Parents of Class 3 (6) Zhang Biying

First of all, I am very grateful to the "parent school" for providing us with such a learning platform, so that our parents can learn more ways to educate their children, and also understand the truth that children cannot be lost at the starting line from an early age. As parents, we should help our children avoid detours and make them learn more effectively. I summed up the following points;

First, treat children with appreciation, encourage them more and affirm them more, and never hurt their self-esteem.

My son used to be very disobedient, which made me very helpless and impatient. Whenever he makes a mistake, I can't help calling him stupid. When doing homework at home, he peeks at TV as long as I don't pay attention. Often a little homework will drag on for hours, and the handwriting is scrawled. In order to let him do his homework well, I locked him in his room alone, but it was still "my nephew plays lanterns-the same as before", which gave me a headache. However, since joining the "parent school" run by the school, I have been exposed to many ideas of family education and changed my attitude towards him. I will tell him in advance when he does his homework; "Son, you can write well, but you are not paying attention. As long as you write carefully, mom believes you can do it. " Even though his writing is still unsatisfactory, I still control my anger and calmly guide him how to do and write. This is how he persisted, and the speed and quality of his work finally improved. This makes me deeply feel that parents can't scold their children's mistakes, which will only make them lose their ambitions faster. I think children are more willing to hear words of encouragement from their parents after doing something wrong, and are more willing to accept the patient guidance and help from their parents.

Second, use empathy to understand children.

I remember once, on the first day of school, the teacher found me and said that my son was very disobedient at school. At that time, I felt very uncomfortable and embarrassed when I heard it. Besides, there were many parents at that time, and I really wanted to find a hole to get into. Later, I thought that regardless of the occasion, as long as the child is not right, he will scold me. I realized that what I usually do is too wrong, and I only consider my own feelings, but not the feelings of my children. In fact, children are as proud as we adults. After that, I stopped scolding him, especially in front of others. On the contrary, I try my best to win him face. Someone praises him when he is around, and then quietly reminds him to study hard and enlighten him more when he gets home. Now the children's grades are much better and their studies are much more serious!

Third, think of children as your guests.

I have a bad personality. As long as the children are wrong, I get angry. I always wonder why you just won't listen. The other children are very obedient. Why can't we learn from other children? This comparison, the more angry, the more depressed, so that I have no patience with him. But since I understood the concept of family education, I realized my mistake. We should treat our children as guests. If there are guests at home, they won't beat and scold no matter how bad they are. We should reason with him and communicate with him. After knowing his thoughts, we can find the problem, have a bottom in our hearts, prescribe the right medicine, our mood will not be so flustered, and our attitude towards him will naturally change. I believe that children understand this truth.

Fourth, what children can do by themselves must be done by themselves, but they should be given enough rest time.

At home, I will let him wash his face and feet, wear his own clothes and shoes, let him do his own thing, and cultivate good self-care ability from an early age. I also ask my children to adjust their study and rest time. When do they learn and play? Let him have a serious learning attitude. Only when he is in a good state of mind can he combine work and rest and promote each other.

Parents should not make decisions for their children and let them make their own plans. But we should help children realize the value of time, discuss the disadvantages of wasting time with them, and make them understand that procrastination is a bad habit that can miss life.

In short, our parents should attach importance to their children's education, don't rush, don't complain, don't freeze, adhere to the principle of less criticism and more encouragement, give their children a sense of security and let them grow up healthily and happily.

Talk about how to educate children

V (1) Sun Xiao's parents

Educating children should pay attention to reality, proceed from reality, and educate them according to their actual situation, not empty fantasies. There must be certain rules in educating children. The same way is suitable for this child, but not necessarily for another child. But you should always let your children feel that they are the best in their parents' hearts.

When my daughter first entered primary school, she was introverted and timid. She is unknown in the class and doesn't often raise her hand to answer the teacher's questions in class. Faced with this situation, on the one hand, I communicate with the teacher, and try to make the teacher pay more attention to her, and call the roll in class to let her answer questions, so that she can feel the teacher's attention to her and enhance her self-confidence. On the other hand, I will cheer her up when I go home and tell her that it doesn't matter if she is wrong. What is important is that we can recognize and correct our mistakes in time and have the courage to continue to accept various challenges in our study. This constant encouragement, encouragement and encouragement has enhanced her self-confidence, and her desire to express herself has finally been aroused, and the number of times of raising her hand to speak in class has gradually increased. After a semester of hard work, the children's grades have obviously improved a lot.

