A study by a professor of developmental psychology at the University of Toronto found: "The lying rate of two-year-old children is 30%, and that of three-year-old children is 50%. It is very common and normal to lie after four years old."

I don't mean to say that it is normal for children to lie often, so I don't need to care. I just want to say that adults lie to their children, don't directly rise to the level of moral quality, but learn to guide them.

First of all, parents need to make their children realize that lying is a bad thing and the importance of avoiding lying. For example, if you tell him that lying often will make his friends distrust him and not play with him, and will make his parents think that he is a lying child and be more disciplined.

Children's thoughts are still relatively simple. When they hear this, they will correct it more or less, whether out of fear or just to listen to their parents.

Secondly, and more importantly, as parents, we need to think about why children lie and what are the reasons for lying. In my opinion, there are two main reasons why children lie: to achieve their own goals, or to be afraid of being criticized.

In order to achieve a certain goal, it is actually easy to understand. For example, in order to buy toys, my nephew will tell his grandfather that his parents asked my father to buy them for him. Because he knew that his parents wouldn't buy him toys, and if he did, grandpa wouldn't necessarily buy it for himself, so he had to lie. Although this lie seems naive to us, it is brilliant in his heart.

In this case, we should tell the child to express his ideas boldly, help him realize his ideas when necessary, and make him realize that sincerity is far more useful than lying. In addition, give appropriate criticism and ask him not to lie again in the future.

Fear of being criticized is a major factor in many children's lying. Children are still afraid of being criticized or beaten when they are young. Of course, this can make them "remember" some things for a long time. But in order to escape punishment, they will lie and try to cover up their mistakes.

In this case, we need to tell the child the importance of taking responsibility, telling him that lying is shameful, and only taking responsibility can win the respect and trust of others. For children's frankness, we should give them moderate encouragement and support, just teach them small mistakes, and don't have to scold him or hit him.

Finally, I want to say that as parents, we should also set an example. Parents are the best teachers for children. When children are young, they can imitate most, and their parents are the ones who like to imitate most. Therefore, it is necessary for us to set a good example for them.