On the other hand, the theoretical books of our family education parents are often self-contradictory. For example, Never Leave Children: Revelation of Harvard Independent Education, Never Leave Children, Teachers and Never Leave Children; "Children can't ignore it" and "children must take care of it".
In fact, these are two different views on educating children. One is to give parents a wrong idea of educating their children from a general perspective: one is that children should not be punished; One is that children should be punished!
However, in real life, some parents want to "control" and "contain" their children as soon as possible, use the martial arts words to "defeat the enemy" and do their homework honestly; Parents with this idea think that educating their children to "love, tolerance, tolerance, democracy, equality, freedom and humanity" is "nonsense". Obviously, children make me angry. Can I say that there is still polite education for children? What about the "lawless" child "pushing his nose to his face"? In this case, parents' prestige is gone, how to educate their children?
Because, for thousands of years, our tradition has been "being the master of the country" with corporal punishment education as the mainstay. As the saying goes, "a son should not be beaten" and "a dutiful son is born under a stick". These ancient laws all emphasize the importance of "beating and cursing" in educating people.
In recent years, with the implementation of family planning and the emergence of the only child, children have naturally become "little bullies and little emperors". That is to say, some parents can criticize and punish "the overlord is hard on the bow" because of their parents' doting on their children. Besides, once a child is punished, who can afford it?
It is in this climate that "punishment education" gradually declined and was replaced by "appreciation education", "praise education" and "happy education", and "punishment education" was even considered as a manifestation of incompetence.
Therefore, the educational theory that caters to parents came into being.
Children's education should have "appreciation, praise and happiness", but blindly "appreciation, praise and happiness" is far from the "track" of education.
However, with the wide promotion of "appreciation and happiness" education as a concrete embodiment of quality education, "disciplinary education" is gradually fading out of people's sight, especially in school education, teachers even talk about "punishment". In the face of unruly children, many teachers have expressed the feeling that "teachers are becoming more and more difficult". As a result of passive coping, the interests of most students, including the children who caused the accident, are damaged.
For a time, the debate about whether to punish children has a long history. There used to be many people who opposed punishment and put forward "education, refusing punishment." Some people think that punishment is a morbid form derived from the process of educational evaluation, and it is a taboo for educators, which has many harms but no benefits.
In fact, as far as "education" itself is concerned, it contains the factor of "punishment".
In other words, educating children cannot be without punishment, and educating children cannot be separated from punishment; Education without punishment is incomplete education.
In fact, as far as education itself is concerned, there should be not only "praise, criticism and reward", but also "punishment" to check and balance.
"Punishment" education, to some extent, is also a frustration education.
Therefore, education without punishment is weak education, fragile education and irresponsible education.
However, punishment is a double-edged sword, with both positive and negative aspects.
In family education, when parents "punish" their children's mistakes, they should make use of their advantages to avoid their shortcomings, and should not abandon their advantages because of their shortcomings. Education can't abuse punishment, but it can't be without punishment. Education cannot refuse punishment, and education should always retain the right to punishment.
There are laws for punishment, but there are no laws. As long as parents can correctly understand and use punishment, educational punishment will definitely play an indispensable positive role.
It should be solemnly stated here that no matter what kind of "punishment" education, it can not be replaced by "indiscriminate", "corporal punishment" and "sudden attack" education. We should know that punishment education and corporal punishment education cannot be confused, let alone "stealing concepts."