Family education is one of the components of big education and the foundation of school education and social education. Family education is lifelong education, starting from the day the child is born (even dating back to the fetal period). Family education in early childhood is "the beginning of life" education, which plays a fundamental role in people's life. After children go to primary school and middle school, family education is not only the foundation of school education, but also the supplement and extension of school education.
China's traditional culture emphasizes the difference between husband and wife, that is, "the man is the master outside and the woman is the master inside", and there are also differences between husband and wife in family role-playing. Traditional family education also emphasizes the difference between husband and wife, and strict father is a loving mother. However, today's society makes these differences somewhat blurred.
"How many fathers are strict and how many mothers are kind today?" Professor Qian Zhiliang posed such a question to mothers. How many mothers have never beaten their children? "Today, whether you are a father or a mother, you should play a good role in the growth of children and have a division of labor. I appeal to our father not to do nothing when the children grow up. " In today's society, men face enormous competitive pressure every day. Heavy social pressure will make them have to work hard outside, but the success of their careers is temporary, and the happiness of their families is lifelong, especially the growth of their children.
In the process of children's growth, fathers play a very important role in two aspects: one is the enlightenment of wisdom, and the other is the guidance of people. The ancients said, "The adoptive father is improper." Now many studies tell us that the longer a father and his children get along, the more stamina they have. And mothers should also play a good role in the growth of children. Women today are different from those in the past. Traditional women are more housewives. Nowadays, women have to work in society besides taking care of their husbands and children, and their burden is heavier. Mothers have two very important tasks in the process of their children's growth. One is to cultivate children's habits-the habits of family life will definitely be transferred to children's study habits; Another influence of mother on children lies in the cultivation of "emotion". In addition to the role of parents, other family changes faced by only children are also very different from traditional culture. In the traditional family ethics, the replacement of brothers is particularly emphasized, and brothers and sisters live in harmony. Nowadays, children want to be replaced, but no one can. The lack of communication between children and their peers makes it difficult for them to understand what friendship is, what tolerance is and what kindness is. In traditional culture, the order of the young and the old is particularly emphasized, and whoever leaves the house will come first, but today there is no order of the young and the old. Grandpa is a grandson, and the grandson becomes a grandfather. "Social changes have alienated many children from our family education today. Many of them have become knowledgeable without wisdom, accomplished without common sense, capable without faith, standardized without morality, desire without restraint, goal without ideal, skill without soul, degree without taste, personality without cooperation, heart without action, and some neglect fairness in efficiency. " Qian Zhiliang pointed out that we need to call for the return of family education, especially the role that parents should play in children's growth.
Everyone wants to have a harbor in his heart, and that is home. Today, when everything is highly socialized, people can be asked to help with housework, but there is no way to ask people to be parents of children. Family education cannot be socialized. Paying people to educate my children is unlikely to succeed unless it is school education, but school education and family education are two different things.
According to experts, what aspects should parents pay attention to their children? The first is health, sleep health, nutrition and health care, and good health. Sleep has three functions: restoring intelligence, restoring physical strength and eliminating fatigue. Parents pay attention to their children's sleep, including the length and dexterity of sleep time, the orientation of the bedroom, the radiation factors in the bedroom and even the temperature, hardness and height of the bed. In addition to sleep and nutrition, the third link for parents to pay attention to their children's health is the management of their children's sports.
Second, physical health is only the foundation, and the child's spiritual field is also crucial. Professor Qian said that it is parents' unshirkable responsibility to invest in their children's education. It is worth noting that an important content of children's spiritual care is to strengthen parent-child communication. "Today, the time we can spend with our children is really limited. We must seize every opportunity to convey a message to our children through language, expressions, movements, physical contact and other channels: honey, it is very important for your parents to let them know that their parents are not in charge of me, but for my own good. "
There are also many topics for parents to communicate with their children. If the child has made some progress, parents can seize the opportunity to give him some praise. It doesn't cost a penny to say these words, but it helps children build unparalleled self-confidence. Only self-confident children know self-esteem, self-respecting children know self-improvement, and self-reliant children can stand on their own feet. If your child makes a mistake or doesn't behave well recently, tell him not to lose heart, to work hard, to have mom and dad to help you, and to get up when you fall, so that his child will have a relaxed and healthy attitude.
The third aspect that parents pay attention to their children is their safety. Because children's physical and mental development is not complete, social cognition is not sufficient, emotions and will are not mature, behavior habits are still being developed, and moral concepts are not completely clear. Parents should always remember that the child is his guardian before the age of 18, and the guardian must perform the duties of guardian.
