However, no one can say for sure whether a child will succeed in the future, so we should cultivate children's ability from an early age so that they can become talents in the future.
However, we can often hear such words, "Nowadays, boys' ability to resist blows is very poor. One can't peel the eggs, but one is as fragile as an egg. "
"They just live a good life. If I let them work in the fields every day, I will see who wants to jump off the building. " I often hear some parents say this.
But in fact, these seemingly realistic words can't easily reach children's ears, which will easily hurt children's self-esteem and make boys give up on themselves.
In modern family education, many parents pay more and more attention to their children's intellectual development under the impetuous and desire social background, but never pay attention to the cultivation of their children's personality and character, which is a serious deviation in family education.
Often after 15 years old, it is not the most important thing to see whether a person can have a longer-term development.
What really matters is this person's personality and personality-centered personality. Cultivating a child's character properly in the early stage is more conducive to his long-term development.
Li Meijin also put forward the concept of desensitization education. She once said that parents should give up the following three things if they want their children to be successful.
Don't spoil your children blindly, otherwise it will be difficult for them to become talents in the future. As the saying goes, "How can you see a rainbow without experiencing wind and rain?"
First, I am willing to "let go" my children.
Most parents spoil their children too much when they are young. They help their children do everything well, and they don't want to say a word about their children. However, this practice is harmful to their children.
This pampered child has poor self-care ability and needs great efforts to support himself. You may have gone too far in supporting the elderly, and you may become a "neet" in everyone's mouth, exploiting the property and houses of the elderly.
Li Meijin's own children were once loudly reprimanded by his grandfather. At that time, Mr. Li persuaded: "The child is so young, you scared him."
But Mr. Li's father replied, "After what happened to me, he will go out into the society, and nothing can scare him."
In fact, children are much stronger than you think, so you should be willing to let them suffer. As the saying goes, "you have to suffer to be a master." Children who have suffered from childhood are particularly resistant to stress and most of them can succeed when they grow up.
If you love children, don't spoil them too much. Willing to let them suffer and let them explore the world by themselves.
Second, I am willing to spend money for my children.
Parents are still too persistent about "poor children and rich daughters". Although you say you are poor in raising your son, you can't die poor. As parents, we should be willing to spend money for our children. I have heard a saying, "You should be what you want your children to be", so you are willing to spend money on your children, which means you are investing in yourself.
Yang Yuqi, a senior two boy, spoke out that his mother was "stingy" to himself in the program "Teenagers Say".
Since elementary school, his mother has told him that his family is too poor, and it will take a long time to buy a pen with his mother.
Every day, he worries that one day he will not be able to eat. Later, when he saw that his family had bought a new car, he thought that he finally had to live a hard life. As a result, his mother lied to him that this car was bought by his family in the lottery.
In order to exercise him, his parents made up one lie after another that could not be justified. Finally, one day, they can't hide from their children anymore.
They think that poor parenting is an exercise for boys. Material is not good for boys, never satisfied. This can stimulate the "hardness" of boys' character, encourage them to learn to suffer hardships and learn to bear setbacks in life.
As Ma Weiwei said:
The result of excess is to make boys have a stronger desire for material and money.
So I advise parents that if they have sons at home, they must be willing to spend money for their children.
Of course, money must be spent in the right place, especially in education, so that children can be better in the future.
Third, willing to let children "make mistakes"
Some parents are very strict with their children when they are young. They don't let them make any mistakes. In the eyes of parents, they do this for their own good, so as not to take detours when they grow up.
But what parents never thought was that you didn't teach your children how to face mistakes and failures, and when they really encounter similar problems, they will choose the most extreme path, such as running away from home, self-mutilation or even suicide.
As the saying goes, failure is the mother of success. When children are young, they are not allowed to make mistakes or experience failures. When they grow up, they will be discouraged, have no courage to try, and may eventually accomplish nothing. Parents must take this as a warning.
It doesn't matter how many setbacks children suffer when they are young, as long as they don't suffer and grow up.
To make children succeed, the cultivation of high emotional intelligence is essential. We can prepare books on EQ training for children when they are still young, and spare ten minutes to read with them every day to help them develop high EQ and make them feel at home in society.
Educating children should also pay attention to moderation. Children grow up in the relaxed environment of their parents and feel the warmth of family and the beauty of life. When children and parents become friends, they are willing to listen to their parents' opinions.
Every child in the world has a positive heart, depending on how parents guide him. They all came to this world with a mission.
We should accept our children's shortcomings as we accept our imperfect selves!
Let the children grow up in their own time zone, take it easy, take it easy, and you will be happy when the children are comfortable.
Therefore, the goal of parents' education for their children is to make them become a person with sound personality.
I believe that when you treat your child with tenderness and love, he will feel the least harm, the greatest kindness, the strongest self-confidence and the fullest sense of security in this world!
It is better to take time to show your children than to tell them earnestly.
As far as my personal educational philosophy is concerned, Xiao Yi hopes that my daughter and son will have independent and confident personalities and a compassionate heart.
My personal understanding of the independence of boys is to give them the ability to distinguish right from wrong, let them know what they want and fight for it.
The confidence of boys is to give them courage and perseverance. Compassion for others means respecting yourself, others and life.
So I like telling stories to my children as friends, or watching picture books to grow up together. We should keep a low profile, don't demand parents' face, and grow up with our children. After all, parenting is to raise yourself.
I have always thought that an excellent child must be a child who has seen the world, and there must be a pair of knowledgeable parents standing behind him.
Knowledgeable parents are not equal to rich parents. For example, buying a picture book for children costs little, but it will let children learn a lot. 3-6 years old is a sensitive period for children to read. Good training during this period will help children form lifelong reading habits!
Xiao Yi bought such a picture book "Mood Management and Personality Cultivation of Ducklings" when he was preparing to tell stories to his children. I didn't expect her daughter and son to put it down, so I recommend it to everyone.
Like everyone else, I have been worried about my children's inferiority, cowardice or temper. These problems and shortcomings are encountered in the process of children's growth. The most important thing is to see how parents handle it.
We were children at that time, and we didn't like our parents' abusive language towards us, so a large part of the reason why I chose this picture book was that the theme in it was very close to life, and the protagonist's approach was that we wanted to tell the children what to do.
Divided into 10 themes, I will take responsibility, not lose my temper casually, express myself, share with others, believe in myself, be polite, be independent, learn to respect others, keep my word and have self-control.
Colorful pictures and easy-to-understand stories let children experience and understand all kinds of beautiful things.
Parents set up an idea for their children, that is, when their children are young, parents set an example for their children with their own attitudes and behaviors. These are all psychological upbringing.
Many parents just gave this most critical part to others. Everyone raises their children in different ways, with the aim of keeping them from problems, injuries and getting lost. However, how to educate and what to emphasize in the process of education is the responsibility of parents.
If we can't always find a reason to accompany our children, why don't we read story books with our children and talk about our experiences?
Another reason to recommend it to everyone is that the font printed in the picture book is very clear and the paper quality is very good, which is convenient for children to read healthily.
39 yuan has a complete set of 10 picture books for children with little feet ducks. On average, a book is less than 4 yuan, but it is only about breakfast, or even cheaper. This picture book that cultivates boys' character can be remembered for a lifetime. Why not parents?