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(total 1409 words, reading time is about 4 minutes)

Adults make mistakes, especially children. Children always make mistakes when they grow up.

When children make mistakes, how do you guide them to face their own problems? This is also a knowledge point that many parents need to learn now.

Xiaoya is a novice nanny. Although it is 1 the first time to be a mother, she has learned a lot about parenting and has her own way of taking care of babies.

Some time ago, Xiaoya took her daughter to a friend's house to play. The daughter who has always been clever and sensible went to a friend's house, and her temperament changed greatly. When she touched it here and there, Xiaoya immediately reminded her children not to touch it, which was impolite, but the children ignored it.

Later, my friend's daughter came back and took Xiaoya's daughter into the room to play. Originally, the two girls had a good time, but Xiaoya suddenly heard a snapping sound, followed by the crying of her friend's daughter.

When she entered the room, Xiaoya knew that her daughter had broken another girl's toy. Xiaoya immediately inquired about the specific situation and learned that her daughter lost her temper because the other party refused to give the toy to her. As a result, the two men broke down as soon as they grabbed the toy.

Xiaoya's daughter also realized her mistake and was afraid that her mother would blame herself, so she first admitted her mistake: "Mom, I was wrong!" " "Xiaoya didn't rush to tell the children the truth, but squatted down and picked up the children's messy toys. She said to her daughter, "If you make a mistake, you can't solve it with an apology. If you break your sister's toy, we will have to pay for it. You have to buy a new one for your sister. The money for buying new toys will be deducted from your own pocket money! " The daughter nodded. Since this incident, she seldom touches other people's things. Every time she touches other people's things, she will get their permission first.

Education like Xiaoya is actually a template:

After the child makes a mistake, if the parents just preach to the child or lose their temper with the child, they will not solve any problems, which is a manifestation of low emotional intelligence.

Mothers with high emotional intelligence often do this after their children make mistakes.

Try to keep yourself calm and communicate with your children in a rational manner.

After the child makes a mistake, the mother with low emotional intelligence may be unable to control her emotions for a while and will solve the problem in a very extreme way.

However, mothers with high emotional intelligence can try to restrain their emotions, keep themselves calm and communicate with their children in a more rational manner.

Don't indulge children blindly, let them pay for their mistakes.

Since you have done something wrong, you can't just tolerate and indulge. If what children do is too much, then parents should make their children pay for their mistakes instead of just telling them the truth.

No matter how much truth you tell your children, they may go in one ear and out the other, but if they really need to pay for their mistakes and bear the consequences themselves, they won't make the same mistakes again next time.

Adhere to principles and let children know how to be human.

Although it doesn't mean that children have to live completely in the system, the most basic rules must be observed. When a child makes a mistake, parents should also stick to the principle and let the child know to behave.

Educate children in a more civilized way and don't swear.

The way you talk to children is also particular. If we often educate our children in some rude ways, it will only lead to more serious problems.

The correct treatment method is:

Parents should communicate with their children in a peaceful tone as much as possible;

Influence and educate children in a more civilized way to convince them;

Don't scold children, or they will learn from their parents' education and become irritable.

Everyone will make mistakes sometimes, but the key is to be able to recognize their mistakes in time and actively correct them so as not to make them again next time. When parents find that their children have done something wrong, we should also adopt a correct attitude to face and solve it.

If parents can do the above and seize the opportunity of education in time, the effect of education will be more obvious and will be very helpful to their children's future.

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