he advocated paying equal attention to kindness and training, and combining love and teaching. He said, "the principle of being kind without training, losing respect, training without kindness, hurting relatives, being kind without training, and being prepared with respect for relatives." In other words, parents only talk about kindness without strict instruction, and they lose their sense of honor as elders. Only strict teaching without kindness hurts the principle of mutual love. Only by combining leniency with severity can they have a sense of honor and affection and be a complete mentor. When dealing with the relationship between leniency and strictness in family education, scholars in Qing dynasty emphasized that "teaching children should be strict", but "strictness" is not always abusive, but strict, and "strictness" includes not only the strictness of children, but also the strictness of parents and fathers.