Friendly and equal friendship
To establish a friendly and equal friendship with children, we should respect children, communicate with them as friends, remember the educational method of either beating or cursing, support children's independent attempts, encourage comfort when they fail, and give affirmation and praise when they succeed.
Stabilize mood
Parents must stabilize their children's emotions before educating them, and don't educate their children when they are emotional, otherwise it will cause children's resistance.
Transposition consideration
Learn to put yourself in the child's shoes, think from the child's standpoint, understand the child's psychological thoughts, and resonate with the child, and you will soon find the problem.
Appropriately give children "decentralization"
Give children proper "decentralization", and parents should give their children proper autonomy, right to speak, right to vote, right to control their own time and right to privacy. If there is something unreasonable, parents can give their children advice, but they can't veto it with one vote.
Revise expectations for children.
We should revise our expectations of our children and don't embarrass them with standards that we can't do.
Treat children sincerely.
Treat children sincerely, and don't always talk to them in a tone of command and accusation. This kind of communication will open the distance between you and your child, but when you feel embarrassed, you can honestly explain your worries or emotions to your child and let him know that his behavior will worry you.
Spend more time with children.
Spend more time with your children. The common feature of adolescent children is that they will feel lonely, and the company of their families is very important to them.
Good example
Parents should set a good example for their children, keep their word and establish a reliable image in their hearts.