All children need some leisure time to play.
Thomas Armstrong, an American scholar of children's education, believes that free play is healthier and more beneficial to preschool children than planned activities. Parents should avoid filling their children's time with various activities. All children need some leisure time to play.
2. Teach children to care about others
Even very young children can get happiness from helping others and form the habit of helping others.
Happy children need to feel that they have some meaningful connections with others and understand what he means to others. To cultivate this feeling, you can help your child to get in touch with others more. You can sort out some old toys with your child and donate them to charity with him to help homeless children. Children can also be encouraged to participate in some volunteer activities at school. Experts point out that even at a very young age, you can get happiness from helping others and form the habit of helping others.
3. Encourage children to exercise more.
Sports make children like themselves and find fun and a sense of accomplishment.
Playing ball games, cycling and swimming with children ... Doing more exercise can not only exercise children's physical fitness, but also make them more cheerful. Maintaining a vibrant life can moderately relieve children's stress and emotions, make children like themselves, have a more positive body image, and find fun and a sense of accomplishment from sports.
4. laugh often
Laughter is good exercise.
Telling jokes, making up some funny songs and laughing with children are good for you and your children. Just laughing is good exercise.
5. Creative compliments
When children behave well, don't just say "good." Be specific, tell the details, and point out the places that are impressive or better than last time. For example, "It's really polite of you to take the initiative to say good morning to the doorman's uncle today." However, we should also pay attention to praise and not develop children's false expectations. Some parents will reward their children with gifts or money, so that their children can focus on what rewards they can get, rather than doing well. Parents should let their children discover the satisfaction and sense of accomplishment brought by completing a thing, instead of rewarding him with material rewards.
6. Ensure that children eat healthily.
A healthy diet keeps children healthy and emotionally stable.
A healthy diet can not only make children healthy, but also make their emotions more stable. Whether it's dinner or snacks, we should try to follow healthy principles, such as low-fat, low-sugar, fresh and balanced diet.
7. Stimulate children's inner artistic talent.
Exposing children to activities such as music, art and dance can enrich their inner world.
Although scientists have confirmed that there is no so-called "Mozart effect", exposing children to music, art, dance and other activities can still enrich their inner world. Experts have found that when children dance to music or doodle with brushes, it is actually a way for children to express their inner world and feelings. Children like painting, dancing or playing music, and they will feel more satisfied with themselves.
8. Hug often
Gentle touching and hugging can relieve stress and calm restless emotions.
A gentle hug conveys infinite care and is a silent "I love you". Studies have found that gentle touching and hugging can make premature babies healthier, more active and more emotionally stable. For adults, hugs can also relieve stress and calm restless emotions.
9. Listen attentively
Listening attentively will make children feel cared for.
Nothing can make children feel cared for more than listening attentively. Want to be a better listener? Don't listen with only one ear. When the child is talking to you, try to stop what you are doing and listen to him attentively. Listen to the child patiently. Don't interrupt, hurry to help him express himself or let him finish his words quickly, even if you have heard what he said many times. It is the best time to listen when you accompany your child to school or put him to bed.
10, give up perfectionism
Parents should learn to let their children do something.
We all expect our children to show their best, but sometimes we are too eager to correct or improve their performance. For example, I don't like that they don't clean the table, just clean it themselves; Or correct them. They must put things in a certain position. Demanding perfection in everything will weaken children's self-confidence and courage not to be afraid of making mistakes. The next time you can't help but want to get involved and try to help your child do things better, think about it first: "Is this related to health or safety?" "Imagine, after 10 years, is this matter still so serious?" If not, let the children do it.
1 1. Teach children to solve problems.
Every progress of children is a milestone for children to become more independent.
Every step from learning to tie your shoelaces to crossing the street by yourself is a milestone for children to become more independent. When children find that they have the ability to solve the problems they face, they can bring happiness and a sense of accomplishment to them. When he meets obstacles, such as being laughed at by his playmates, or unable to solve a puzzle, you can take several steps to help him:
(1) Find out his problem.
(2) Encourage him to describe his own solution.
(3) Help him find out the steps to solve the problem.
(4) Decide to let him solve the problem by himself or provide some help.
(5) Make sure that he can get the help he needs.
12, the stage for children to perform
When you can appreciate your child's talent and show your enthusiasm, your child will naturally be more confident.
Every child has a unique talent. Why not give them a chance to show? If they like telling stories, encourage them to tell you more stories. If he is good at numbers, take him shopping and ask him to help you choose a cheaper one. When you can appreciate your child's talent and show your enthusiasm, your child will naturally be more confident.
Children around us not only need a carefree living environment, but also need adults to accompany them to "experience" their growth process.
If parents want their children to be responsible for their actions, they can't deprive them of the opportunity to fulfill their responsibilities. Let children handle their own affairs and bear the consequences for their own decisions, thus achieving the goal of cultivating children's sense of responsibility. Only in this way can we cultivate children's ability to think and solve problems independently.
Teacher's advice to young parents:
1, God is fair. On the issue of educating children, the more you pay when you are young, the more rational and scientific your education is, the less you pay when your children are old, and the more assured and fulfilled you will be.
2. "Family is the first school for children, and parents are the first teachers for children" is a truth. There should be scientific planning, correct guidance and reasonable measures for children's education, and parents should set an example. Your children's living habits, ways of doing things, ways of thinking and values of the world will all bear your shadow, because the important way for children to learn when they are young is unconscious or conscious imitation.
Parents should not neglect the education of their children for their own career, otherwise the children will probably ruin your career when they grow up. Don't neglect communication with your children for your own rest and entertainment, otherwise you will be unhappy when your children grow up, and you will have more sadness, anger and helplessness.
4. Pay attention to cultivating children's right and wrong. When the child is young and ignorant, we can never be happy when we hit his parents, grandparents or grandparents, let alone think that the child has grown up. At this time, we must seriously tell the children that this is wrong and respect the elderly. Otherwise, children will think that hitting people is a way to win their parents' happiness and gain their sense of value, so that the concept of right and wrong will be confused and he will probably hit you when he grows up. And so on. We should all attach great importance to it.