0 1, controlled by the other party's emotions.

Emotions and sorrows are always easy to influence each other. If the other person is in a good mood and treats them well, then they will be very happy. On the contrary, if the other person ignores him or is depressed, then their first reaction will be to be sad and in a bad mood, instead of taking the initiative to change the atmosphere and turn the situation around.

02, compared with the other party will appear more nervous and anxious.

In love, they are much more nervous about this relationship than each other. The slightest sign of trouble will make you feel anxious. Always doubt whether the other person still loves himself, whether there are other ambiguous objects, and whether he is unattractive in front of himself. In short, I feel insecure and insecure about my feelings.

03. Lose self-space

They can't help but want to stick to each other anytime, anywhere. Even if the other party has something they want to do, they will try to stay with each other. They spend a lot of useful time and only focus on "being with each other". Even if the other person expresses a reluctant attitude, they can't treat it rationally and feel that the other person doesn't love themselves enough.

04, do not have their own attitude towards life, subject to each other's standards.

There was once a student, that's all. After three years with her boyfriend, she likes fewer and fewer things, and even many of her previous preferences have changed because her boyfriend doesn't like them. She used to like dancing, spicy food and going to places with many people, but all this changed because her boyfriend didn't like it.

Boys don't like her dancing, saying that she is not stable and dignified enough, so she seldom dances slow. Boys don't like spicy food, and she also cooperated with her not to eat spicy food, so that in the end, her original personality gradually blurred, leaving only those points that were gradually assimilated by boys.

05, regard each other as everything.

They will feel that love is the backbone of their lives and the focus of her life. Once they lose love, they feel that they can't live any longer. Everything is meaningless. Without love, the world loses its original color. If the above characteristics also appear on you, then you should be careful, because you are likely to have become or are becoming a "dominated" in love.

NO 1, keep your social circle.

How to improve this situation and put an end to this tragic character in love? Try to keep your original social circle, even if you want to go out with your partner again, please be sure to set aside some fixed time to socialize. You can make a timetable for yourself and stipulate that you must go out with friends or girlfriends for half a day every weekend.

There are at least two or three days of holidays every month, so be sure to stay with your family. Such a rigid time plan can not only allow you to manage love, put some energy into managing friendship and affection, but also reduce your time together.

Meaningful things dominate time.

An effective way to stop people from thinking about one thing is to think about another. So you can spend some time doing things that require high concentration of energy and quick thinking, such as study and work. This will distract you from thinking about falling in love all the time, and the sense of accomplishment and fulfillment brought by study and work will also improve your inner self and become more confident.

Third. Try to control the time spent with your lover.

Spend more time with each other, not as much as possible, but to achieve a high-quality effect. Obviously, if you have all the time with each other and want to be together as long as possible, then such time will not be considered valuable. Because everything is rare.

When you reduce the invalid time with each other, you can make more effective use of the limited time with each other and help you create more beautiful memories. On the contrary, if you are always tired of being together, but always go your own way, have nothing to say, have no communication and can't find so many meaningful and interesting things to do, then your time together will not only be difficult to deepen your feelings, but also accelerate the other person's boredom with you and make the other person feel pressure.

Fourth place. Change the high and low position in feelings

In addition to controlling time, enriching your interpersonal relationship and shifting the focus of life, there is also a very important and fundamental problem, that is, you must change your position from the root of this relationship. If in feelings, you are always more afraid of losing each other, you always give in first, and you always invest more, then losing yourself will be the inevitable result.

So what you have to do is to improve your position in the relationship from the root and enhance your sense of value in the other person's heart. In every relationship, there will be interdependence, but if this dependence is too large, it will cause imbalance in the relationship. And this will not be a good thing for the lasting relationship between the two.

In love, the really reasonable way to get along is to know that when two people get along, each has its own advantages. Only in this way can feelings last for a long time and inner happiness be stronger.