Educating children is a challenging job, and every parent will encounter his own confusion and problems. The following are some of the main puzzles I personally encounter when educating children:

Determine appropriate expectations:

Every parent wants their children to become excellent talents, but how to define "excellent" is a subjective concept. We hope that children can develop academically, socially and emotionally, but how to balance these aspects and how to set and realize specific expectations is a problem that needs serious consideration.

Balance freedom and rules:

Giving children enough freedom can cultivate their innovative ability and independent thinking ability, but it also needs appropriate rules and restrictions to help them learn a sense of responsibility and respect others. How to balance freedom and rules so that they promote each other rather than restrict each other is a difficult problem that needs to be carefully grasped.

Cultivate good habits:

Children's bad habits are often formed in infancy, while good habits are beneficial to their lives. How to cultivate children's good habits through small things in daily life, such as respecting others, having a sense of responsibility and knowing how to be grateful, is a task that takes a lot of thought and time.

Establish a healthy way of communication:

Effective communication is the key to establishing parent-child relationship. We hope to establish an open, frank and respectful communication relationship with our children, but we also need to master appropriate communication skills to avoid conflicts or misunderstandings.

Coping with children's emotions and frustrations:

Children will have all kinds of emotions and setbacks, such as anger, fear, frustration and so on. How to help children learn to deal with these emotions and setbacks effectively without affecting their physical and mental health is a problem that parents need to pay attention to.

Guide children to develop their interests and specialties:

Every child has his own interests and specialties. How to discover and guide the development of these interests and specialties, and make them the advantages of children in the future, requires the careful guidance and investment of parents.

In the process of educating children, we will constantly encounter new challenges and puzzles. But as long as we keep an open mind, are willing to learn and try new methods, and always take children's needs as the starting point, we can find educational methods suitable for children and help them grow up healthily.