? There are generally two kinds of conflicts between reading and homework:
? 1. Children have no time to read because they do their homework late.
? The child put off his homework because he read the book first.
? How to make two people live in peace? In view of these two situations, I will give you five methods:
? The first method: let the child's brain start in 20 seconds. Psychologist Sean Ackell proposed a 20-second rule. If the startup time exceeds 20 seconds, it is difficult to start. Let me tell you two scenarios first:
? Scene 1: Your teammates have arranged for you to wash all the clothes at home tomorrow.
? Scene 2: Your teammate has arranged for you to wash his T-shirt tomorrow.
? Which of the above two tasks do you want to do? If you have to choose, everyone is more willing to do the second task, because it is easy to complete and does not need to start a lot of energy. The first task is too many, and I don't want to move at all. I put it off again and again, didn't I?
? I'll give you two more scenes:
? Scene 3: Parents ask their children to write the line 10.
? Scene 4: Parents ask their children to write 1 line.
? Everyone said, which scene do children prefer to do? Yes, the children in scene 4 are more willing to do it, because writing 1 line is easy to complete, and it takes short energy to start this homework, which makes children feel excited about it. There are many homework for the first time, and it takes a long time to start. The child can't start for a long time, and it will be delayed again and again. Do you think so?
? Just like when our car started the ignition, once it started, it was easy to run again. The same is true of children's study. Once started, it will be smoother to walk behind, but two conditions must be guaranteed before starting:
? First, the task should be small enough.
? Second, the starting energy is not enough.
? These are two important principles. If you want to make a good start, you must ensure that it is small and has less energy. If the starting energy is less than 20 seconds, it is particularly easy to start.
? Let the children arrange the 1 task into a relaxed and favorite small task before starting their homework every day, so that the children can start it quickly, make his brain and nerves excited and start it quickly. There is a principle here-turn "big" into "small" and turn a big task into several small tasks, starting with small tasks.
? Let me give you an example.
? Example 1: The teacher assigned a task of reciting ancient poems. How do you activate children's energy?
? Method: Mom can say: Come baby, let's read this poem 2-3 times first. After reading it for 2-3 times, my mother can say, I'll see if I can recite it. When I recited it, my mother pretended not to recite it in a place where a simple child could recite it, and thought there. If the child recites it, the mother should praise the child with appreciation: Wow.
? If the child has no back, you can pretend to think there. What's the next sentence? ... mother can help children, and can also stimulate children's nerves, so that children can quickly start energy.
? Therefore, the first homework should be simplified, and a big learning task should be turned into a small task, so that children can get started quickly.
? Ask everyone, have you found any common rules in the examination paper? From simple to difficult. No matter what the test paper is, there must be simple questions such as multiple-choice questions, true-false questions and fill-in-the-blank questions in front, followed by application questions, and finally the most difficult points.
This design conforms to human nature. The same is true for homework tasks. 1 The task starts with the homework that the children least exclude, the easiest and the favorite. Once the child is excited about doing homework, the next homework will be much smoother.
? However, if the child is reading, how can he return to the state of doing homework?
? The second method: transition method. Use transitional methods to help children return to their homework from reading (or games and play).
? Let me tell you a scene first.
? Scene 1: You are watching a play, and your teammates don't want you to watch it. What should you do?
? Teammate A: Wife, I bought you your favorite XXX. Come on, take a bite (feed it into your mouth), then help your wife gently rub her shoulders and make a request: wife, let's finish watching this episode ... OK?
? Teammate B: Honey, don't look. Why are you still watching? Turn it off quickly.
? Which of the above two teammates can you accept?
? Yes, teammate A's practice is more acceptable to us. This method is the transition method, and can also be used in the conflict between children's reading and homework.
? Method: Mom needs to do her homework in advance, such as buying some snacks that children like. When the child has read for a certain time, you can feed him snacks and say, "Baby, after reading this chapter, let's go to the toilet and do our homework, OK?" After eating snacks and going to the toilet, you can replenish your physical strength and maternal love, and then you can do your homework. It's easy.
? If the child says he wants to watch it for a while, if you can accept it, you can say, can you watch it for 15 minutes? It's time for the mother to remind the child or set the alarm clock. If you can't accept it, express your suggestions and hopes directly and truly. If the child doesn't listen, you can give the child two choices, either watch 15 minutes again or rest for half an hour. You choose. Mother tells the bottom line and lets the children know that this bottom line cannot be crossed. Once the children start doing their homework happily, it will be easy to do it later.
