Charles Munger also said, "The best way to get something is to make yourself worthy of it".
What do these two sentences mean? In other words, if you want to get to know an expert, you must be excellent at first, and at least have similar resources with the other person.
That's true, but the number of experts in this world is still limited, and most people are still in the growth stage. Don't you have to wait until you become strong to meet the best people?
In a word, we don't know the master until we are good, but we become good in the process of knowing the master.
Sometimes when you encounter some problems in your life, the old geeks will give you some reference. This article will teach you several practical ways to meet people.
The first move: take the initiative.
When we are inferior to others, we must keep a low profile and learn from the master with an open mind. The most taboo is that you can't do anything and look down on others. Our ability is limited at this time, so don't chat with experts at this time, because their time is precious.
What shall we do? If you spend money to buy their time, you'd better pay first. Such a tall person will tell you much more than paying later. Don't ask why, you will gradually realize it later.
For example, when I have problems that I can't solve, I will ask my seniors. The way is to send him a red envelope from 88 yuan first, just 10 minutes.
If I prepare my questions first, I usually get the questions that I need to explore for months or years in 10 minutes. The most important thing is my thinking and direction. Remember to make preparations in advance, which can save both sides time.
Sometimes I spend hundreds of dollars on a book, and I learn a sentence, haha, it's worth it! I spent 700 yuan on a training camp and learned a method to make 700 yuan worth it.
The secret of success is to find someone who has already done it to teach you! But why should people help you?
Think about what you can offer each other. Give him money? Make money for him?
If you can't provide it, become his client and spend his time.
What is the The Secret Behind of interpersonal interaction, interpersonal cooperation, making deals with others and influencing others?
The same thing, the same method, two different people, get different results! There are no projects that don't make money, only people who don't make money! This is the eternal truth!
Therefore, it is easiest to learn to spend money to buy time when your ability is insufficient!
The second trick: ask the other person to do you a small favor.
It sounds incredible to ask someone to help you, but in fact, people who are better than you rarely need you. Taking the initiative to trouble him is actually a prerequisite for establishing a mutually beneficial relationship. According to the knowledge of psychology, when the other person helps you, the other person has gradually begun to trust you.
For example:
Phil used this psychological skill of asking the other person for a small favor and finally won the appreciation of a teacher and accepted him as an apprentice.
Phil has been particularly fond of painting since he was a child. There is an eccentric painter named rocky in his town. This Loki is a famous local painter. My family is very rich. In addition to painting, I also run several factories, which are also famous in the local area.
Even so, rocky is eccentric and thick-skinned. He often holds a cigar and sometimes speaks rudely.
Phil wanted to worship the teacher for a long time, but he was refused several times. He tried many ways to put in a good word, but Loki refused to accept him as an apprentice. I remember once Phil came to Rocky's house with a gift. He didn't wait to talk.
Rocky said, you'd better go. I won't accept you as an apprentice. Don't waste my time here in the future. Phil thought of a way and finally became the apprentice of Master Loki.
It turned out that Phil wanted to buy himself a house, which happened to be next to Rocky's house. Rocky knows that house too well.
Once, Phil came to see rocky again. As soon as I came in, I said, Master Loki, I'm not here to learn from a teacher. I want to ask you a little favor. It only takes a minute if it's convenient.
Rocky looked the same with a cigar in his mouth and said, okay, come on.
Phil said: I want to buy a house and start a company. I think you will know the situation of that house, so I want to ask your opinion. Do you think this is a good plan?
Sure enough, after hearing this, Rocky didn't drive Phil away again, feeling that Phil had also asked his advice on the idea of starting a company, which made him feel noble. Later, Rocky had a chair taken, and they talked all night.
As you can guess, Phil not only successfully founded the company, but also succeeded in learning from Loki. This is a classic psychological case of how to use the other person to do you a small favor. Sometimes this method can work wonders.
The third measure: summarize the records in time after learning from the master.
After every consultation, class and meeting, you must take notes and summarize them in time. Look at what they did well, what they did badly, and what they should pay attention to next time. At the same time, think more, be good at drawing inferences, find your own way, and create your own style with your own interests.
You can't underestimate the ability to summarize records. If you use it well, you can improve yourself quickly.
Give a real case:
I don't know if you have heard of Xing Shuai Internet College, but Xing Shuai Internet College is one of the earliest online education institutions in China. Now it is an online business school with annual sales of one billion.
Its founder Xing Shuai, a sophomore, started teaching Photoshop in QQ group in 2008. Xing Shuai Network College has been focusing on vocational skills training, and the students are mainly grassroots groups. Later, I started a business with my partners, from the initial QQ group class to YY platform, and then to the establishment of colleges with diverse teaching forms and many disciplines. Team Xing Shuai is definitely a classic case of online teaching mode in China.