Learning is not only a matter for children, but also a matter for parents. Always take your child to the bookstore, help her choose the right books, and cultivate her reading habits from an early age. You can order some favorite books and newspapers for your child and yourself, read them with your child, create a family reading atmosphere, make her realize the importance of learning, and regard learning as a habit and a pleasure.

Children grow up gradually, not only physically but also mentally. At this age, she began to have her own outlook on life and world, her own thoughts, and gradually alienated from us, resulting in a generation gap, even contradictions and conflicts. At this time, parents should lower their posture, not only have love, but also have patience, tolerance and childlike innocence to communicate with their children, or play some games with their children in different atmospheres, such as kicking shuttlecock, playing chess and jumping rubber bands. First, reconcile the atmosphere, and then tell her what she can and can't do. If the child has the ability to solve the problem by himself, try not to interfere and give it to her. At the same time, it will cultivate her independence, let her feel the respect of her parents, and the children will respect their parents more and feel more responsible for themselves.

Education is to let children grasp the direction of their efforts, cultivate good habits and pursue their own goals!

Family education plays a vital role in children's growth, and every parent should pay attention to it. With the increasingly fierce social competition, parents want their children to become Jackie Chan and Phoenix, and always pay attention to their children's education. However, family education should be based on the actual situation of children and should be guided by the situation. We can't be stereotyped, and the methods of family education are flexible and diverse. My personal summary is as follows:

First of all, it is the premise of family education to create a good learning atmosphere for children. An environment can change a person. Family members should unite and live in harmony, respect and honor the elderly, and don't swear or swear. As the advertisement says: parents are the best teachers for children, and only in a good family environment can children thrive. The "Three Major Movements in Meng Mu" fully illustrates this point. Those who are close to ink are black, and those who are close to ink are black. Children have strong imitation ability. Parents should set an example and be their first teachers.

Secondly, we should cultivate children's interest in learning. Children's perceptual knowledge is gradual. Only when they are interested in something first can they know it and study it. The same is true of learning. The "parent-child reading" activity carried out by the school is mainly to guide and promote parents and children to read and study together. Children have cultivated a strong interest in reading from an early age, creating a healthy environment for their growth. For example, when my family visited the supermarket, the first place I took my children to was the bookcase, where I read books with my children and talked about the contents of the books while shopping. Over time, children became interested in books. In addition, I often tell children stories about historical figures. The children were fascinated and asked me, "How do you know so much?" "This is all I have learned from books." Hearing this, the child seems to realize that the knowledge contained in the book is far beyond his imagination, and naturally he has a good impression on this book. When children want to know more about me, I pretend to be confused and say I don't know. I will guide my children to read books by themselves, look up information by themselves, and cultivate their habit of reading books on their own initiative. Curiosity, activeness and curiosity are the nature of children. When children's ideas are inconsistent with their parents', we should not force others' ideas, but respect children's nature and guide them skillfully so that children don't feel bound. Only by giving the child a blue sky can he fly high.

Finally, we should get along with children on an equal footing and communicate on an equal footing. When children do their homework and let their parents check it, they must take it seriously and not perfunctory. Only when parents are serious and responsible can they cultivate their children's serious and down-to-earth learning attitude, and also help them develop good study habits and benefit them for life. In the family, parents and children are different generations, but they are equal in personality, and they can't hurt their self-esteem at will. When a child does something wrong, you should try to calmly analyze with him why and where it is wrong, so that the child can feel your love and understanding from the bottom of his heart, truly understand the mistake and correct it. Don't ask, don't beat and scold indiscriminately, not only don't give you time to know the mistake, but also make him have rebellious and hateful psychology, which is not conducive to the healthy growth of children's body and mind.

Of course, the above points are just my superficial personal views summarized in real life, for reference only. The shortcomings are still looking forward to discussing improvements with parents, and I hope that our family education can better protect children's learning and growth.

Don't hurt children's confidence.

(4) Zhang Qian's parents are in class.

Not long ago, when I was checking my son's homework, I accidentally read his Chinese textbook lesson 12-Mother's Lies. After reading this text, I am deeply touched! Especially when I read my son crying and telling his mother: I know I'm not a smart boy, but only you can appreciate me in this world ... Although everything you said is false, I like listening because it's my motivation to learn ... This sentence gives me a feeling of epiphany. This is a child's voice. It is precisely because of the mother's well-intentioned lies that her son has established his self-confidence and finally gained something from his son who is not smart.

