First, parents should be sensitive to the correct feelings, actively grasp the children's every setback experience, help children realize the existence of setbacks, and correctly feel the feelings and unhappiness caused by setbacks. Don't shy away, don't zoom in. Objectively help children describe and understand their true feelings. Be gentle at the same time. Full of love. Let your child feel how much you love him. Your love can help children get out of depressed bad mood. Second, bravely face the warm love of parents to help children get out of the bad mood caused by setbacks, and then use your love and wisdom to guide children to face the fact of setbacks bravely. Do a positive psychological construction and guidance in children's minds. Third, actively respond to positive psychological construction and guide children to realize that a failure can't explain any problems. In this world, there is always only one first, but at the same time, there are so many people competing for the first, so the probability of success is far greater than that of failure, so you should feel glorious and happy when you succeed, but you don't need to feel ashamed and sad when you fail, because we can continue to work hard next time by summing up our experiences and lessons. As long as you persist, you will succeed one day. To say the least, even if there is no chance, our lives are still valuable. Don't care too much about temporary gains and losses. Face it bravely, and a happy life is the most important thing. Fourthly, the philosopher Collins once said: "Without setbacks, success can only be a temporary appearance, only after setbacks." Setbacks are not terrible. The terrible thing is that you have experienced setbacks but don't know how to sum up the lessons of setbacks. Temporary setbacks should not be the cause of depression, but the starting point of continuing struggle. "Therefore, parents should guide their children to get along with setbacks with a positive and optimistic attitude, so that children can form a good habit of not being afraid of setbacks, being brave in facing setbacks and accepting setbacks, and constantly learn from setbacks the experience and nutrition of life growth, so as to lay a solid foundation for their children to gradually grow up and become talents in the process of constantly experiencing and overcoming setbacks in the future.