? Xin Wei, a 4-year-old in kindergarten, has skipping practice every day, so the teacher asked each child to take a skipping rope to kindergarten. During the break, the teacher asked all the children to take skipping ropes to the playground to practice, but several children's skipping ropes were gone. The teacher took the children everywhere, but there was still no sign. After school, the teacher found that Xin Wei's schoolbag was a little bulging, so the teacher asked Xin Wei, "Xin Wei, why is your schoolbag so big?" Did it eat snacks in the afternoon? Xin Wei took out all the skipping ropes in her schoolbag. When other children saw it, they said loudly, "You are a thief! "。 Faced with the child's doubts, Xin Wei panicked and burst into tears.
So, is Xin Wei unconsciously stealing from others?
If children take other people's things home, it is not stealing. Children can't correctly distinguish their own things from others'. If they like other people's things, they will rudely want to have them, but they are afraid that others will not give them, so they will just take them.
From the psychological analysis of children, children take other people's things, mainly because of these reasons:
? Children are possessive, but they can't control this possessiveness. If they are curious and want to have something immediately, they will take it away quietly or take it away.
Children have no concept of danger and like something exciting and mysterious. This is adventure psychology. Seeing other people's things, the child's psychology will think, "I took other people's things, only myself knows, others don't know." This is so fun. " .
Some children are often neglected by their parents because of neglect. In order to attract the attention of parents, children deliberately do something out of line and try to prove themselves in this way.
? Some parents like to be greedy and cheap in their daily life. Children who have been exposed to this family environment for a long time will also become shoplifters and aggressive imitators.
Some legitimate needs of children are often unreasonably rejected by their parents, and their inner needs are not met. In the long run, children's hearts will become fragile, break through the moral bottom line, derive abnormal ideas, and even do illegal things.
Stealing usually happens in children's infancy, and most children have not realized the meanness of stealing. Therefore, parents need to pay attention to correct guidance and education in this regard.
So how should parents educate?
Of course, we should know that everything belongs, and things that don't belong to us should not be misappropriated. Parents should teach their children to understand the ownership of things, what is their own and what is others', and form a sense of ownership. You can't just take other people's things. If you really need them, you should ask the owner's permission first.
Children can also understand the concept of belonging through games. For example, playing house games, distributing toys, establishing a trading market, buying and selling toys, and getting other people's toys all require equivalent exchange.
? Parents should know right and wrong about their children. What is right can be done, and what is wrong cannot be done. If you accidentally make a mistake, you must admit it and correct it in time. Parents can instill moral thoughts into their children through some life scenes and show them some moral education programs. Guide children to make moral choices in some scenes.
? Some parents' excessive behavior will have a bad influence. When educating children in this respect, we should also pay attention to ways and means. We shouldn't just blame and blame them endlessly, and don't label children as "thieves". It will neither hurt children's self-esteem, nor stimulate children's confrontation and revenge, or produce their own disgust, thus losing self-confidence.
? When parents find that their children are stealing, they should first ask carefully to find out the reasons, and at the same time show their position, so that children can understand that they can't steal for any reason; Then take the children to admit their mistakes and return things, so that the children can develop a good habit of correcting them when they know their mistakes. Don't be ashamed to admit that they are left out because of a temporary mistake, which will lead to bad habits in the future; Finally, repeat education, explain the consequences of your actions to your children, and instill correct moral concepts.
? Children come to this world with a blank and are full of curiosity about this world. Imitation is an effective and common way for children to explore this unknown world.
Parents should first consider whether it will affect their children when they do anything and say anything. When children have bad habits, parents can look back to see if they often do this kind of behavior, correct themselves first and explain to their children that their behavior is wrong. Both sides can correct together and supervise each other. In this process, children can not only correct their bad habits, but also establish a correct view of this behavior.
Wise education can not only make children correct bad behaviors, but also establish correct moral values, maintain a good attitude and increase caring and friendly relatives.
Has your child ever taken anything from anyone else?
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