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1. Physiological characteristics of junior high school students
2. The pressure faced by junior high school students
3. How should parents respond?
First, the physiological characteristics of junior high school students
1. Characteristics of formal operation stage &; Trouble.
After entering junior high school, students begin to change from specific operation stage to formal operation stage. Simply put, the doll's hair is black, so when you think of black, you think of the doll and solve the problem with concrete things. Normal operation can directly imagine the process of many things in your mind, such as the friction of the slider from A to B. Parents who want to know more can search (Piaget pendulum experiment)
Back to the formal operation stage, children at this stage began to be able to reason, induce and summarize. Faced with more abstract knowledge such as concepts and definitions, they began to try to imagine and construct scenes in their minds, which is a critical period for the establishment of logical thinking. Therefore, at this stage, the general feeling is that students are beginning to differentiate. From the experience, students' learning status and grades began to divide formally from the second grade, and many children who studied well in the first grade began to have rebellious psychology, poor state and declining grades. In fact, there is no introduction to individual subjects, which leads to the temporary inability to keep up with thinking, which leads to psychological deviation and imbalance, and finally gets worse and worse.
2. Self-consciousness inflation and emotional management deviation.
At this stage, children are in the stage of self-identity and identity confusion (Erickson's theory of psychological and social development), which is simply the expansion of their "adult" consciousness, but they lack the ability of adults, and they lack the same level of equal respect as adults. At this time, parents are in the conflict stage between fertility and self-concern, that is, they should not only pay attention to their children's growth, but also bear the pressure of social work and self-growth. As the saying goes, adolescence meets menopause.
Adolescent children generally want to be respected, so their words and deeds are full of personality and rebellion to show their maturity. However, this kind of behavior is only childish in the eyes of parents, and contradictions will arise in words. Most students who lack emotional management ability take confrontation. If you deny me, we are enemies, and this way becomes rebellion in the eyes of adults.
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Second,
1. Social pressure.
I put this in the first place, because in junior high school, social pressure is generally ignored by parents, who think their children are honest and popular. In fact, their children don't know about school violence at school, because there are communication barriers between parents and students.
Children at this stage have strong self-esteem. When you study particularly well, you must be careful, because classmates similar to you may isolate you. I am the top two in each class, and the other top students subconsciously don't cooperate, which is called cold violence; Besides, when your study is particularly poor, you will find that the teacher often criticizes you, although sometimes unconsciously, but this criticism often stays on the lips of the students around you to laugh at you, and unless the students have good psychological quality, their self-confidence will be hit hard, and they will hate school and study from now on.
2. Study pressure.
There are mainly two kinds of study pressure here, one is psychological pressure and the other is homework pressure. Psychological stress is mostly due to good academic performance. Teachers, parents, classmates and even themselves have high expectations of themselves. Once there is a little mistake, it seems that it is not allowed. Once it appears, it will easily lead to super psychological fluctuations. There is also a class of students who have average academic performance, but have been working hard. This kind of students put a lot of psychological pressure on themselves, and the slogan that they can succeed through hard work has always been on their lips. It is normal to stay up until eleven or twelve o'clock, but it is also normal to have unsatisfactory grades, which leads to students' inferiority complex and decreased learning efficiency.
As far as homework pressure is concerned, it is an overwhelming test paper. For a good student, it takes eight or nine points to finish quickly. It is almost impossible for ordinary students to finish on time, so the phenomenon of copying homework is endless. Therefore, we strongly support the national double reduction policy, and it should be imperative for middle school students to reduce their burdens.
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Third, what do parents do?
1. Put a low profile and switch from guidance to consultation.
Parents are used to guiding their children to do this now and that later, but junior high school children have long wanted to have their own space and win respect, so at this time you should communicate with your children by means of communication and consultation. "I had a XX at work today and did a very funny thing." I guide my children to communicate and exchange things in their lives. In this atmosphere, many things can be exchanged, and my values (family education) should also be input to my children at this time. For example, "I don't think your classmate's practice is perfect, but XX will be better. What do you think? " It's not criticism, it's guidance. Pay attention, otherwise you will become the enemy of your child in an instant, and you don't need to know his friends in the future.
2. Be yourself, from urging to setting an example.
We say that children are actually their own mirrors. Many children I have taught have a great relationship with their parents, such as whether their parents love swearing, whether their parents love haggling with others, and whether their parents can sit down for an hour and do something seriously. You should know that children's initial learning style is imitation, and their first teacher is their parents. If they want their children to become better, their parents must be strict with themselves. The so-called chicken baby needs chicken first.
The above is what the teacher summed up from the experiences of many students. I hope I can give you some help, and continue to update after more than 2000 likes.