It can be seen that no one can choose what kind of family a person was born in, but parents have the responsibility to create a relaxed environment suitable for the healthy growth of their children as much as possible, and it is an unshirkable responsibility to provide good family education as much as possible. As the children's first teacher, parents should seize the opportunity to educate their children, not only to care about their growth, but also to care about their adults. We should teach them a correct understanding of life, be a down-to-earth person, and constantly sow the fine seeds of traditional virtues and realistic virtues in their hearts, so as to lay a solid foundation for their lifelong development.
Growing pains mainly tells the daily life story of the Seaver couple who live in Long Island, new york. It is a foreign sitcom introduced by Chinese mainland earlier, and has been broadcast in China 1990 to 1994. The broadcast of 1990 triggered the climax of the movie, and the cheerful and naughty image of Mike in the film was deeply loved by the audience. In the play, Dr. Silver's heuristic education for children also inspired the audience.
Seaver House, Robin Hood Street 15, Long Island, new york. Of course, this does not mean that we can really find their home at this address. In fact, this TV series was shot in California.
Growing pains is the most watched sitcom from 1985 to 1992 in the United States. It is still playing on the TV screen in China. The cheerful and open-minded character of the four Buddhist families left an unforgettable impression on the audience. The cast of the play was once praised as "A-class cast" by producer Michael Sullivan. As a representative work of a new family sitcom in 1980s, Growing Pains successfully showed us the happy life of a family with many children in the American suburbs. The shooting of Growing Pains started at 1985 and ended at 1992. ABC premiered on September 24th, 1985. There is no doubt that the real version of Growing Pains is a little different from the original script, which is caused by the improvisation of the actors. Moreover, as a sitcom, he didn't always keep his hilarious characteristics, and even interspersed with several episodes of tragedy, but this did not prevent it from becoming one of the most popular TV programs at that time. In any case, it is a very successful TV series, which not only set a viewing record in the United States, but also exported to several countries, and even affected the development direction of TV sitcoms.
Ever since China had a translated version of Shanghai TV, Growing Pains has been broadcast on TV stations all over the country. It is not only welcomed by primary and secondary school students, but also loved by college students and young people. It should be said that the growing pains are accompanied by the growth of a generation. Broadcasting History: Growing Pains was produced by Warner Bros. and premiered by ABC. The shooting process is divided into seven sections, 166 episodes. Growing pains has a large audience. According to the survey, its ratings peaked in 1987 and 1988, making it the fifth most popular TV in the United States.
After being broadcast on different TV stations in the United States, Growing Pains has also been exported to countries all over the world, such as Canada, New Zealand, German, Austrian, French, China, Japanese and other countries. In France, it is translated as "What's the matter, doctor? It was broadcast on French National Radio 2, but it was translated into Happy Family in Japan. Happy Family in Taiwan Province Province ... Synopsis: Growing Pains tells the story of the Seaver family living in the suburbs of the United States (perhaps the word "outer suburbs of the city" is more appropriate). They live in the suburbs of new york. Their father Jason Seaver is a psychiatrist and their mother Maggie Seaver is a journalist. They have three children: Mike, Carol and Ben. At the beginning of the story, Maggie returned to the TV station and started working, while Jason opened his psychological clinic at home. An interesting story happened. But later, with the development of the plot, there were some plot changes and new actors joined.
Negative opinion:
One of the basic points of my comparison is the composition of the two TV series families. American TV dramas are pure in family, while China's family purity is reorganization after divorce. This basic point has been transformed by "literature"!
Why do you want to change the nature of this family?
This is the first simple question I want to ask-but I don't think it's simple! ! !
China now regards divorce as a routine era, and cheating or even changing wives as an era of "return of humanity". I think the transformation of "literature" has realistic analytical value.
Why do you make or say this strange mutation in communication?
This is not the chaos of Turing's chaos theory-I think its root is very clear! ! !
Is there any connection or relationship between the "variation" of this "weird" literary communication and the moral chaos in our society?
Family morality in the United States-including that in China-is, in the final analysis, the most basic problem of human consanguineous family morality. American family morality is far more important than China's-but our family morality has been destroyed by the reform and opening up in the past 30 years and the so-called "humanity" and "freedom"-and now it presents a picture of corruption and chaos. Sadly, many people in China are confused, such as flies in cesspits in summer, smelling the stench and gloating-Li Yinhe and others, I just think they are maggots.
However, how many divorced and reorganized families in China are so happy, harmonious and happy?
Therefore, the paradox of China's "family has children" is very intriguing-