As a model of Internet grassroots counterattack in China and a rare entrepreneurial model in China, what did Xing Shuai do right?
Let's listen to Xing Shuai's own dictation:
It is almost impossible for an enterprise to maintain rapid development all the time, but we have almost done it.
At the beginning of 2008, we were still a workshop-style educational institution, looking for customers from QQ group and starting from teaching PS, but after 9 years, we have grown into a global company with a valuation of nearly 10 billion.
At the earliest, it was just me and my partner in the company. Although we worked hard, only slept for three hours every day, spent all our energy on preparing lessons and answering questions, smashed dozens of keyboards and tried to improve our business level, but the number of applicants was still tepid. Until one day, I was surprised to find that the number of users rose sharply, and then I wondered why.
It turned out that day, YY live class was over and there was still a little time, so I chatted my story by the way. After the end, I didn't expect more paying users that day than last month.
Then I thought, besides preparing lessons hard every day, do I really know my users? Isn't their pain point learning awesome skills? Yes, but no.
At that time, most of my users were ordinary young people in small towns like me, and their internal drive was not strong, but why did they sign up? Because they not only need to learn skills, but also eager to find their own clear growth path from others. They need a hero to stand up and say, look, that's how I succeeded, not only in the process, but also when I saw the results.
From 2009 to 20 12, the trend of Taobao e-commerce is on the rise. Millions of Taobao shops need P pictures for retouching, and the crowd learning ps suddenly broke out. Xing Shuai Education, which has a solid reputation, suddenly became the "No.1 brand of PS online teaching", and my hair fell out, and I finally became the first batch of network celebrity lecturers on the Internet in China.
Dear professional webmasters, Xing Shuai labels himself as a webmaster, not those celebrities who broadcast live online. We must distinguish between these two concepts. From 60 million to 654.38+0.5 billion, the most ruthless move of Xing Shuai's educational gene fission is actually pushing the road!
By 20 1 1 year, after YY education was formally established, we had more and more opponents in YY. Both New Oriental and Xueersi have settled in the platform, but we still keep the first place. When other organizations can't find a profit model, our 762 1 channel keeps splitting exponentially, and the employee 16 has an annual salary of 660.
This achievement enabled us to obtain YY150,000 angel round financing in 20 13. I also moved the company from Dali to Guangzhou for the greater development of the enterprise. At first, the staff and I didn't adapt, but in the process of growing up, we gradually broadened our own pattern.
Then in the summer of 20 14, the dream of establishing an independent platform was realized, and xsteach com community 1.0 version, as well as mobile phone client Android version and ios version were successively launched. The platform has many functions, such as course live broadcast, live broadcast playback, community forum and so on.
In the past, Xing Shuai needed YY, Tencent Classroom and other external platforms to realize live broadcast and interactive functions, but now it can be realized on its own platform. The user experience before and after the self-built platform is simply different.
If you ask me what the most powerful core weapon is when I started my business for 9 years, from a QQ group to a billion-dollar company, I will say "pushing the road".
This is just our internal statement. In fact, the essence is "abnormal to the extreme."
My partner and I don't go home first after work every day. We are in Dali, Yunnan, along the road of the ancient city, pressing the road. In the process, we made up the plates of the day.
Some people may think that the resumption is a conventional weapon, but I think it is a nuclear weapon, because we can really resume every day and iterate every day!
Later, the company expanded and the new management often opposed it. They don't think it is necessary to engage in formalism, but I am determined. If I can't do it, I'll ask by force.
Group members must have breakfast together every day and return yesterday's plates at dinner.
Why would I do that? Because this era is changing so fast, many companies make a big resumption every month and a small resumption every week. Since we are not as smart as they are, we should make up for it with diligence, and the iteration speed is calculated in days, so that we can have competitive capital.
This is the reason why our company has been looking very smooth since its establishment nine years ago. Business model and marketing rules are not important. The most important trick is ultimate recovery, abnormal recovery, mistakes, and iteration every day!
Did you get a look at him? This is the advantage of summing up the discount. If you can also insist on the resumption, there will be unexpected gains. This is the power of being good at summing up.
There are not many tricks, depending on your mastery and application. Each of us has limited time. When we want to learn a certain skill, we go directly to the experts in that field.
When one's ability is insufficient, the most effective way to make friends with superior people is to spend money on one's own time. Make a summary in time after learning, and finally find out your own style. You can also be a master in the future.
What you grope for is the most expensive, and it will waste your precious time. Time is your life! Money is not.
And you can save your time to the greatest extent by spending money. You can do what others did 10 years, because you dare to spend money to buy time, experience and skills! So you can save 9 years and create more value!
You must remember that a master is for use, not for worship, not for worship, but for creating your destiny connector.