At first, girlfriends often shared cute photos and anecdotes of mixed-race babies with Xiao Qi. But as the baby grew up, girl friends complained to Xiaoqi more and more about educating her children.
The reason is this: My best friend is from China, and my best friend's husband is a foreigner. They have many differences in some concepts of educating children.
These differences are all caused by the huge differences in education between the East and the West:
Best friends like to follow the eastern education methods, carefully watch every moment of children's growth, keep children in a safe and reliable environment, and establish a good sense of psychological security for children;
My best friend husband pays attention to western education methods, which is more suitable for children? Free-range? Want to cultivate children's independent and self-reliant mentality.
In fact, their education methods are feasible for children. Although they have different ideas, they all pay attention to cultivating children's excellent qualities. As long as it is a good way to educate children, whether it is oriental education or western education, it is a good education.
Under the adjustment of Xiao Qi, my best friend and her husband seriously discussed what kind of education their children should receive, and finally agreed that parents can try as long as it is good for their children.
Although there are differences between Chinese and western upbringing, good quality does not respect national boundaries.
Does East-West education exist? Three major differences? Do you prefer Chinese parenting? Still in favor of western education?
Difference 1: Strong growth education or supplementary education?
East? Supplementary formula? Education:
Oriental education pays more attention to children's all-round development and implements educational ideas? Wooden bucket education? .
Wooden bucket education? That is, the famous barrel effect, whose concept is: how much water a barrel can finally hold depends on the shortest piece of wood in the barrel.
Children should develop morally, intellectually, physically and aesthetically. If one of them is not strong, then it will become a child? Short board? As a result, there is not much water in this bucket.
Parents attach importance to their children in education? Make up for it? To cultivate children's all-round development as the goal.
The west? Grow up? Education:
Western education pays more attention to discovering the advantages or highlights of a certain aspect of children, and gives them a lot of training when they are discovered.
In the educational concept, implement? Interest is the best teacher? The theory of. Parents believe that children can gain great confidence by making some achievements in what they like.
This good effect of self-awareness can bring immeasurable benefits to children's future study or life.
Parents attach importance to their children in education? Grow up? Actively cultivate children's self-confidence.
Difference 2: Focus on immediate growth or future development?
East? Focus on the present? Education:
Oriental education pays more attention to the immediate growth of children. Most of the children's food, clothing, housing and transportation are handled by their parents.
On the issue of raising children, parents always think that children are still young, and it is not too late to learn some trivial things in life later. These ideas are also reflected in other aspects, let? The child is still young? 、? He's just a kid? It has become a hot word in the mouth of parents.
The west? Focus on the future? Education:
Western education pays more attention to children's future development. Free-range? Is a representative of one of them. For parents, children are independent individuals and will leave their parents sooner or later.
Speaking of taking care of yourself, in order to live a better life in the future, you have to study as soon as possible. These ideas are relatively open, and some children who lack parental discipline will become more open in moral direction.
Difference 3: Are you used to saving money or eating, drinking, and enjoying?
East? Savings? Education:
Oriental education is more accustomed to saving money. For China people, saving is a sense of security. When educating children, it will also guide them to learn to save.
If you want to give your child a good education or good supplies, parents will save a sum of money in advance and use it when it is useful.
The west? Have a good time? Education:
Western education is more willing to eat, drink and be merry in time on the concept of money. Most westerners have no concept of saving, and even get used to spending in advance.
Parents believe that what children need now can be bought back first if they have money; If you have no money, you can buy it and pay it back later.
There are great differences between Chinese and western education. How do parents choose? There are two main factors.
1) Children's demand factors
The purpose of education is to let children learn knowledge, morality and so on. No matter which education method is chosen, as long as it is beneficial to children, it is a good education.
For children, some children are optimistic and open, while others are reserved. Parents can educate their children according to their different personalities and let them grow up in a comfortable educational environment.
2) Parents' conditions
Education needs economic cost and cognitive cost. Parents should choose the right education for their children according to their own strength. The economic cost can be judged according to whether children's other living needs besides education will be affected.
The cognitive cost is that if parents misunderstand an educational concept, the effect will be reflected in their children, which may have the opposite effect.
How do parents choose the most suitable education method for their children? Teach you three tips
1) jump out of the misunderstanding of inertial thinking and learn to accept new educational methods.
When educating their children, parents should appropriately jump out of the usual way of education, conform to the changing status quo and make some appropriate changes in education.
Whether it is the eastern education model or the western education model, it is not necessarily impossible to integrate in this era.
2) Teach students in accordance with their aptitude and choose the education that is most suitable for children.
Parents should understand that the purpose of education is to teach children knowledge and good quality, not to explore what kind of education this is.
Parents should understand the characteristics of their children and then choose the right education for their children. Whether it is eastern education or western education, as long as it is suitable for children and teaches them in accordance with their aptitude, children can study happily, so parents should not worry so much.
3) Understand the advantages and disadvantages of Chinese and Western education, and learn to take its essence.
There are great differences in educational concepts between eastern education and western education. Parents should learn to understand the different cores of these two kinds of education and learn to distinguish their own advantages and disadvantages.
Education should not be sloppy. When these educations are to be taught to children, parents should try their best? Take the essence and discard the dross? .
What kind of education do you prefer when teaching children? What educational experience do you have? Welcome comments and exchanges.