Think about myself, I am also a mother, but in the process of my son's growth, I had many wrong educational methods, which even hurt his self-esteem, hit his self-confidence, and felt a lot of self-blame. I remember when my son was in the first grade, after a math exam, he came home and said to me, "Mom, I got 95 points today. Next time, I must be the first like the monitor, with a score of 100. " But when I saw him calculate a subtraction into an addition problem because of carelessness in the test paper, I was furious and shouted at him: "You are so careless, you will never get the first place in the exam!" " "After listening to my words, my son immediately bowed his head without saying a word. Up to now, my son has not only failed to get rid of his carelessness, but has never mentioned the first place in the exam since then. When I mentioned it, he would only keep silent. I've been blaming him. The bigger you are, the less confident you are and the less motivated you are! But now that I think about it, maybe my rude words have hurt his confidence and ambition invisibly.

In retrospect, I decided to have a good talk with my son. So I talked with my son for a long time that night. I sincerely told him: "My mother read this text and was very moved and thought a lot. I think I should learn from that mother! " My mother did a lot of wrong things in the process of educating you before. Now I apologize to you. In the future, I will study hard and try to be your good friend, ok? "Unexpectedly, after listening to my words, my son even said to me," Thank you, Mom! In the past, I also made many mistakes. In the future, I must learn from my son in Wen, try to correct my previous shortcomings and study hard. "I am very pleased to hear my son's words. In fact, my son grew up slowly. What he really needs is appreciation, understanding and encouragement.

It is said that parents are children's first teachers, and parents' appreciation and encouragement to children are the source of children's self-confidence. On the contrary, blindly accusing and demanding will only make children feel insecure and at a loss. Self-confidence is the cornerstone of success. Only self-confidence can lead to success. Therefore, please don't hurt your child's self-confidence!

Importance of scores

When my son goes to primary school, exams are inevitable. Three-day quiz, weekly big exam, math today, Chinese tomorrow and English the day after tomorrow. Exams have become a routine, and even we feel overwhelmed. With exams, there will be scores, and with scores, there will be high scores and low scores. And every test result of children affects the sensitive nerves of our parents.

Test scores are actually only a reflection of children's learning at a certain stage. For a first-grade child, the score may have no influence on his life, but the attitude of his parents will have an absolute influence on his life. Your attitude determines whether it will hurt your child's self-esteem and self-confidence. You know, there are no children who can't learn well, only parents who can't teach well. If the child does not do well in the exam, parents should not rush to scold the child, but reflect on themselves first. Usually, children develop good study habits, and parents do a good job, not afraid that children will not get good grades in the exam. Besides, the score itself is not important, what matters is the problem reflected by the score. After the exam, what parents should do is to analyze the test paper with their children to see where the weak links of their children need to be supplemented and consolidated, and where they should not make mistakes. Pay attention to them next time, analyze them one by one with the children, and give them a "symptomatic" guidance, which will neither dampen their self-confidence nor make them more clear about their future study priorities.

Before the exam, parents' main job is to urge their children to develop good study habits and teach them some necessary learning methods. In addition to good habits such as independent thinking, we should also guide children to learn to preview, listen carefully, ask questions if they don't understand, and review such a good learning process. In this "exam-oriented era", we should also teach our children some necessary exam-oriented skills, as well as the experience and skills we have summed up in previous studies. Children can master these methods without worrying about poor academic performance. My son now knows that he should preview, consolidate and review when studying. I am glad that he can understand and use these keywords.

There was a misunderstanding in educating children before. I have always asked my children to be among the best in my class, hoping to let them play an exemplary role. But my dad's words woke me up as a dreamer. My father said: "ten years of study is like a marathon." Kids, it's just beginning. There is no need for children to be dominant. Since ancient times, the leaders of marathon rarely won the first place. The first place is often the person who just started in the first phalanx. They are too tired to lead and may not have the strength to sprint at critical moments. " After listening to my father's words, I am no longer so harsh on my children and pay more attention to their inner feelings. I am relaxed, too. I no longer arrange so many extracurricular exercises for my children, and everyone is happy that they can still get into the top of the class.

But then again, there is a big difference between 100 and 99. Although there is only a small difference, many parents think that this is caused by children's carelessness, and they can get full marks with a little care. In fact, carelessness is the lack of attention, observation, reaction and judgment. When parents tell their children to be careful, they should also pay attention to cultivating their children's abilities in the above aspects. They can let children do puzzles, walk mazes and other games to exercise their ability in this respect. If there are no puzzles and mazes at home, it can also play a good role for children to do some oral arithmetic (reading and calculating) exercises within the specified time.

I hope that parents can pay more attention to the cultivation of children's learning ability and study habits while paying attention to their children's academic performance.