? Seeing what the child has done and ignoring what the child has not done well is the first goal. Let the baby experience that homework can be easily completed, let the baby taste the sweetness first, and then the baby will have the motivation to write homework next time. Solve the problem of writing first, and then find ways to solve the problem of writing quality and ability.
? The process of doing homework is also very important. Be sure to make children feel happy, happy and happy, and say the important things three times.
? Because there is a substance in our brain called endorphin, which has a similar effect to opium. It can relieve stress, reduce anger, fear and other negative emotions, and produce a happy sense of well-being. What happens to people under the action of opioids? People tend to cooperate with others rather than confront them. In the long run, endorphins play a very important role in the good development of the nervous system. Therefore, endorphins are praised by professionals as neurotrophic agents in the brain. So endorphin is so important, where does it come from?
? Endorphins are secreted by the brain itself. So under what circumstances does the brain secrete endorphins? An important scene in which the brain secretes endorphins is when playing, fighting and laughing. That is to say, playing with children and making them laugh is to supplement his brain with neurotrophic agents.
? The third method: work out the operation time plan. If the child can't reach this plan, you need to renegotiate when to start, and at the latest, no later than what time.
? Methods: For example, if a child wants to start his homework at 9: 00, then his mother can let him start his homework at 8: 50 next week, 65,438+00 minutes a week, and so on, so that the child can achieve his goal more easily, and then his mother will praise and encourage the child in time to stabilize his habits.
? Do people wait for their children to carry out their plans?
? Knock on the key point: the plan is not waiting for the children to implement it. Everyone must avoid this pit! The parents watched the baby not carry out the plan, which exceeded the time, and finally broke out. Then do this every day, forming a vicious circle. So how did you do it?
? Methods: Parents can take the initiative to befriend their children and get something delicious when they are about to do their homework. The purpose is to make the baby feel better before doing homework, and then bring it up when the baby is in a good mood. Let's go to the toilet, have a drink and start doing our homework!
? We must guide our children to carry out the plan in advance, instead of waiting for them to carry it out. Our adult plans are sometimes difficult to implement, let alone children, so we need seamless guidance from our parents at this time.
? The fourth method: establish the operation order by list method, and then obtain it one by one.
? You know, it takes brains to remember homework. Part of the brain is used to remember homework, so other parts may lack energy when completing homework. This requires emptying the brain and filling the child's brain with energy. For example, today's homework is five. Put these five items on the outside list and write them on the blackboard (it is best to prepare a blackboard at home). In this way, the brain is emptied, and when the child continues to do homework, all the resources of the brain are used to do the homework in front of him. 1 After the homework is finished, do the second homework, one after another, to give children a sense of order and control.
? Every time the brain is learning, there is only one thing in its mind, and there are not so many things in it. When children do their homework, the pressure will be less and they will have the energy to do things better now. So the function of the list method is to clear the brain and establish a visual list of everything outside. This list can be compiled by the children themselves with the help of their mothers. The child said that his mother wrote it on the blackboard.
? So how did you make this list?
? Rule 1: Simply do what you like first. Why do simple things first? It's the 20-second start-up rule we just talked about to ensure that this matter can be started quickly.
? Rule 2: The daily order should be basically fixed. For example, today's four assignments are written in Chinese first-reading the text-doing oral calculations-English. The children think it is not bad, and try to do it in this order the next day. Do you know why this happened? Because of inertia. If the order is basically fixed, then inertia will be formed and it will be easier and smoother. It is very important to follow this order every day, so that children know what they are doing and have a sense of control when doing it.
? It is important for children to arrange their rest time freely after finishing their homework.
? Make sure that the child has a sweet spot after completing the task. He can eat his favorite snacks and do his favorite things-whether playing games, eating ice cream, chatting with friends or other strange things. Children must have some time every day to live according to their own wishes. Let children's day be made up of every "hopeful" day. After the child finishes his homework every day, he is allowed to do what he likes, so that the child will have motivation and hope when he does his homework next time.
? Why do some children put off their homework? Because our parents can't see their children, they do their homework, watch TV and play games. Come on, have you done the extracurricular exercises that mom bought for you? In this way, children feel that they will never have homework to finish.
? Therefore, as parents, we should give children space and let them have their own time after finishing their homework.