First, inferiority complex.
Children from divorced families often have negative and pessimistic self-concepts, such as "My family is unhappy", "I am an unwanted child" and "My life is terrible". If they are frustrated in other ways, they will easily feel inferior.
Second, the problem of unsociable personality.
The disharmonious family environment makes children nervous about interpersonal relationships. The idea that "divorce is disgraceful, I don't want others to know, and I can't hold my head among my classmates" makes children reluctant to associate with many people, which is easy to form a withdrawn and unsociable character.
Third, the cowardly character problem.
Some parents, after divorce, often pin their feelings and hopes on their children, especially expecting their children to succeed and showing that they have taught their children well, so they are too tightly bound and disciplined. Over time, children's psychological burden is too heavy and they are afraid of disappointing their parents, so they stay away from their parents and become timid.
Fourth, rude personality problems.
Children from divorced families often don't understand their parents' divorce behavior, or understand divorce as their parents' ruthlessness and extreme selfishness. If parents often quarrel and fight before divorce, children will not feel the affection and warmth of the family, and will easily feel sad and indifferent, which will lead to rough personality.
Methods of educating children after divorce
1. Parents should guide their children to have a correct understanding of the family environment.
Divorce often happens when there are contradictions that cannot be solved. Although divorce has new problems, it is freed from greater pain and entanglement after all. Facing new problems, we should face them squarely and solve them step by step. Children should not conceal the fact of divorce for a long time, which will add a layer of distress. You can't hide Children who don't know the truth hate their parents. I once received a mother who took care of her children by herself. She let her children often go to her father's house to cover up the divorce. Children in the sixth grade feel that their parents have bad feelings, because the family never go out shopping together and have fun. One day, the child asked his parents to go to the park with him, but his mother refused. The child complained, "Since you two have such a bad relationship, why did you give birth to me?" In a word, my mother shed tears. I suggest that my mother discuss it with her son as soon as possible, tell her the main reasons for divorce and analyze the pros and cons. Be careful not to make the other person useless, try to be objective, and don't deliberately speak ill of the other person. Generally speaking, at first, children may not understand, be unwilling to accept the fact of divorce and feel depressed. Parents should be patient, and both sides should communicate frankly with their children, showing that their love and care for their children are consistent and will never change. As children grow older and experience increases, they will gradually understand their parents. Here, parents' own mentality is very important. Never bother yourself and feel inferior. Divorce without losing dignity. We should try our best to live proudly and let our children have an open mind.