Parents and grandparents of children must first reach the following consensus on parenting: First, it is clear that parents are the main responsibility of educating children. Second, family education opinions must be unified. Third, grandparents should help their children's parents establish authority in front of their children.

Grandparents can't take the place of their own children and bear all the responsibilities of their parents. It is suggested that parents of children take the lead in holding family meetings to clarify the educational purpose and children's main responsibilities to grandparents. The goal of family education must be unified. When parents are educating their children, grandparents should not feel sorry for their children and blame their parents. On the one hand, it will make parents lose prestige in their children, on the other hand, it will also make children grow up unfavorably, forming bad characters and habits such as femininity, willfulness and even lying.

When there is disagreement between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it is suggested that the father of the child come forward to coordinate and avoid confrontation between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.